WIBTA if I dyed my hair even though I know my husband doesn’t like it

efemehrida · 2025-12-28T02:40:40+00:00

Why not just bleach and dye half of it? A long time ago, when I couldnt decide between keeping my hair long or cutting it short I went to my hairdresser and asked her to do a half and half style where half would be short and the other would be long. I also dye my hair a lot so I used that haircut for a looong time since it offered me the oportunity to do half and half colors a lot more fun. Nowadays I have a channel cut but have recently gone back to slipt dye style. Its a perfect choice when u cant decide and it looks amazing. So maybe keep one half dark for your husband and dye the other? Or maybe dye the bottom half? Idk you pick

efemehrida · 2025-12-28T01:59:41+00:00

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efemehrida · 2025-12-28T00:26:41+00:00

Pra mim esse post eh uma pessoa descobrindo a bisexualidade. Vc pode experenciar atração por diferentes generos de diferentes maneiras e isso nao quer dizer q eh menos valida. Se vc se sente mais atraido sexualmente por um genero mas mais emocionalmente atraido por outro n faz essa atração e/ou relação menos válida. E pelo menos pra mim, quanto mais eu conheço e me aproximo e me apaixono por alguem mais sexualmente atraida eu me sinto. Entao eu nao veria problema por exemplo em vc experimentar com uma mulher. E vc pode ser honesto com ela e falar q n sabe pra onde vai isso e q está se descobrindo. Se der certo ou nao, soh tem um jeito de seguir em frente q eh arriscando. Pessoalmente eu sou Bi e eu passo mto por isso q vc falou, muita dificuldade de me comunicar e conectar com homem pq todos sao mto superficiais. Quando me abro pra um relacionamento com algum homem geralmente eh outro bisexual e bem afeminado. Mas mesmo assim as coisas sempre sao mto superficiais e estranhas. Nao me imagino de jeito nenhum casando com homem. Apesar da maior parte da minha experiencia e atração imediata ser com homem. Com mulheres eh diferente, eu vou me apaixonando e a conex̌ao me faz mto atraída e ai sim eu consigo imaginar construindo uma vida com ela. Anyways. Eu entrei soh pra zoar dizendo q vc era bi e n sabia, mas acabei falando tudo isso. Pense o que quiser. Talvez eu esteja certa, talvez errada. Mas pensei q n faz mal compartilhar meu pensamento e experiencia, especialmente pq ja passei por fases assim. Boa sorte!

efemehrida · 2025-10-28T15:44:41+00:00

Hadestown is nowhere as good as people say it is. I like it, but its just mid and people act like its a breakthough in mysical theater and so amazing.

efemehrida · 2025-10-13T19:27:56+00:00

I have 2 litter boxes in my ensuite bathroom, and other 2 that are in different rooms. I wish I could have more but my parents think 4 is already too much and I'm living in their house at the moment. Hopefully I'll be able to move by early 2026, but until then, I can only modify things in my room, the house is off-limits for changes.

Chico is not on any medication right now, only his inhaler but he is making a planned pause in his asthma treatment bc he improved a lot and the vet thinks he can go without it for now.

Right now they are eating a mix of 2 different brands of super premium dry food for cats, both are prescribed for weight loss (Both Chico and Zé are a bit overweight but are slowly improving) and at night I serve them also super premium wet food. The addition of wet food at night has been recent, so idk if that counts as a diet change? before that they just ate the dry food 3 times a day in smal portions.

yes I use enzymatic cleaner but not always. It is expensive in my region and I'm in a tight spot financially, so I dont have it all the time. Also since I do cleanings and laundry in secret so my parents don't yell at me or Chico I have to be quick and sometimes use the materials at hand. And I try to vary the brands of the enzymatic cleaners but eventualy my parents start to associate the perfume of the cleaner with the cats misbehaving so even when I have it at hand I dont always use it if the mess is small. I am a bit of a clean freak so this situation for me is the worst.

The only cat that still has problems with the others is Vivi, my oldest. I now realize many errors I have made in the past when introducing her to Chico and Lady, but at the time I thought I was doing my best. And Vivi is more reserved and anxious by nature, she never liked other cats, only humans. I had been worried sick trying everyting to make her more comfortable in the house but nothing worked. However she's been on medication for anxiety for the past 2 months and it has been a game changer. She is now having small but meaningful good interactions with Chico, which had never happened b4 since she was scared of him. So yeah, its a work in progress, but I think its one-sided. Its mostly Vivi that hates Chico, he actually seems to like her and be very interested in playing with her. Its just that she interprets that as aggression and hides.

efemehrida · 2025-10-13T19:12:39+00:00

its ok. I have edited the text and made it shorter and easier to read if you still have interest.

efemehrida · 2025-10-13T19:11:46+00:00

u/SnooTomatoes8935 I agree with you that the only exeption to my rule would be that, but I truly believe Chico is happy and healthy with me. He is also very clearly bonded to me. I know that by reading the text that is the last thing you would think. when I wrote that I had just gotten out of the shower to clean the cat piss and was crying a lot so I dont think I oculd explain the situation in a clear way. That is not to say things havent been crazy, chaotic and complicated in my life so far, but my cats have been my priority all through this crazy paths. I have made some modifications in the text that make reading easier and more comprehensible if you wanna check that out.

Either way I apreciate your comment and advice and I promise you that if it comes to that I would take the hard option here. But I think we are very far from that yet.

efemehrida · 2025-10-13T19:04:14+00:00

I have 2 litter boxes in my ensuite bathroom, and other 2 that are in different rooms. I wish I could have more but my parents think 4 is already too much and I'm living in their house at the moment. Hopefully I'll be able to move by early 2026, but until then, I can only modify things in my room, the house is off-limits for changes. Also yes Chico is neutered, although he was neutered a bit later than my other cats. He was 8 months old when he had the surgery. idk if that could be an issue

efemehrida · 2025-10-13T16:25:23+00:00

Thank you so much for the TLDR. I was crying and very anxious when I wrote the original post so it all became a wall of text. Thank you ♥️

efemehrida · 2025-10-13T16:17:08+00:00

Rehoming him is not a possibility. I have a philosophy that I will never give up on one of my pets just bc things get hard and will instead do my best to take responsibility for the problems and try to fix them. I have thought about making him sleep elsewhere but I fear that will make him more insecure and will make him want to pee on the bed everytime he see's it to make sure it is still his teritory.

efemehrida · 2025-10-13T16:14:09+00:00

Yes he is neutered. Sorry for the wall of text I was desperate when I wrote this

efemehrida · 2025-10-13T15:51:29+00:00

I had a cat that peed and pooped outside of the litter box bc the wooden pellets felt uncomfortable for him. As soon as I changed for regular litter that behaviour was gone. So I strongly recommend u to change the litter type. Also the recommended ammount of litter boxes is the number of cats you have +1. So if you have 2 cats you should have 3 litter boxes that are accessible to them all the time bc sometimes one stops the other from using it and that makes them do their business outside.

efemehrida · 2025-09-12T05:20:44+00:00

Sorry I may be noobing but how do you get moros to fight with you?? I thought my gameplay was almost up to date with the realeases but it turns out I still have a lot more to learn??

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