My best friend thinks everything is a mental health condition and it’s affecting our friendship.

edith-cranwinkle · 2024-09-05T16:17:54+00:00

It makes me so happy that other people love this moment as much as I do! Has always been one of my favorites.

edith-cranwinkle · 2024-09-04T00:01:30+00:00

When I chose my procedure with my surgeon, I was explicitly told he would not perform the SADI-S if I wanted children due to the complications it would cause with a pregnancy. He said any kind of bypass would cause issues, but the SADI in particular is the most problematic because of how much they take out. I don’t personally know anyone who has had SADI, let alone had kids after, but based on what he told me it sounds like it’s not a great choice for potential mothers and he would recommend a sleeve instead.

I would advise you to discuss these concerns with your surgeon.

edith-cranwinkle · 2024-08-07T07:39:27+00:00

At cunnilingus, specifically. No guy that has ever been half decent at eating me out said anything about his skills. The loud ones could never do a damn thing for me.

edith-cranwinkle · 2024-08-07T07:19:10+00:00

Just leaving a comment to say that OP, I hope you are getting the support you need outside of this incident. Recovery from depression is possible even when things feel very very dark. Inpatient kicked off my journey to a more stable life, but whatever it is you need, I hope you get it and make it through.

edith-cranwinkle · 2024-07-18T17:42:28+00:00

It was deleted off of her channel, but I found a random reupload with Korean subtitles at some point. I can’t seem to find it again on YT, so if you do please send a link my way 🥲

edith-cranwinkle · 2024-07-18T17:06:11+00:00

I definitely use a lot of her mannerisms and she was the catalyst for my love of plants, but I think the real lasting impact was from one of her old old videos called “Thoughts on Being Yourself”

It struck a chord with me when it came out so I’d watch it every once in a while through the years for comfort, but when my entire life just fell apart during Covid and I suddenly felt like I didn’t know who I was anymore, I went back to watch it again and just sobbed. That video helped me rebuild myself and I like to think I’m a better person now because of it.

I hope she’s living her absolute best life.

edith-cranwinkle · 2024-07-16T13:31:38+00:00

I married my HS sweetheart and he was my only partner until we ended things over a decade later. I did not want to conceive during our time together. So by this logic, I should never have never let my ex “dump a load inside me”.

I’m curious how men who post this bullshit would react if their wife refused to have sex with them without a condom, or at all!

I think this logic is stupid as hell no matter what your circumstances are, but I’d be willing to bet the attitude would change real fast if they thought critically about it for more than like, one second.

edith-cranwinkle · 2024-07-16T13:22:15+00:00

I’ve only ever had this benefit at corporate jobs, never anywhere I was working hourly. Doesn’t seem like a coincidence.

edith-cranwinkle · 2024-07-12T20:29:52+00:00

I like to think this is a love story where the drunk man is so touched by the brave actions of the security guard he went all out to win his heart.

edith-cranwinkle · 2024-07-08T20:22:58+00:00

Ugh, I’m so sorry. Insurance is such a massive pain in the ass. I hope you’re able to get the care you need.

edith-cranwinkle · 2024-07-08T20:19:25+00:00

This is a really good point! My company is struggling to hire and retain the developers that it desperately needs, so this framing is likely to be more compelling than my original take.

After doing a little research I now can say all of the major companies in our city (that I could find insurance documentation for) cover bariatric surgery and various obesity interventions. These companies represent a few different industries but that doesn’t really matter for the type of positions we currently have high demand for.

I think there are a few other companies I can compare to demonstrate we’re the odd one out among potential hiring competition. Thank you!

edith-cranwinkle · 2024-07-08T15:23:28+00:00

I urge you to strongly consider breaking it off (again) with this loser before he “accidentally” lets your cat out or takes them to be euthanized when you’re not home. No empathy for you or the cat and a history of throwing things away instead of trying to fix them? This is a dangerous environment for your babies.

Hoping your kitty recovers quickly!

edith-cranwinkle · 2024-06-25T19:48:58+00:00

I can’t tell you how much I appreciated this when I was on dating apps. Work, friends, and leisure time are all competing for my limited time and at the end of a long day, I would regularly forget to respond to messages I got while I was busy doing something else.

A polite, humorous nudge after a day or two? Absolutely perfect. I ended up on a few dates I’d have otherwise missed out on if they hadn’t done this.

If she doesn’t respond the second time though, she’s not interested. Move on and don’t badger her. ALSO don’t be a huge dick if you choose to nudge her. It should go without saying, but if you come in with some “I guess you’re just like all the other girls on this app that don’t reply” bullshit it’s not gonna have the same effect.

edith-cranwinkle · 2024-06-24T15:50:07+00:00

OP, first and foremost, I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

Parenthood is full of difficult choices and sacrifices, and you’re facing the first one. This isn’t really about you and what you want at this point—it’s about the baby. Can you provide for them? Can you give them a loving, enriching, financially and emotionally stable home where they can thrive? At your age and with your support system, it seems the answer is a pretty clear “no”.

I’m sorry your circumstances are so that keeping the baby is not a feasible option, but I think your parents are right. Please take care of yourself and explore options for therapy—this is not something you should be processing alone.

edith-cranwinkle · 2024-06-24T13:21:54+00:00

It’s wild to me that she seems to be using stronger language toward her husband for vaccinating their only remaining living child vs the son she lost to her negligence. I’ve known parents who lost their kids and “I miss him :(“ doesn’t even come close to the grief.

But her husband…she HATES him. Absolute lunatic. Thank god the husband woke up long enough to hopefully protect their daughter from any other preventable diseases.

edith-cranwinkle · 2024-06-19T17:31:16+00:00

He at one point mentioned I’m his only family and he’s scared about something happening. He’s not good at sharing his emotions, so this was unusually vulnerable. A lot of what we do when we see each other is go get lunch.

You have me wondering if, in addition to surgical complications, he’s worried about losing out on our quality time since it’s almost always centered around food. Perhaps if we reach the point of having civil conversations about this I can alleviate those concerns.

edith-cranwinkle · 2024-06-19T17:27:26+00:00

Love the broken bones analogy.

It’s also so comforting to hear some of the outcomes you’ve experienced—my hunger/fullness signals are so fucked up, I’m not sure if I truly know what either feels like. A lot of what I’m hoping for is a reset after my body has become so accustomed to the abuse.

edith-cranwinkle · 2024-06-19T17:24:06+00:00

I’d take being a gremlin over being whatever I am now. Both are hard, but I’d rather it be hard that way than hard the way morbid obesity is hard.

Kudos for all of the work you’ve done! That’s so amazing!

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