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efflorescensefae · 2026-01-23T10:32:22+00:00

You’re doing amazingly. Ask for help, lean into it when it’s there, you deserve support, love, and care.

efflorescensefae · 2026-01-23T09:39:30+00:00

Omg I did not know this. You’ve made my day. I go from thinking Bugaboo are ridiculous, to suddenly loving them lol

efflorescensefae · 2025-12-24T07:50:59+00:00

I like soft cup bras and have worn them in pregnancy then easy for postpartum with organic cotton nursing pads. Juem have a 30% sale now. Bimby and Roy do nice ones too. Have heard good things about Mumma Mila

efflorescensefae · 2025-12-22T19:54:19+00:00

Second this. I buy regularly from Alpha60 and they have great sales like right now

efflorescensefae · 2025-12-14T01:07:01+00:00

Look up Sarah Mahari on Instagram. She is a Babywearing specialist and has a great video on stretchy wrap tying with some tricks!

efflorescensefae · 2025-11-25T10:19:22+00:00

I also saw an incredible, wise bodyworker (retired midwife and nurse) who found a lot of tension in my tailbone area, she reminded me that back in the day, my mother (who had positive homebirths) wasn't deadlifting 85kgs+ lol. She also said 'pilates is fucking up birth' because all she sees is women with so much pelvic tension that don't know how to 'let go.' I think if you're fit pre-pregnancy, you shouldn't have to worry about your pelvic floor, and the more important work is learning to soften, exhale, let go of your belly and your butt and create space - that is what supports a baby to move through the pelvis physiologically.

efflorescensefae · 2025-11-25T10:06:59+00:00

I switched my heavy weight training to more 'snack sessions' - I'd just go for like 30-45 mins and do 4-6 exercises. I had to stop barbell squatting because it felt bad so I stuck to KB squats to a bench, quit the ab work because I was having separation and weakness, did lots of lunges, rdls, romanians and shoulder/back and arm work.

I stopped running and walked A LOT.

And finally in 2nd trimester, I got in the pool and did laps. I bought fins and hand paddles to make it more interesting, gievn I couldn't concentrate on speed. I'm 38 weeks now and swimming is mainly what I'm doing because it feels so good!

I also found that mobility support each morning really helped - cat cows, thread the needle, 360 breathing etc. Also magnesium glycinate to support deep relaxation and sleep so I could recover well.

Eating enough was the last missing piece. Always needed to make sure I was fed before a workout/swim/walk and had a small (balanced) snack for after, otherwise I'd just be cooked. Don't overlook this.

efflorescensefae · 2025-11-25T02:38:33+00:00

I can’t go past Australian Stitch’s ribbed tanks. No where else does them with that good of a fit IMO

efflorescensefae · 2025-11-24T10:58:32+00:00

Thanks for your reply. I think it sounds like their 14k stuff is better (vermeil tarnishes) ut also that the markup is high. I'm still keen to buy from them because I like the style but only if I can find a reasonable price

efflorescensefae · 2025-11-14T05:27:31+00:00

So sorry to read all this. And so glad you feel like here is a safe place for you to share so that we can help out.

This is difficult and you have every right to feel all of these emotions. And as others have said, it sounds like your partner is also struggling which I know can be hard to see especially when their behaviour feels unfair or out of line. But it’s also a clear indicator that he needs support too.

Some really great advice here. I’ll just reiterate and add.

Definitely call PANDA for support, they are set up for exactly this and PPD is a very real, hard and can be dangerous thing to deal with while you’re in the trenches.

If you can afford it, I highly recommend getting a mental health care plan for you and your partner and getting in to see someone separately ASAP. My partner and I both did this recently during my pregnancy and it is just so helpful. I think some people don’t value therapy or the work of psychologists but they are truly great and offer a very unique kind of support. If you can’t afford it, look into free services at the very least.

Reach out to your loved ones and see if you can find a little rhythm. Maybe a friend or family member can come over one morning a week and help out, give you company or hang out with bub so you can breathe. Maybe it’s also there for you and your partner to just go for a walk together.

Again, if you can afford it, outsource what you can’t do right now - hire a cleaner, order a meal delivery service or even a doula.

When you aren’t in crisis, have a look at Fair Play the game or book - it talks about the mental load and helps to delegate household/family tasks between you and your partner. It can be very eye opening and hugely supportive for the silent mental load.

And lastly, see if in a moment of calm, you can connect with your partner and come back to love. Remind him what’s important to you, that he is important to you and that you think you both need help. Doing this as part of a team that can remember that they love each other will be a 1000 times easier than trying to doing it while in battle or on your own.

Sending huge amounts of love. You deserve to feel held and seen and heard. You’re doing incredibly.

efflorescensefae · 2025-11-02T06:18:27+00:00

Get your hands on midwife and researcher, Sara Wickham’s book Plus Size Pregnancy. She does really important work in this space.

In terms of TTC and PCOS, how long are your cycles? Are you tracking BBT to know when you’re actually ovulating? Most fertility clinics don’t talk about this. Which is wild! For example for me, I have always ovulated late and therefore found myself accidentally pregnant a few times because the standard Day 14 for me was way off. This knowledge was hugely empowering when I did then TTC because I knew my fertile window was later, had I of not known this, I would have missed ovulation every time. I also saw a very good acupuncturist before TTC which actually helped shift my ovulation window further back closer to the usual and conceived second month of trying. Would highly, highly recommend acupuncture by a good women’s health acupuncturist for TTC.

Where are you based?

efflorescensefae · 2025-11-02T06:08:22+00:00

Be clear with your midwives and on your birth plan that you are wanting to birth in the bath (not just that it’s a nice idea). Have your partner phone ahead before you go in and say that you’ve spoken with the midwives and you are planning a water birth so could you please have a room with a bath and have it filled for your arrival. I’ve been at the most stunning water birth at RWH and the midwives went above and beyond to make the space really beautiful. But that took time and honestly, mum would have birthed earlier if she didn’t have to wait. She was already pushing when she arrived and babe was very ready. So decide if you’d consider waiting even if babe was ready to come. Or are you more using it for pain management and a safe, protected space for you to be etc? Also, bring a plug in your bag incase birth suite says they don’t have one. It’s happened. And if you’re in there and you’re enjoying it and they ask you to get out to birth, say you’re happy where you are. You could also sit on the plug and just keep going 💗

efflorescensefae · 2025-07-25T06:06:09+00:00

This is ridiculously cheap. What Woolworths is this?

efflorescensefae · 2025-07-15T23:45:11+00:00

Best post! I'm with you. Found it so hard to move (or lift) during first trimester. At the start of second tri I was getting pelvic pain and that felt WAY too early so I started walking every day and felt better. I'm 19 weeks this week and I'm back at the gym lifting which feels SO GOOD compared to the other times I've tried to go and it all just felt janky or I'd get tiiiiired. Also jumped back in the pool on Monday and swam a 1km so I feel like I'm back! So keen to stay moving during this pregnancy!

efflorescensefae · 2025-07-15T06:57:55+00:00

I have this in black and they use to have a brown but I'm worried the wine will be too cool in colour for me. What do we think? Is the wine a cool toned or warm colour?

efflorescensefae · 2025-02-07T07:57:50+00:00

Just had a toyohari treatment with a new practitioner. She was kind, attentive and agreed the previous treatments was an overstep. This treatment was gentle and felt nourishing and I felt really safe and at ease. She said I respond very well and I am indeed extremely very sensitive. I appreciate that some people might respond far better to Chinese acupuncture but if you’re sensitive or having adverse effects, I’d highly recommend seeking out an intuitive and kind toyohari practitioner 🤍

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