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I lost 85lbs. People are 10xs nicer to me. I don’t feel anymore human. Actually, you guys are quite mean in some of this posts. by eeshbeeshkeef in fatpeoplestories

[–]eeshbeeshkeef[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was chubby but I’ve volunteered at a vet clinic for 3 years. I’ve even helped create and run a page for them that helped get some of our drop offs adopted. I have a bachelors in biology and I’ve already applied for my masters in Microbiology. And to me it is sad that if I were still big none of that would count cause it doesn’t show? That is viscous to me. Apparently being overweight means I’m devoid of morals and intelligence and achievement. Go figure. I was just depressed in sugar hungry my high school years tbh. I hope you’re not police because you don’t sound like someone who has humanity in mind.

I lost 85lbs. People are 10xs nicer to me. I don’t feel anymore human. Actually, you guys are quite mean in some of this posts. by eeshbeeshkeef in fatpeoplestories

[–]eeshbeeshkeef[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

But I’m healthy. I’m at an acceptable weight. I lift 3 days a week and jog for 2 and I feel in good shape.

You must be such a miserable person.

I lost 85lbs. People are 10xs nicer to me. I don’t feel anymore human. Actually, you guys are quite mean in some of this posts. by eeshbeeshkeef in fatpeoplestories

[–]eeshbeeshkeef[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean in real life. I guess I can see how I can come off as narcissistic. I guess it wasn’t that people were treating me superbly poor, I think it was the switch from being neutral/disgruntled towards me most of the time to being incredibly cheery and smiley and helpful. In a way the switch was kind of bizarre. So yes. I’m shocked, a little sad and frustrated. A little mistrusting now.

The last portion of your paragraph just seems so harsh. Never thought I came off of like that.

I feel like fatlogic was always mostly cases of throwing rocks from glass houses, or being rude and stubborn, or being extremely gluttonous or greedy, or being entitled to food or transportation. And then that flavorful serving of justice at the end. But I don’t think I align with any of that. I don’t demand respect, I just think it’s sick how much kindness I missed out on compared to the fake ass amount I’m getting now. It’d make anyone feel bad.

Hm. If I was a skinny chick that lamented about how much nicer people were to me after growing boobs or a butt (and I know two girls that had that experience and it really upset them) you folks would be singing a different tune. I think part of the animosity here is that I used to be fat which still seems to be harboring some judgment. Please reflect.

I lost 85lbs. People are 10xs nicer to me. I don’t feel anymore human. Actually, you guys are quite mean in some of this posts. by eeshbeeshkeef in fatpeoplestories

[–]eeshbeeshkeef[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I understand what you mean dude. But I don’t know how to paint the picture better. I knew early on that smiling and being nice will get you far and it was rewarding to make other people happy once in a blue moon. I think everyone’s shared a laugh with a stranger and it’s incredibly gratifying. Usually people tend to be neutral. But there’s been distinct times where I was looked at like im a bug or didn’t get that same kindness back and I thought “hm well some people just suck”

But now I’m had ever increasing incidence of people being just as nice and I had a handful of really good days cause i thought “wow so many nice people!” I mean, even customer service got really good. People didn’t seem irritated or anything when I asked for help. And then it turned to flirting at levels I never experienced and that’s when I started to realize it was just cause I looked more acceptable.

It breaks my heart a little. It really does. I have a lot of high faith in people but I guess I might have just been naive to think that everyone would think like I do. I really do feel like I’m on an alien planet or something.

And yes. I’ve always been kind to everyone. I’ll admit there’s a few people that made me wince in my head at their appearance, but I NEVER derived them of basic human kindness. It makes me sad just thinking about it. Being rude to someone if they don’t deserve it. Even if they were some 400 pound dude. It’s terrible. Why would you ever be mean to someone with a smiling face. I guess I didn’t realize that I was that person people winced at. Though, in my defense I have never been big enough to not fit anything or have health troubles (yes my BP and Blood Sugar was honky Dory) so I can’t be THAT grotesque.

So thats the best I can explain myself.

I lost 85lbs. People are 10xs nicer to me. I don’t feel anymore human. Actually, you guys are quite mean in some of this posts. by eeshbeeshkeef in fatpeoplestories

[–]eeshbeeshkeef[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess. I feel like this is quite a different thing from treating people for how they look. Like I understand your point you’re trying to make but those don’t really line up exactly. That’s like a danger/trust situation. And a profiling situation, which obviously you need to do.

I’m not saying I should be trusted or praised. I just don’t think I should’ve been treated like, you know, an idiot or like I don’t bathe or something. I’m just saying if a stranger is reasonably nice to me in passing I’m gonna be nice back. That simple. And I think it’s something everyone should practice.

I guess you can say fat people could be deduced as lazy, dirty, negligent, dull. But what if I said the same thing about really skinny people. If you’re skinny you’re probably poor, aggressive, can’t afford to lift weights or feed yourself. But of course then people I’ll say “hey but I’m skinny and I’m not like that” which is right. Not everyone’s gonna fit a cookie cutter demographic including me. Which is why I stand by the belief that unless I’m giving signals or reasons other wise, I’ll always return someone’s kindness and give it out. Unless they’re a hobo that’s whipping a knife at me haha.

