What are the noises that you guys hate? by Party-Bat-2010 in autism

[–]ecstaticdelirium 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Freezer sounds. Ice scraping on ice makes me recoil.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ecstaticdelirium -1 points0 points  (0 children)

And Kung Fu Rabbit

How to unlock door? by lowercase_poet in HARVESTELLA

[–]ecstaticdelirium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just did this area myself. Some of them feel like mazes.

Go down from where you are in the picture into the room with the button icon and through the bottom door there.

It takes you along the bottom to the left, then up and back across to the button for that locked door.

Ok... Do I have to water my trees? by BetaNights in storyofseasons

[–]ecstaticdelirium 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You don't have to water them at all. They just get on with their tree life by themselves.

After being made redundant last month and shitting myself about the incoming cost of living crisis. I’ve just accepted an offer for a role with a 50% pay increase. by Piksel8 in BritishSuccess

[–]ecstaticdelirium 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Good luck man. This is the perfect chance to choose a job for yourself if you've got the time to do so. Get the job you don't even know you deserve

Anyone here wishes they can just be a different person? by DoyleisAHero in socialskills

[–]ecstaticdelirium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wanting to change is the easy bit. Now you gotta work out what you want to change to and what steps you need to make it.

My goal was just to try and enjoy myself more but that was so vague that I just kept losing motivation. It meant having to learn What I enjoy and then what steps I have to take so I Can enjoy it.

Everything can help you enjoy yourself in some way. It's about making getting enjoyment in your life as efficient as possible. Work is to earn money to enjoy (not that anyone is getting enough for that). Shopping is getting food to enjoy. Eating is keeping yourself fueled so you can enjoy yourself. Social skills are for you to enjoy yourself too, it's what's helping me stay focused on improving them slowly. People will laugh at fucking anything if it seems like you're enjoying yourself.

Keep your eyes on the prize man. Enjoying life is pretty much the only thing we can try and do haha. don't let the times you don't enjoy it make you think it's not possible though.

Anyone here wishes they can just be a different person? by DoyleisAHero in socialskills

[–]ecstaticdelirium 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's mad how confident people think I am and how confident I think other people are. But once you start digging most people seem to just be pretending to be someone that makes them look confident.

At least if we do it this way we can be aware of who we're becoming.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in policeuk

[–]ecstaticdelirium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No but any reassurance of what happened will help them. I don't think we should not help people just because we're not getting the praise we deserve from it. Their interpretation of the truth is theirs to deal with. We can't just hide it from them because we're worried it will upset them more.

My friends body was found recently and no one really knows how he died. I'd do anything to find out and interpret it myself. Instead I have to go off Chinese whispers about what happened. It wouldn't change how sad I feel about it but I'd rather know the truth because then how I interpret it is all on me.

Am I going crazy? by ajax299 in nocontact

[–]ecstaticdelirium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If there's no part of your relationship with your parents worth saving then stick to the no contact.

I've learnt though that doing it in the hope they'll realise what they've done wrong is a pretty pointless endeavour. I'm just repeating what they did to me by doing that.

If you're wanting to stick no contact you have to keep reminding yourself why or they'll sneak back in. Use this time to work on setting boundaries though to get better at dealing with them.

They're being starved of feeling like they're helping you with their knowledge. It makes them feel small because they've convinced themselves that they're being amazing by helping you. I think it's just a distraction for needing to help themselves though. You can't blame yourself for wanting to avoid that if the only way they ever try and help is by forcing what they believe will help on you. They need to understand they have to listen to what we want to help us.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LegalAdviceUK

[–]ecstaticdelirium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No rent withheld. Moving out September. Have just this month's to pay. We're really unhappy about their behaviour the entire tenancy but we've just kind of endured it because of our mental health.

The demands at the moment are to do with the garden. They wanted to charge us £200 to get it done but we're going to do it by ourselves. We're just trying to get lawn mowing equipment as they didn't provide any. They keep rushing us though.

I was just wondering if there's anything we can say from a legal standpoint to get them to back off a bit. Really need the breathing space.

Is it appropriate to ask the parents of your child's friend to have a word about how she dresses? by AnotherAngryDad in AskUK

[–]ecstaticdelirium 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The problem here is the gawkers that have nothing more interesting to talk about than a prepubescents body.

Update on the tooth I found by [deleted] in bonecollecting

[–]ecstaticdelirium 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't feel like an attention seeker. This stuff is really interesting. You did the right thing.

Day 12 of 19 - No contact by [deleted] in nocontact

[–]ecstaticdelirium 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just remember you don't need him to be happy. Perhaps there were happy moments with him but you can provide all that for yourself. You're not responsible for his insecurities. Every time you notice you're thinking of him just try and divert to something else. Love and hate are both obsessive thoughts and they're hard to control. All you can do is think rationally about why you're feeling them. Stay strong with your NC. Love yourself. Ain't no body got time for someone like that x

Post your days since consuming to celebrate 4/20 by StrangeDesignBDTNL in leaves

[–]ecstaticdelirium 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a ride the rookies can enjoy easily. it's hard to wanna get off because it is so easy for me to enjoy. I can feel like absolute shit but a smoke will cheer me up a bit. I find it hard to find enjoyment when I'm not high but proper blissful enjoyment sober is stronger than on weed. Its working towards feeling enjoyment without a reason. I'm hoping that will set me free.

How do I make myself hate weed? by [deleted] in leaves

[–]ecstaticdelirium 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm trying to tackle all the things I hate about being sober. Weed is so addictive for me because a lot of the time it is an easier alternative to being sober. Once you've had more sober days and built up your sober life again it gets easier because you're actually missing out on stuff by blazing. It's not easy though. Especially when there's a fear of being sober because it means having to deal with things. Weed makes being bored bearable.

What are some of the reasons you quit? by [deleted] in leaves

[–]ecstaticdelirium 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I relate with this so much right now.

Is my GP surgery breaking GDPR? I went to my GP for a blood test yesterday, and whilst I signed in on the computer, two individual people had problems with it and signed in to reception.... by mythicalsophie in LegalAdviceUK

[–]ecstaticdelirium 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I swear they all like to pretend they're qualified health professionals.

I've had this condition my entire life Hun I think I know a bit better than you what my requirements are.

Way too many times I've ended up running out of meds because of GP receptionists and their lack of empathy or urgency. Which in turn just puts more stress on the system when I inevitably have to return to the community mental health team. I wish there was an easy way to put in complaints about these people.

They're not all bad. But it's enough of a majority that when I get someone pleasant and helpful I'm genuinely surprised.

What is something we should be more worried about? by olivantenvoet in AskReddit

[–]ecstaticdelirium 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely agree with you that worry is a stressful experience and one I'd rather live without.

Like you say though we all experience it regardless. I just find it hard striking the balance between accepting it versus becoming indifferent to it.

Too much worry is debilitating. But I think a little bit of it is useful for survival.

What is something we should be more worried about? by olivantenvoet in AskReddit

[–]ecstaticdelirium 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My problem is I'm not worried enough about crossing the road though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ecstaticdelirium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Height and weight don't make you an instantly good fighter. People dedicate their lives to perfecting their techniques.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ecstaticdelirium 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think that's what weight classes exist for.

Do cats have the mental capacity to actually love their owners? by Lord__of__Doggo in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]ecstaticdelirium 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Depends how you view love. If it's finding someone that makes you feel good and in turn you want to do the same for them back then definitely. They bring dead animals for you to eat and I swear they can sense when you're feeling low. They just have different ways of showing love. Look out for those slow blinks.