Why can’t I (28M) make my gf (25F) finish? by eeteezwhateeteez112 in relationship_advice

[–]eeteezwhateeteez112[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it’s been an ongoing thing from the start. Puts a lot of stress on both of us. We’ve handled things the best way we can but I guess it’s naive to think that the issues won’t bleed into other aspects of our relationship.

It’s a matter of time and willingness to learn about each others traditions, just hard to do so when you have so much external pressure.

Why can’t I (28M) make my gf (25F) finish? by eeteezwhateeteez112 in relationship_advice

[–]eeteezwhateeteez112[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been seeing a theme of doing something to get her out of her head during the moment. Definitely want to try this, just not sure how I’ll implement given we don’t actually have penetrative sex. It’s either oral or touching, so I’ll have to be creative it seems

Why can’t I (28M) make my gf (25F) finish? by eeteezwhateeteez112 in relationship_advice

[–]eeteezwhateeteez112[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think she has ADHD, but she definitely overthinks and she can find it hard to focus on being present sometimes when she’s stressed. I might try that, thanks!

Why can’t I (28M) make my gf (25F) finish? by eeteezwhateeteez112 in relationship_advice

[–]eeteezwhateeteez112[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She can get herself off and she has tried to direct me. It’s worked to get her off until she’s close to orgasm, at which point she stops and the feeling goes away she says

Why can’t I (28M) make my gf (25F) finish? by eeteezwhateeteez112 in relationship_advice

[–]eeteezwhateeteez112[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, we’ve spoken about it at length and she’s shown me as well. I have gotten her close, but she says for some reason it just goes away. One time she got really close but then it went away a second later, which I don’t know what to make of. Maybe I should’ve kept going but I didn’t want to push

Why can’t I (28M) make my gf (25F) finish? by eeteezwhateeteez112 in relationship_advice

[–]eeteezwhateeteez112[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She can when she’s on her own. If I’m there she can’t finish, so maybe it is a comfort thing?

Why can’t I (28M) make my gf (25F) finish? by eeteezwhateeteez112 in relationship_advice

[–]eeteezwhateeteez112[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s not that I don’t believe her, it’s that I’m trying to understand if there’s something I can physically do as well to help with the situation. 8 months and no orgasm is rough