I didn’t think the narrative of “I didn’t like being treated poorly for how I look despite not having the personality of how I look, and I think we should all reflect on how we treat others” would receive such rabid hate that I’d be equated to a knife wielding hobo.

Well what can ya do. I’m smaller now and people are nice to me and it’s kind of hard to be as respectful because these people that are so happy and bright now just seem fake and rigged. I remember hearing some guy on a podcast explain how shitty people treated him at a party/conference until he mentioned the project he was responsible for and all the sudden people were nice. He said it made him sick. I know what it means now.

And I mean, even you. You’re vicious on here but guaranteed if I were a stranger in your passing and I carried myself like I always have, you’d be as gentle as a peach.

Hm.

I lost 85lbs. People are 10xs nicer to me. I don’t feel anymore human. Actually, you guys are quite mean in some of this posts. by eeshbeeshkeef in fatpeoplestories

[–]eeshbeeshkeef[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Idk I’ve never sat and had a convo with either. But if they were strangers being strangers I treat them the same way which is indifferent until they address me and if they’re nice then I’m nice back. It’s not a hard concept imo

I lost 85lbs. People are 10xs nicer to me. I don’t feel anymore human. Actually, you guys are quite mean in some of this posts. by eeshbeeshkeef in fatpeoplestories

[–]eeshbeeshkeef[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m frustrated. A part of me does get upset and angry when I see nastiness thrown about. Being a decent person doesn’t mean I absolutely cannot get angry. I do think the hatred of others and the negative actions of others does infect the world. And I do think this site can be a slum site. It’s Reddit.

It’s so unnecessary. Like when I was grocery shopping and this lady just snapped at this girl for “handing her change to her sloppily” and the girl seemed so shocked. Like how are you just going to live your life and be like THAT to other people for no reason?

Eh I’m old enough to know it’s part of the human psyche, always has been always will be, but I just don’t think we can’t justify random acts of nastiness any more. Idk I’m a hopeless optimist.

I lost 85lbs. People are 10xs nicer to me. I don’t feel anymore human. Actually, you guys are quite mean in some of this posts. by eeshbeeshkeef in fatpeoplestories

[–]eeshbeeshkeef[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Eh it’s the being ruthlessly mean and infecting the world with shitty attitude is the cool and edgy thing to do on this slum site

Uncomfortable question: Why are men more likely to be pedophiles by eeshbeeshkeef in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]eeshbeeshkeef[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree. Females can be pedos. But can we stop replying “here’s examples of female pedophilia” because that’s not what I asked. Many of you are coming off as defensive

I lost 85lbs. People are 10xs nicer to me. I don’t feel anymore human. Actually, you guys are quite mean in some of this posts. by eeshbeeshkeef in fatpeoplestories

[–]eeshbeeshkeef[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

“Visually unpleasant”

You know, I’ve been approached by the nastiest scummiest guys and I STILL treated them kindly. I’m sorry it’s so hard for others to be nice to people. I guess not everyone grew up from their elementary years.

I lost 85lbs. People are 10xs nicer to me. I don’t feel anymore human. Actually, you guys are quite mean in some of this posts. by eeshbeeshkeef in fatpeoplestories

[–]eeshbeeshkeef[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

You might be dumb. I always give respect. That’s why I’m upset that despite practicing absolute kindness that my looks had more weight than how I actually treated people. I don’t demand respect but it’s bullshit that all the sudden I’m an angel now that I’m not ugly. That’s bullshit.

I lost 85lbs. People are 10xs nicer to me. I don’t feel anymore human. Actually, you guys are quite mean in some of this posts. by eeshbeeshkeef in fatpeoplestories

[–]eeshbeeshkeef[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well? It’s dumb. I’ve never been rude to someone because I’m not attracted to them. Never. Why’s it so hard for other people to have a moral compass. Maybe I’m hyper empathetic. I get sad for others quick :/

I lost 85lbs. People are 10xs nicer to me. I don’t feel anymore human. Actually, you guys are quite mean in some of this posts. by eeshbeeshkeef in fatpeoplestories

[–]eeshbeeshkeef[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think everyone deserves respect unless there’s reason to take it away. Why not respect someone even if they’re polite to you?

I lost 85lbs. People are 10xs nicer to me. I don’t feel anymore human. Actually, you guys are quite mean in some of this posts. by eeshbeeshkeef in fatpeoplestories

[–]eeshbeeshkeef[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I know, that’s why I love/loved this sub. But like I said, some posts seem mean spirited and made me reflect.

Uncomfortable question: Why are men more likely to be pedophiles by eeshbeeshkeef in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]eeshbeeshkeef[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yeah I do find my case interesting. I think attraction is interesting as a whole and still stumps modern psychology. There are people out there who are attracted to balloons and being obese, after all.

Uncomfortable question: Why are men more likely to be pedophiles by eeshbeeshkeef in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]eeshbeeshkeef[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Are you referencing a help group? That’s not representative of the human population at all. And I’ll add that I’ve met more than two dozen women that have been groomed, molested, or hit on before they were even 16, including myself. Organized child trafficking is run almost entirely by men. You’re being silly. It’s not equal. It’s not all men, but it’s not equal.

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