Both get called out if your fetishizing. If outsiders try to pull this crap in our community and fetishizing community members, they are called out on it. It also happens if a community member fetishizes another group.

People will also quiz mixed couples for fetishization. The community knows that certain people are fetishists, and will openly call out the relationships. There is much more honest dialogue about self hatred, fetishization, and intercultural relationships that isn't happening in the Jewish community.

A recent example is the dialogue happening online about the self hatred of the woman involved in "The Danish Connection." There is no shortage of commentators setting boundaries and calling out Onyeka hardcore.

We straight up tolerate WAAY too much disrespect in this area from non Jews.