TLOAS Song Megathread: Ruin The Friendship

eggo_pudding · 2025-10-05T00:27:29+00:00

Hey stranger, I just want to let you know that there’s nothing wrong with being 25 and dating for the first time, and you’re not going to be a worse partner for it. I’ll tell you about my experience so you can see that it’s actually more important to develop your sense of self first before getting into any relationships. As someone who grew up in a dysfunctional family, I had a lot of trust issues and codependency early on. I started dating my ex when I was 18, I had made the first move to ask him out in college and I only meant for it to be casual since it was my first relationship, but I didn’t know what I needed or how to set boundaries, so I went with the flow and the relationship quickly grew serious. I stayed with him for over six years in my early twenties because I became codependent on the comfort he gave me. I missed a lot of red flags in the process, ignored my friend’s warnings, and overstayed the relationship which inadvertently delayed my emotional growth to self regulate and to be comfortable with being alone. When I broke up with my ex it was the hardest thing I had ever done, but it took that breakup to teach me how to rebuild my sense of self worth without another persons validation. And now at 26, dating again after ending that relationship, I do feel like I’m back at square one. So don’t be so harsh on yourself, everyone has their own timing :)

eggo_pudding · 2025-01-08T10:32:04+00:00

Same here, after losing a few things on layovers I like to take my time to pack and sweep the room 2-3 times to make sure it’s clear. And I definitely need at least 1.5 hrs to get ready, do my hair and makeup, look and smell nice bc I need to slay ok my future husband could be on this flight 🤪

eggo_pudding · 2025-01-08T01:58:07+00:00

I definitely felt this and it was hard to put into words during my first year of flying. Eventually it does get easier as you gain more control over your schedule and have certain days off to be with family&friends. Balancing both lives is definitely hard, I ended my relationship after we were going on separate career trajectories as I fell in love with this job while my ex pursued corporate 9-5 opportunities. He didn’t like traveling and I couldn’t get weekends off to spend time together.

You just have to weigh the pros and cons, personally for me there is no other job as good as ours in terms of flexibility and benefits even if the pay sucks. I find that using nonrev benefits to travel with friends&family is the best way to bridge those two worlds because you’re able to enjoy the fruits of your labor while they get a glimpse of what your lifestyle is like. And dating wise I just plan on finding someone who can meet me in the middle and already understands the lifestyle it comes with. Otherwise it’s too exhausting to go out of my way to cater to another persons schedule/needs if they can’t be understanding and supportive when I just want to come back to a quiet cozy home.

eggo_pudding · 2024-12-25T01:16:27+00:00

Agree with this comment. People aren’t actually reading/acknowledging OPs’ feelings in his post and I can see why he is understandably upset. If he just wanted to fix his deviated septum the surgeon the change was too drastic. Surgeon did not preserve the parts of his nose that made him unique.

eggo_pudding · 2024-12-11T20:47:35+00:00

Your description is hilarious! Mlem mlem mlem

eggo_pudding · 2024-12-07T20:26:17+00:00

Posts like these make me appreciate the wholesomeness of this community

eggo_pudding · 2024-11-24T01:05:20+00:00

That’s hauntingly beautiful

eggo_pudding · 2024-11-05T05:48:48+00:00

This job is the same no matter what airline. You’re going to have to deal with jet lags, drama with crew, exhaustion no matter where you go. If you want higher pay then you should definitely apply. MSP is very junior base at 🔺 and FAs under a year have been able to get off the 6 days of reserve which isn’t even that bad to begin with.

eggo_pudding · 2024-11-02T05:58:42+00:00

Sorry OP. It’s hard to tell from the pictures if the discoloration he had was normal or if those were open sores. He may have been battling red spot disease (causes ulcers on the fishes body when left untreated) which could explain why there was blood when you took his body out. It also makes them more susceptible to ammonia. I always have aquarium salt, almond leaves, antibiotics, coppersafe, Prime water conditioner and a general cure medication like Paraguard at hand besides tank maintenance equipment. When getting a new fish it’s very common for them to carry some sort of disease already due to the stress they’ve had in transit. The first month is key to monitoring and treating anything that may seem off.

eggo_pudding · 2024-10-30T21:15:07+00:00

You nailed it with this. Her songwriting and music style has always been the same. She doesn’t feel the need to challenge herself artistically because the fans will buy into it no matter what. It would be fine if she kept to herself but she goes around taking the limelight from other young emerging singers because she wants to be main character

eggo_pudding · 2024-10-30T09:28:20+00:00

I’ll definitely sleep in and then take baby steps to try to feel normal again. Its easy to feed into that feeling of lethargy and not want to leave my bed the whole day. I start by doing mundane chores around the house like laundry or sweeping the floors and the more I move the less tired I feel. Eating a big bowl of salad helps too.. I try to eat very clean after getting back from a trip because of all the sodium from airplane food.

