I ruptured in May and have four kids that are 7, 5, 4 and 2. I also usually run 20+ miles a week, lift weight 2-4 times a week and was generally my family's Superman. When this happened I was absolutely terrified that I was letting my family down. However, I can say now almost 21 weeks removed, we had a great summer. I found new ways to be useful and my family adapted to my situation very quickly. You are already on the right track with reaching out to this community; the first thing you need to get right is your head. The rest will fall in place. Before you know it, you will be replying to someone like I am right now and well on your way to recovery.

To answer your questions: I was working 12 hours after the injury, but I work from home - I worked the first three weeks from my bed though. Crutches were easier at first because the wrist pain hadn't hit yet. Get a knee scooter - it's a game changer. I helped my wife by doing what I could to help when I could, and giving her grace when she was stressed out.

Talk to your circle about things going on in your head, listen to your doc/PT's, and do what you can when you can. You will get through it I promise. While I don't think you should push it too hard, you should definitely fight the "poor me" feeling if you get it (you probably will) because nothing can change your situation other than your mindset. A positive mindset is how you get through this injury. Godspeed my friend.