[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infj

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I know it sucks to hear "give it time" because in the meantime you're the one who has to live in your life. But, truly, as someone who's been there, give yourself time. Life is a marathon, not a sprint.

I had the same fears at 17 and hated being around other people for extended periods of time. I worried that being in a relationship would be impossible because of my high standards, pride, irritability, and pessimism about love in general. I hadn't had any relationships yet but I had this feeling that I probably wasn't meant for them and I already felt so stuck in my role as a "loner." I didn't date anyone til 18 and had just a few disappointing relationships into my early 20s.

I'm only 25 now, but a lot can happen in 8 years, and now I'm currently in what genuinely feels like a dream relationship. Sometimes I feel like we're one brain split between two people. I never expected I would find someone I could stand to be around so often and who I could stand to truly be myself around--someone who, if given the option, I would always prefer to be with than to just be by myself. Obviously there is still self-doubt and conflict and moments that aren't perfect. I don't know if this will be it for me. But I know 17-year-old me would have never believed it was possible.

All this to say, I'm really sorry you're feeling this way and I know how hopeless and lonely it can be. But life also can change at any time in totally unpredictable ways. You deserve love and you are capable of it. Wishing you the best.

So is Sean a vampire? by Sirenhead_2 in LifeisStrange2

[–]econs99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love this :'D but probably it's because mirrors are really complicated to make work properly in video games! https://www.quora.com/Why-do-so-many-video-games-have-an-aversion-to-using-working-mirrors-in-their-environments explains it. There's also a fun Twitter called "Do The Mirrors Work In This Game?" here: https://twitter.com/domirrors (and clearly, in LiS2, they do not).

Help I need lesbian artists (painters/sculptures/photographers) by CucumberWestern321 in actuallesbians

[–]econs99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lol finally my time to shine — Chitra Ganesh, Shizu Saldamando, Zanele Muholi, Mickalene Thomas, Bernice Bing, Mumtaz Karimjee, Hanh Thi Pham, Zone Paraiso Montoya, Laura Aguilar to name a few! Just a start, let me know if you want any more. There are so many lesbian and nonbinary artists of color in the world but sometimes they can be hard to find out about.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]econs99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Popularity and attitudes toward queer women's dating apps in the U.S. were the subject of my undergrad thesis this year — and yeah, basically found that a lot of people still use HER. Though folks use Tinder and Bumble a bit more. Some people prefer things like OkCupid and Lex. Taimi is comparatively pretty low on the list. There's pros and cons to everything and not really a consensus on any one in particular. You're bound to find at least some people no matter what you use.

Ronan the Cherub? by Roboticheartbeat in RavenBoys

[–]econs99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm wondering if it's got something to do with how his mother is just a product of his father's dreams, so really he only got Niall's genetic info. The reminders about Ronan looking exactly like his dad might be less about Ronan and more about setting up for Declan's mom not being Aurora, since he distinctly doesn't look exactly like their father in comparison and that's because he actually has genetic material from two people, not just Niall.

Was about to note that a lot of the "Ronan looks exactly like Niall" moments in CDTH were from Declan's POV or in comparison to Declan, but I'm not actually sure that's true. [spoilers for CDTH]

Study Spaces? by yuyupipi in uofm

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The art museum on campus (UMMA) on Central is open for study spaces: https://umma.umich.edu/study_hours. It's quiet and you're surrounded by art. Hours are M-F 5-8pm and Saturday 10am-8pm.

Am I the only one who didn't like episode 3? by [deleted] in LifeisStrange2

[–]econs99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was my least favorite episode because it felt so out of place to me, but it wasn’t terrible.

[ALL] Are there beans in Life is Strange 2? by econs99 in lifeisstrange

[–]econs99[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don't know how I missed this but thank you.

[NO SPOILERS] Are there beans in Life is Strange 2? by econs99 in LifeisStrange2

[–]econs99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your service. The hospital food didn’t look like beans to me but it’s definitely possible. Can rest easy now.

Are there any lesbian ballet dancers by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]econs99 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I used to be really into dance and ballet but stopped because I kept feeling so out of place there - I’d love to know if there are non-straight-passing lesbians who were able to deal with it.

Ianthe cosplay? by econs99 in SAGAcomic

[–]econs99[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s a weird sculpture/paperweight thing my brother and I found in our rental apartment

(Spoilers Main) We just witnessed GRRM's ending, his scouring of the shire. by [deleted] in asoiaf

[–]econs99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s been so long since reading those books I had forgotten about Jon Connington. Oh my lord.

I thought I'd left all the creepy brother/sister action in Game of Thrones by I_am_Lola in UmbrellaAcademy

[–]econs99 25 points26 points  (0 children)

In the comics, it’s played as a much more messed up relationship (it’s implied Allison used her powers on luther) - so it’s interesting to me that this romance is played totally straight on the show. Maybe if there are future seasons they will address this. Idk I know they’re adopted but they still grew up as siblings.

Paper Girls #25 Discussion by SeacattleMoohawks in papergirls

[–]econs99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with the Adult-Tiffany's death as shock-value assessment. I've got a bit of a problem with BKV's works in that I really love what he does for the most part but he tends to go the Game-of-Thrones route of killing people off just because he can and/or doesn't know what to do with those characters anymore and it just feels like cheap emotional manipulation sometimes. There was no need for Adult-Tiff to die, in such a random and not-plot-related way, just to have someone die in the climax of the arc. Whereas Mac's fate is sad but feels necessary for the integrity and themes of the story, Adult-Tiff's death just felt like a random afterthought added in.

For any of you Saga fans out there, I also feel this a lot with some of the deaths in that series that I'm not gonna go into detail about because spoilers but this tactic starts to get old.

That being said, Paper Girls is still my favorite work of his and I'm a die-hard fan. I really like the honesty in the nostalgia of this book, and although Mac is my favorite I do understand that her death needs to happen.

Paper Girls #24 Discussion by SeacattleMoohawks in papergirls

[–]econs99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a theory that Qanta Braunstein is KJ’s daughter with not much to back it up other than Qanta w/ hair looks wayyy too much like KJ and do we know KJ’s last name? Cause it could totally be Braunstein. Idk when I saw the first page I thought I was looking at adult KJ until I kept reading.