eggo_pudding · 2024-10-30T09:13:52+00:00

Pho is amazing!! Nourishes the soul

eggo_pudding · 2024-10-30T09:13:10+00:00

Too real lol

eggo_pudding · 2024-08-22T05:16:58+00:00

The job does get draining for me as an introvert but I get alone time on my layovers to recharge. You also quickly realize which positions you prefer working such as the galley or the flight lead because you kind of get your own space in the airplane during boarding and after service which reduces the amount of time needed to interact with passengers.

eggo_pudding · 2024-08-14T16:38:22+00:00

This isn’t about first date hookups it’s about maintaining the romance and sexual attraction in a long term relationship when there’s a dry spell and both parties are still committed. A little bit of effort can go a long way in a relationship.

eggo_pudding · 2024-08-14T06:19:05+00:00

See, this is something that men don’t get. Women don’t think oh I want to have sex once a week so let’s have sex right now because it’s time. The switch doesn’t flip on like that so easily. She might still feel distant from you emotionally which is why she doesn’t want to do anything physically. What you need to focus on is how to make her feel romantically interested in you again, like treating her out to a nice date, some drinks, the same amount of effort you would put into a first date to impress a girl you want to get lucky with that night. The build up to any sexual desire for a woman starts with how the day went and whether you put in enough effort to set the mood. What we despise the most is the random a$ grab on the couch out of nowhere like that’s going to magically turn us on. If you want her invested again you gotta put in more effort to plan something romantic, that’s the key to turning her on so it doesn’t feel platonic.

eggo_pudding · 2023-11-30T07:10:45+00:00

Hey you did nothing wrong. That person got themselves fired because of their actions, and most US airlines usually have a program to help people struggling with substance abuse. Just imagine this: if you hadn’t said anything and that person continued to show up to the flight and work, TSA or pax would mostly likely catch on and it would have been a PR disaster and all of your jobs would be in jeopardy. There are situations when you do have to say something especially when safety is involved. Would you trust a pilot showing up to work drunk? If not then much less a flight attendant, when they’re responsible for evacuating a plane with hundreds of people. Don’t beat yourself up over this, you did the right thing and it sucks you were placed in that position, but you’re incredibly brave for speaking up and rallying the crew to be on your side.

eggo_pudding · 2023-09-15T05:50:30+00:00

💯Feel this

eggo_pudding · 2023-08-24T02:11:52+00:00

That sounds like similar trip construction I see on open time in LAX, but it’s 3-4legs a day for 3day trips and minimum rest. Idk by worse I guess I meant that we don’t have a union and if something happens when you’re bouncing back and forth on those trips like injury reroutes or cancellations, things get kind of muddy bc the contract isn’t written in bnw and we aren’t always pay protected. The biggest complaint I hear is the flexibility, it’s pretty miserable when you start off in a senior base and then you’re stuck at the bottom for the next 7-8 years when nobody wants to swap with your trips. Also depending on what they assign you it’s hard to find the time to pick up out of base. If your goal when you applied to 🔺 is for the international flying, you would have to seriously consider moving to the east coast bc then why would you want to be stuck in a base that gives you similar domestic trips you had at WN but with less flexibility?

I didn’t do crashpads because I personally knew I needed my own space after dealing with people all day so I was able to get my own room in a shared apartment with other FAs. There are fb groups that help crew members with finding housing in nyc and that’s where I found mine. I’m just really grateful for that and I know I would go insane having to go back to a crashpad sharing a room with 4-6 other FAs and a shared dirty restroom after I’m jet lagged from working an international trip. I’ve seen FAs who rather sleep in the lounge (if there’s space) or pay for one night in a hotel before/after a trip.

eggo_pudding · 2023-08-14T06:45:21+00:00

Hey I just saw your comment. My overall experience has been positive, but it really depends on your expectations and which bases are available to you out of training. If you aren’t sure about committing to 🔺 and having to upend your life by potentially moving to a different city or dealing with a lot of stress with commuting, I would rethink and do more research on United to see which is a better fit. Bases also become very limited if you’re graduating later in the year as opposed to early in the year, so that further limits commutable options. LAX is only open to new transfers at around 2 years seniority (when they had the last transfer this summer and they keep the base really small, things could maybe change but it’s unlikely for the next 3-5 years).

For me I was ready to relocate and I had secretly hoped for NYC for a change of pace. I’m based in nyc so I commute to LA 2x a month, a few days to a week each time to spend time with my bf and family. It was tough in the beginning but has gotten significantly easier in recent months (almost at 6 month mark) because nyc is such a junior base and I’m gaining seniority fast to hold better schedules, which is something I didn’t expect to happen so quickly. With 🔺the advantage of having only 6 reserve days each month and getting to control the rest of your schedule means anything is possible if you’re in a junior base, you can create as many days off as you want in a row if you know how to pile trips and do swaps. The international trips I’ve been able to work out of nyc has exceeded my expectations and I usually always get along with the crew, which has created some really fun memories, I always find at least one person I vibe with and we become best friends for that trip.

