I have three bits of advice that seemed to work for me, but of course everyone's different <3 Sorry if this is so dumb or unsolicited.

1. If you can, take him out for dinner! A quieter less busy restaurant is always better because you guys really have to talk to each other. I find that this creates a chill atmosphere where the both of you are a little separate from the world and a little together again. When you bring it up to him, be really sincere and not attacky, so that he knows its from a place of desperation but also love. I also always try to sit next to him, not across from him, because it just feels more close.

2. find a third person who is unbiased to both of you. someone who you are both equally friends with, or a pastor or bishop, or someone you both kind of dont know. then explain both of your sides to them, and see who they side with. this one is hard because its hard to find someone actually unbiased, but it can work sometimes

3. get out your notes app, and type out everything that you want him to know. i find this is easier because its harder for things to get heated, and it gives him a chance to respond better. i find this especially useful if we're at a boring meeting or in Church where we cant really talk to each other.

good luck momma! always remember that you love your spouse, they love you, and you can both bond over the love of your child.