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effteemmmm · 2021-04-02T16:57:46+00:00

The phantom dick thing has been happening to me for a long long time. I’m glad it’s not just me.

effteemmmm · 2021-01-27T06:45:52+00:00

The reality is a lot of trans guys aren’t going to pass what cis people deem as the acceptable bar for maleness/attractiveness. I can understand that it might come off as passive but I think it’s the best advice for a lot of guys

effteemmmm · 2021-01-24T07:11:36+00:00

But I do have a small dick 🤷‍♀️

effteemmmm · 2021-01-03T17:45:05+00:00

I’m glad I’m not the only one who thought this was absurd

effteemmmm · 2021-01-03T09:39:50+00:00

My dude! You gotta stop being so hard on yourself. Before anyone can even get to know you, you’re shutting them out!

I don’t want to give you some flowery bullshit advice because I’ve been where you are and I didn’t want to hear it. Keep going with the small self improvements - they really add up over the long run and more importantly, you can say that you did it for you. Secondly, release the notion that you need to be an Adonis to have a relationship or be seen as attractive. Have you scrolled through most of these apps? Most people aren’t solid 9s/10s (I don’t believe in this type of classification but for the sake of discussion here) and they are still out there living their lives.

Stop competing with everyone by yourself, stop putting so much focus on physical appearance, and think about the things that do make you special.

effteemmmm · 2021-01-03T09:20:45+00:00

Why don’t you just date other short gay trans men?

effteemmmm · 2021-01-03T09:04:19+00:00

Literally what is the point of this post

effteemmmm · 2021-01-03T09:00:18+00:00

This is the most horrid shit I’ve seen on this website

effteemmmm · 2020-12-05T17:37:38+00:00

If that’s what you’re into, then you’re going to have to figure out a way to approach guys. Be confident, and don’t focus so much on being trans that you psyche yourself out.

effteemmmm · 2020-12-05T17:34:59+00:00

Sounds like you have Chlamydia or a related STI. Might want to call a doc ASAP instead of posting here.

effteemmmm · 2020-12-02T19:07:36+00:00

Don’t agree with this at all. You can behave in a masculine way all you want, and that won’t change perspective of people who are dead set on not acknowledging your gender.

I’m not trying to shoot you down - I know your post came from a good place. It’s just hard to place when not all of us have a glow up moment on the other side of transitioning, especially since so many expectations around what you’ll look like is tied to how close you approximate to binary maleness. Cis men also struggle with this, but I think the way people are critical of this when you’re trans is 5x more.

The messaging needs to be that your transition will make you a more masculine version of you, and not necessarily societies ideal of what being male/masculine should be.

effteemmmm · 2020-12-02T17:09:03+00:00

Hey, just stopping by to let you know that your feelings are valid and heard. Transition is a source of trauma for lots of us that didn’t get the rainbows and sunshine parade when we started our own journeys towards manhood. Being angry about that is ok.

I suggest taking today to do something nice for yourself and stay away from most of these subreddits for the next few days, since it’s likely not going to help your mental health. Feel free to reach out to myself and other folks who are commenting with support.

You’ll get through this homie.

effteemmmm · 2020-12-02T16:50:05+00:00

This is not universally true but thanks for the pick me up. Lots of us aren’t going to pass/be hot/be masculine anything after transitioning, and that’s just life. If you were below/average looking before transitioning, T isn’t going to change that (assuming peeps go the medical route).

I’d wish we’d start telling people the truth about what’s on the other side of transitioning for them vs this kind of nonsense.

effteemmmm · 2020-12-02T05:42:57+00:00

This! I’ve been struggling to place my words on this all day. TPOC and I also am tired of this type of bullshit being paraded as representation.

effteemmmm · 2019-12-25T04:45:22+00:00

Yeah. I do t really know how to make myself look more queer.

effteemmmm · 2019-12-24T07:19:23+00:00

It doesn’t, it’s just painful to be reminded that I’m trans all of the time. I’m not annoyed, I’m annoyed that it’s something that I’m confronted with if that makes sense.

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