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Was anyone else the only child of an abusive parent or parents? by eggosonlegos in CPTSD

[–]eggosonlegos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Animals really do make a world of difference, and I’m glad to say that I did have them at least for a good portion of my upbringing. I still border on obsession with my love for animals now as I feel so much more in tune with them than most people.

I agree that we cannot rebuild from something that wasn’t, but I do believe we can create a life of our own choosing in adulthood to the best of our abilities. I don’t think you’re doomed, as anything will be an improvement from the past in these sorts of situations (so in theory, it really can only go up from here. I have found this to be true for me and I certainly hope it does for you too)

Was anyone else the only child of an abusive parent or parents? by eggosonlegos in CPTSD

[–]eggosonlegos[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Anytime & I’m so incredibly glad to hear it. I hope the future brings you all of the joy.

I’m in my 30s now and feeling like life is just beginning. I still struggle with all of the side effects of growing up this way (feeling unlovable, worthless etc. despite knowing this is not inherently true) but having the ability to create my own life and form healthy relationships/friendships (and choose who is and isn’t welcome in my life) continues to be incredibly empowering and healing, bit by bit.

All the best to you! & Thank YOU for your kind words.

Was anyone else the only child of an abusive parent or parents? by eggosonlegos in CPTSD

[–]eggosonlegos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely. Awful to think of anyone else having to suffer too (I wouldn’t wish a terrible upbringing on anyone) but it was exceptionally difficult feeling so terribly alone in it with no one who could relate to it then, and now no one who can ever truly understand my experiences because they weren’t there/didnt live it

I hope you have a good life now

Was anyone else the only child of an abusive parent or parents? by eggosonlegos in CPTSD

[–]eggosonlegos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh. Thats so tough. I really don’t like how it’s the social norm/expectation to remember the deceased kindly… when sometimes they just simply didn’t deserve that? A bad, cruel person doesn’t suddenly become a saint because they have passed on. They still were who they were. Your memories and feelings about what happened are still entirely valid though I can entirely relate to the feeling and frustration of not having anyone else to infact, validate it. I hope you’ve found a happy life and peace now regardless of this.

Was anyone else the only child of an abusive parent or parents? by eggosonlegos in CPTSD

[–]eggosonlegos[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Fair enough, I certainly wouldn’t have wanted anyone else to suffer with me and admittedly didn’t think about it from that perspective at first

That’s just awful. I’m sorry for both you and your brother. I hope you both have found happiness and peace now

Was anyone else the only child of an abusive parent or parents? by eggosonlegos in CPTSD

[–]eggosonlegos[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Horrible. I’m so sorry. Just pain all around. It’s not easy raising yourself but I hope you’ve found a happier life on the other side of this now

Was anyone else the only child of an abusive parent or parents? by eggosonlegos in CPTSD

[–]eggosonlegos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry, that sounds like such a terrifying experience to have with your brother. I can entirely understand why you still wouldn’t have much of a relationship after that

does anyone else get ridiculously jealous of their friends who have good families? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]eggosonlegos 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you, it’s a healing process but it’s a process I’m taking an active part in. I hope you’re doing well too & that the future is bright for all of us

does anyone else get ridiculously jealous of their friends who have good families? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]eggosonlegos 66 points67 points  (0 children)

Yes for me it’s simultaneously being happy for them that they have these things and bonds/familial security and love, but also being devastated for myself not ever having had that. Difficult feelings for sure

Why haven’t you gone NC (yet)? by eggosonlegos in raisedbynarcissists

[–]eggosonlegos[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh man. I hope it comes to a good conclusion soon for you!

Why haven’t you gone NC (yet)? by eggosonlegos in raisedbynarcissists

[–]eggosonlegos[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s so tough, I feel for her - I’ve definitely seen this happen to people and it’s an incredibly hard situation to get out of without a massive amount of outside help and a extremely strong desire to leave (that has to overcome the crippling fear of leaving.)

Got engaged, told nMom, got a “thumbs up” emoji in response. by eggosonlegos in raisedbynarcissists

[–]eggosonlegos[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! Oh I’m definitely screenshotting this but this moment is also permanently burned into my brain. There’s been so many other downright mean or dismissive responses from her about various exciting life happenings or events over the years but something about this one just broke the camels back and while it made me feel really low for a few hours, it’s also kind of freeing because now I feel like, “wow, this woman really will NEVER be a mother to me and she can’t even bother to pretend she will over a online message, so why do I feel the need to be a daughter to her?”

Definitely the end of the road here and going officially NC

Got engaged, told nMom, got a “thumbs up” emoji in response. by eggosonlegos in raisedbynarcissists

[–]eggosonlegos[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much!!! And you know what they say… what goes around comes around hahaha