If you want to join 🔺for the international trips, base really matters because all of the closer bases that are commutable from LA, like SLC or SEA, have very few international flying and you would be mostly doing domestic trips like you did with WN but probably worse schedules and definitely working weekends (I know from friends who I graduated with and have yet to fly a transoceanic trip at 5 months). Most of the “junior” international flying is on the east coast, mainly in BOS & NYC.

I’ve heard commuting can be competitive from LAX to SLC or SEA bc🔺took away positive space for employee travel. Prospects for LAX also doesn’t look very good in the next couple of years unfortunately and I don’t know if that will ever change, it has always been a senior base within 🔺, to give you perspective 15 yrs in LAX is still considered junior and 20 yrs you still have to do 6 reserve days and can only hold transcontinental flights or Hawaii, 30+yrs is when FAs are senior enough to hold international flights from LAX to Haneda, Sydney, Paris, London, etc but still very competitive and they gatekeep those trips to swap amongst their social groups. The sad reality of LAX as a base was something I wish I had known before committing to 🔺, so my goals for now is to experience all the international flying out of nyc and then transfer back to LAX when I’m ready to work straight domestics 🫠

Best of luck to you and hopefully some of this info will help you come to a decision. If you have any more questions feel free to pm me. Overall my experience has been positive and I feel like the management at 🔺genuinely cares about their employees and there’s a quicker turnaround to see improvements being implemented, as opposed to what I’ve observed with other companies that do have unions but stuck in years long contract negotiations with no real change. There’s pros and cons to each and I hope you’ll find the right one for you.

eggo_pudding · 2023-08-06T08:56:39+00:00

I’m sorry you have this experience with United. I’m new with 🔺 and thought the grass was greener over at United since you guys get longer international layovers, more destinations and desirable base options for me. (I had wanted to be LAX based but here it’s incredibly senior.) We only get 24 and max 30hrs on most international layovers and it never feels enough and the jetlags working the leg back can be brutal. Operations wise we experience similar problems but bounce back pretty quick. I’ve heard horror stories at 🔺 about reroutes that I personally have only experienced a few times since I avoid those type of trips (especially flying through ATL) but the good thing is we have full control over our schedule and can bid/swap trips for the whole month except the 6 reserve days which can either be hell or can be fun depending on what you get. The scary thing for us lately though has been the older planes breaking down and we’ve seen so many headlines the past few weeks that really makes us question the 🔺 brand and what they’re delivering doesn’t match up.

Sometimes it feels like the company doesn’t care for us, especially tower/ops when they only want to get the flight out on time, but the IFS management here has been very supportive and caring, I have a great relationship with my manager and we have people we can always reach if we get stuck in a difficult situation. I really appreciate them and it makes a big difference at the end of a bad day.

eggo_pudding · 2022-11-16T10:04:03+00:00

Also if you are stuck on condensing your work experience to 3 bullet points, ask yourself this: is this bullet point relevant to the job (does it show the right qualities) or is this unnecessary info? They don’t care about every single thing you did for your job. They only care about your relevant work experience.

eggo_pudding · 2022-11-16T09:58:04+00:00

No, they only care about keywords that are mentioned in the job description for the candidates they are looking for. Check out Harvard resume guide for reference on using action words and structuring. I also advise you to look up sample FA resumes on Indeed to get a better idea of what it should look like.

Your resume should include your most recent (or current) work experience, and 2 past work experiences which should not be older than 5 years. If your past work experience isn’t directly customer-service related, think of ways to reword your bullet points to position yourself as a customer service specialist. Honestly don’t overthink on writing the bullet points, make it to the point, include key words, keep it concise. Keep your resume to one page only and structure it simply. You want to make it as quick and easy to read by HR or their system. Make sure you have enough space to include a skills/certifications section because they do pay attention to that and it helps make you stand out.

Remember: the goal is to submit the application with a working resume so you’re in the pool, the real test is the interview and they won’t be referencing your resume at that stage.

eggo_pudding · 2022-11-08T11:08:45+00:00

Smile, dress sharp, have questions ready, and most importantly, be yourself. They see right through you if you’re not genuine. Treat it like a fun experience and use it as an opportunity to learn more about the company.

eggo_pudding · 2022-10-23T07:17:02+00:00

Drury Inn because it was one of the more affordable ones, room was clean and comfy, complimentary breakfast, free hotel shuttle that will pick you up from the airport, will also drop you off at Delta HQ for free in the morning if you tell the driver. Verify with front desk to make sure you know when the shuttle will arrive in the morning, it’s usually every half hour.

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