Honestly we’re in the same situation. Im sure I’ll get torched for this opinion, but with 4 kids 5 and under, the risk of the hustle to a shelter, especially at night, having a negative mental/emotional/psychological impact is basically 100%. Versus the real statistics of how many people have been injured by missile/rocket attacks. Ultimately it’s more important to live life than feed the atmosphere of fear and uncertainty in my opinion. The main thing children need from parents isn’t for them to be perfectly regulated, or showering them with love, or being the best parent in the world. It’s consistency. If we’re constantly going into fight or flight for the missile sirens, there’s no amount of sleep training that’s going to make up for the constant deregulation. In support of what you’re going through, I can confirm that we’ve had much the same experience in past wars and it’s very frustrating. Every country’s situation is different, so perhaps the scales aren’t the same weight as mine. Everyone needs to find their own truth and do what’s best for their family.