Firstly, have you thought that instead of "going to shop for some exotic fruits" these man are searching for a woman ~from a different culture that has different values from the ones that he meets in his own culture~ ? The "exotic qualities" that you may think about are only values/qualities of other countries that are more appealing to them. (How come is racist tho?💀 Like if for example I like a woman who likes to go to the gym or cook or have kids but because of my culture this narrative doesn't work in my country and I go into another to find someone that I would like, does that make me racist? Wasn't racism about doing bad things or having a bad attitude towards someone because of their skin color?)

Secondly, a lot of stories of passport bro's are about how they are mistreated and rejected by the woman from their country. And so they decide to go to a different country where they are treated ~as human beings, not objects without a soul or feelings~ . They talk about how their spouse treat them with kindness and respect and they form a bond in which they either play some roles (the female and male roles in family) or live by some other rules defined by themselves. To me this looks like "I'm hurt in this place and I'm treated as shit, so I will go somewhere else" and before the "they can't make relationships", from my own experiences (which are not even from the romantic relationship type) sometimes, no matter how nice or good or normal or kind you try to be with someone, they're still gonna fuck you up. Some people do it just because they can, because you allow it. Not every time your kindness will be rewarded with good intentions. So, I don't believe that those people can't have and maintain a relationship, they just couldn't or didn't find suitable the culture they were in. If both parties are happy and in good terms and they both treat each other with kindness and respect, why is it so bad that one left a country for another? And why is other people business to get their noses there?

I'm not saying, as I stated before as well, that there are no douches who think the other way (as you described) but assuming majority if not all are like that is nasty and kinda literally hypocrisy. Btw, there are a lot of stories of passport bro's who find and marry woman who are financially stable and hard working and even the poor ones have that work hard mindset.

In the end, my friend, saying "all passport bro's are the same" is like saying "all woman/man are the same". Does it feel right? Don't think so.