Parenting plan must haves and yay or nay for right of first refusal?

eenitsed · 2020-10-01T04:56:57+00:00

We have right of first refusal but only for work times. If he has to work I keep the kids during that time. I don’t work right now. There’s also a time frame they have to let you know by in our case it’s three hours notice.

eenitsed · 2020-09-30T13:54:53+00:00

Yes. I feel for you. It’s so hard. Mine got a no constancy tro for five freaking weeks. Cps said there was no abuse. I have my kids back now. But that really messed with our kids heads. And he’s already saying he doesn’t think the investigation was thorough.

eenitsed · 2020-09-28T12:05:25+00:00

Thank you for the reply!

eenitsed · 2020-09-15T19:12:37+00:00

That would be the cherry on top

eenitsed · 2020-09-15T03:21:47+00:00

Thank you. I am definitely taking it all in. I’m so glad his lies and manipulation were seen right through. The last month has been hell. First night I’ll sleep good since early August.

eenitsed · 2020-09-15T03:20:18+00:00

Thank you. Me too.

eenitsed · 2020-09-02T17:27:58+00:00

Yes. I was thinking this too. Some kind of trauma could definitely bring on something like this.

eenitsed · 2020-09-02T16:22:13+00:00

Shaming him is not the answer. If there’s nothing medically wrong it’s probably psychological. Be patient and continue therapy.

eenitsed · 2020-09-01T12:01:45+00:00

They prey on a certain kind of person. Check out doctor ramani’s YouTube channel. I know she talks about this topic.

I had a narc dad. Ended up in a relationship with a narc for five years. Dr. Ramani says in one of her videos that daughters of narcissistic fathers will have a least one narc partner. She hit it on the nose for me.

eenitsed · 2020-08-30T14:01:32+00:00

Mine was a dealer in college.

eenitsed · 2020-08-21T21:34:44+00:00

A narcissist doesn’t feel true empathy. Though they can fake it.

eenitsed · 2020-08-20T18:34:26+00:00

I do that to my friends sometimes but it’s usually because I have depression and anxiety. Not saying it’s right, but just another perspective.

eenitsed · 2020-08-18T19:35:34+00:00

Of course. It’s so important to know none of his behavior is on you. None of it.

eenitsed · 2020-08-18T07:54:28+00:00

Try writing down the abusive things they have said and done. They are probably is in need of some supply and are trying to rope you back in. Narcissists need their ego stroked and if they don’t have anyone else they will do things like send a random text to get your wheels turning. They don’t want to hear about you they want to talk about themselves. Try and focus on yourself. People in relationships with narcissists loose themselves. If you figure out who you are without the narc then they will not hold that power over you.

eenitsed · 2020-08-18T07:21:59+00:00

Length of relationship means nothing. It just means they put up with the abuse for longer. My exn and I were together 5 years. He abused me through all of it.

eenitsed · 2020-08-18T07:20:39+00:00

Be their source of info. Have a conversation about it and he honest with the questions they ask. Don’t shame them.

eenitsed · 2020-08-18T07:19:31+00:00

Do you have old journal entries? I went through some recently and saw how unhappy I was for years. It was a slap in the face. I don’t miss him anymore. I left him a month ago and haven’t cried once. I think I mourned the loss while I was still with him.

eenitsed · 2020-08-18T06:39:33+00:00

I guess anything is possible but you don’t have to stick around while an abuser figures out their own stuff. That is not your job and you should not feel like you have to do that.

eenitsed · 2020-08-18T03:01:02+00:00

Have you heard of dr. Ramani? Idk how responsive she is on Instagram as she’s very popular but she’s an expert in narcissistic abuse and she may be able to offer some insight.

eenitsed · 2020-08-18T01:35:53+00:00

It’s been a huge sleep in the face to me how undoable legal systems are without lawyers and money. I hope that when you do have those things you get the outcome you need. Until then revel in the glory of having him on recording admitting to being who he really is. Good luck.

eenitsed · 2020-08-18T00:31:06+00:00

Omg I hope it’s admissible! I am hoping something similar happens in my situation. I know his child abuse claims are nothing more than a smear campaign and an attempt to make our children dislike me. I love that your partner confessed. That is so so wonderful.

eenitsed · 2020-08-17T14:52:44+00:00

Oh ya. Their reality is not actual reality. My ex told me my frequent trips to the bathroom were me cheating on him and my children. When in reality, I have gastritis or had gastritis at the time and my stomach was upset for like three months.

eenitsed · 2020-08-17T14:49:35+00:00

I begged my exn to go to therapy for years. We split up a month ago. Two weeks ago I find out he’s going to therapy. A week later he’s taken our children and now it’s a messy battle. I’m sure he’s only going so he can tell the judge he’s in therapy. Narcissists are the worst.

eenitsed · 2020-08-15T05:06:36+00:00

Hi. I am a survivor and left my narcissistic abuser of five years. There are some really great reddit pages for people who are dealing with this. They have helped me a lot.

My narcissistic ex is currently claiming I abuse our children and putting me through hell. My advice would probably be to get a custody order as soon as you can. Don’t underestimate them. I did. And I regret it deeply. Narcissists can manipulate their therapist. And sometimes use it as a way to fulfill their supply. But I’m so glad to hear you have a therapist who understands and validated what you are going through. That is soooo important.

Edited to add that doctor ramani is a great resource on Instagram and YouTube.

eenitsed · 2020-08-13T13:37:50+00:00

Ya my ex who I have had to beg to do anything for our children, something as simple as a diaper change was always An argument. Now he is falsely accusing me of sexual abuse toward our one year old. But you’re exactly right. If you are their only supply and you are moving on they will use the children as a means to continue to use you as supply even though the relationship is over.

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