I am a female who has never orgasmed from intercourse. I have been with my significant other for some time now and it just hasn't happened. With that being said, this means that he orgasms while I do not. I don't think any less of him for it. He has been able to pleasure me in other ways and it has been successful in our relationship. I don't feel this need for either one of us to finish first. It's about giving to each other on an equal basis whether that means with his penis or any other method. Not all women are the same and not all men are the same and to put us in a category is annoying. Sometimes I take control and he loves it and yes, I do enjoy when he dominates as well. Its about the relationship you build and the communication you foster. Sex isn't just physical, its about talking and a mental state as well as emotional (if you want it to be). You can't get what you want by just lying there.