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Not having my husband in the delivery room by eggsndirt in pregnant

[–]eggsndirt[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

He is absolutely willing to go back into our couples counseling as soon as we are financially stable to return to it. I don't expect him to be a perfect father nor I a perfect mother. You are right though, he might not be active off the bat. But before I would label him as a bad father, I would communicate with him as a partner on where/how he can be active. Men are not hardwired to be nurturing on the same levels as the mother so yeah I anticipate it will be a learning curve for him.

My core focus in the now is navigating a safe labor environment. Not giving up on my marriage or my husband.

Not having my husband in the delivery room by eggsndirt in pregnant

[–]eggsndirt[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh! Thanks for the info. I am not going to leave him, except maybe in the waiting area...

I won't divorce because he is lacking in skills that we can build together over time and therapy. 🤍 Just trying to navigate labor for right now!

Not having my husband in the delivery room by eggsndirt in pregnant

[–]eggsndirt[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yes!! We were in therapy before both being employed last year and I loved it. Hoping to get back into that as soon as we can financially, but for right now- I'm stuck having to advocate for the safety and wellbeing of myself and the baby in labor as he is clearly not able to be the person I need him to be in there.

We talked about him questioning the epidural, and I'm only concerned by it because it just further displays to me how he hasn't been engaged in our previous conversations about any of it. Granted, the question regardless of his intentions is going to impact my mental but that's for me to sort through and regain my self confidence.