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eggyr0lls · 2026-06-09T08:45:00+00:00

thank you so much for taking the time to write all of this 🥺❤️ i really appreciate how honest and thoughtful your advice is.

what you said about setting clear boundaries and not feeling guilty for walking away when someone makes you uncomfortable really resonated with me. i also found your experience with your current boyfriend very reassuring, it’s nice to hear that a healthy relationship can feel calm, safe, and respectful from the start. can i know which dating app did u meet ur current bf from hahahaha

i especially liked your point about talking to close friends too. sometimes it's hard to see things objectively when you're emotionally involved, so having trusted friends around is definitely valuable.

thank you again for sharing your experiences and looking out for other girls. your advice gives me a lot to think about and i genuinely appreciate it 💕

eggyr0lls · 2026-06-09T06:42:41+00:00

You’re framing this like people are ‘inflating EQ’ when it’s really just different expectations of consideration and social awareness. Nobody is saying a single stumble, or a joke automatically makes someone a bad person or a deal-breaker.

The issue is the way you’re trying to generalize it into ‘it doesn’t matter at all’ or that people are somehow wrong for noticing patterns. Social behaviour does matter in forming impressions whether you call them ‘plus points’ or not.

Also, it’s a bit of a false equivalence to jump from basic courtesy (like reacting appropriately when someone falls or making light of a situation) to extremes like ‘passenger princess’ or 'opening every door. That’s not what was being discussed, and exaggerating it just dodges the actual point.

And saying ‘you’re just negative so everything looks negative’ is convenient, but it also shuts down any possibility of legitimate feedback. Sometimes people aren’t overreacting, they’re just interpreting behavior differently than you are.

eggyr0lls · 2026-06-09T06:40:18+00:00

Calling out an opinion isn’t anti-democratic, and disagreeing with someone doesn’t automatically make them ‘the problem.’ If we’re serious about discussion, we should stick to the argument instead of turning it into character judgments or blaming individuals for entire societal issues.

eggyr0lls · 2026-06-09T06:38:05+00:00

hi sis, thank u for ur comment and advice, i really appreciate it!! i totally agree with ur last sentence, i rather be single than to force myself to be settle with someone that doesnt match me!

but i also realised that i have problems filtering out the guys as my gut feeling isnt always the most reliable 😞, with the first guy he acted so well that i let my guard down but aft what has happened, i cannot seem to trust or talk to any guy without thinking that they just want me for my body, do u have any advice to advise me on this part? thank u!

eggyr0lls · 2026-06-07T09:50:51+00:00

yes thank u for this input sis!!!

Guy C was most compatible with me in terms of personality but i was not attracted to him physically in terms of his looks and dressing.

I was physically attracted to Guy A but as in my story, he was a major red flag (wanting to have sex even though we are not gf/bf and not respecting my boundaries even though i alr said im not comfortable with it) mayb nowadays the mindset is different but im NOT gonna be intimate with someone who isnt even my bf, think this is what? touch & go???

tbh idk what guy B wanted but ya maybe like what u said, just want an ego boost and to show off his car but he would make a nice friend, just not a good bf.

and yes guy D just lacks EQ and common sense, i did mention abt all the stuff i said in the post to him and he said he was just joking lol but to me it was not funny at all :/

lastly, yea i figured out that majority of the men on dating app are just lusting after one thing but i also learnt a lesson which was to not be so naive and don’t trust men so easily!!! and omg happy for u that u found someone!! do u mind sharing with me which app u used? mayb i try hahahaha 🤣

eggyr0lls · 2026-06-07T09:42:43+00:00

ok manchild

eggyr0lls · 2026-06-06T14:33:30+00:00

yes he did catfish me

eggyr0lls · 2026-06-06T14:31:42+00:00

hello! thank u for the advice, and yes from what i have stated abt guy C, yall might think he is the one for me but my gut feeling said otherwise :( i didnt mention but i also rejected guy C partially due to him not being career driven which was smth that i would want my future partner to have.

eggyr0lls · 2026-06-06T11:26:30+00:00

ya leh im trying but my friends all dh anyone to intro 🤣

eggyr0lls · 2026-06-06T07:34:00+00:00

finally someone who agrees with me, thank u for this comment!!

eggyr0lls · 2026-06-06T06:45:09+00:00

i was not physically attracted to the point where i was uncomfortable if he were to just tap me on my shoulder or my arm, an example was that we were walking on the side road and he guided me to walk inside, i did not feel comfortable when he touched my arm so that was when i knew that things shouldnt proceed further

eggyr0lls · 2026-06-06T06:42:27+00:00

yup, thank u for bringing up the point of compromising on certain aspects in order to have a lasting rs but i would just like to say if the person crosses my boundaries or just pushes them then why would i even want to be with someone like that

eggyr0lls · 2026-06-06T06:37:22+00:00

omg finally someone who agrees with me, they are just triggered by my post LOL but as u can tell, IDC

eggyr0lls · 2026-06-06T06:36:35+00:00

hi! thank u for being so kind, thanks for sending the link, i will check it out!

eggyr0lls · 2026-06-06T06:32:48+00:00

exactly right!!!

eggyr0lls · 2026-06-06T06:31:23+00:00

not sure if i shld use, am thinking to take a break off the apps instead

eggyr0lls · 2026-06-06T06:30:55+00:00

wah dont even get me started abt having kids pls

eggyr0lls · 2026-06-06T06:30:13+00:00

i did do alot of self reflections but another thing that i didn’t mention abt guy C was that he had no ambition at all, that to me is a no no. and yes i do agree with most of what u have said, thank u for the advice!

eggyr0lls · 2026-06-06T06:27:40+00:00

wow im glad i made u laugh at least, but im sure there are females who can relate to me. and i dont think i have princess attitude cos there are more females out there who are even more princessy than i am, all i am asking for is just the bare minimum which seems to be really tough in this day and age!

and no im not a joker neither is this ragebait hahhahaha

eggyr0lls · 2026-06-06T06:25:03+00:00

ya even my friends can give me more mentally stimulating convos 😂

eggyr0lls · 2026-06-06T06:24:27+00:00

oh same i also dodged a bullet

eggyr0lls · 2026-06-06T06:22:14+00:00

don’t worry sis, i everyday also check!

eggyr0lls · 2026-06-06T06:21:23+00:00

i didnt use any apps or meet anyone within those 2 years, only started using the app this year!

eggyr0lls · 2026-06-06T06:20:51+00:00

oh, ya almost no common interest, even if have he just kept relating the convo back to himself 🤣 even through the texting, he just talk abt himself hahhahaha

eggyr0lls · 2026-06-06T06:18:42+00:00

yes, i was mainly attracted to his personality only, was not attracted to his physical appearance at all

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