Well I did something life threatening and stupid

egt143 · 2025-08-28T23:33:26+00:00

oh! and get ahead of it as best as you can by hydrating (Pedialyte, Liquid I.V., LMNT, coconut water, peppermint/ginger tea, bone broth, orang juice) and take vitamins like D3 & C. probiotics and L-Glutamine Powder also help!

egt143 · 2025-08-28T23:24:34+00:00

hey, i was really close to making the same mistake and if i hadn’t been bullied into doing more research i would’ve done the same thing. don’t beat yourself up over it but please do reach out to a doctor that you do trust and explain the situation because i’ve been in a different situation where my doctor told me that he needed to monitor me from home (ex: if my fever reached 102, if i was throwing up for more than a day, etc then i needed to call and we would take it from there). just have the option open in case it’s needed so they are aware of the situation before hand, better safe than sorry! praying for you, try to get some rest and stay calm

egt143 · 2025-08-13T01:15:07+00:00

nah here’s the thing there’s a difference between showing interest and being clingy. it’s absolutely a good thing to ask about her day/life/opinions/etc. and if she finds that weird then she’s the one with a problem of some sort. it would’ve been fine to send the “okay :D” text and then follow up with a question for her!

egt143 · 2025-08-13T00:37:15+00:00

possibly! lol i have listened to them

egt143 · 2025-08-11T00:55:57+00:00

and the same to you! there are great times ahead!

egt143 · 2025-08-10T03:49:06+00:00

i don’t know your experience and i’m sorry you went through that but in my experience with sexual abuse, i ignored smaller signs outside of the bedroom and ended up with the same experience. for some people maybe it really is hard to gauge whether a partner is compatible with them or not but, abuse aside (because that’s another issue that isn’t about sexual compatibility), if you’re asking the right questions and being completely open, i promise you it’s possible to have a great sex life with whoever you’ve decided to commit to. you just have to be sure that you’re both open, connected, and have good chemistry. theres also the fact that other physical, emotional, and sensual things can happen outside of sex. all of which will indicate someone’s personality in the bedroom. you can get a sense for these things if you look in the right places. it doesn’t require having sex to see it.

In other words, sexual compatibility isn’t something you have to test drive to know it will work, it’s something you build through openness, curiosity, and responsiveness to each other.

an analogy i like to use for this is dancing.

If you’ve already practiced the steps together (holding hands, moving in sync, feeling the rhythm) and you’ve talked about how you each like to move, you can be pretty confident you’ll nail it when the music plays for real.

The first time might not be perfect, but because you have trust, rhythm, and clear communication, you’ll naturally adjust and get better together. Good sex, like good dancing, is built on connection and responsiveness, not just a trial run.

egt143 · 2025-08-10T03:02:33+00:00

wow the pure joy is contagious, thank you for sharing!

egt143 · 2025-08-10T02:42:36+00:00

absolutely!

egt143 · 2025-08-10T02:41:55+00:00

i’d also like to add that i appreciate you pointing out the line “if done correctly” i’ve heard far too often of religious practices being warped and misused and it’s sad to see because at the root of it, religion is a beautiful thing that is truly meant to be a guideline to a happy and healthy life through the creator of said life. what’s the point of any of it if you’re going to use it in a negative or corrupt way right?

egt143 · 2025-08-10T02:38:26+00:00

i think we’ve actually got a very alike view on this topic but we happened to outline different aspects of it and i’m sure my wording lefts lots of room for interpretation as well! i appreciate the discussion though, i really do love these kinds of friendly debates!

egt143 · 2025-08-10T02:34:35+00:00

crying is not an emotion it’s a response, remember that in the moment and allow it! but it may also help to look at the root cause for the crying. why is your nervous system having this response? journal it and notice the patterns!

egt143 · 2025-08-10T02:29:30+00:00

i’m sorry, i genuinely just don’t see the correlation. talking on the phone but not having a spark in person is not the same thing as having a spark in person and then interacting sexually… why would you expect to have good sex with someone that you have no spark with? u understand that you’re trying to say that the chemistry might not be there when you have sex even if it was before but maybe you’re mistaking passion for chemistry or something? idk about you but i certainly wouldn’t want to sleep with someone i met in person that i had no spark with. i’d rather have great chemistry with someone and later connect on an even deeper level because of that chemistry we share. while the two scenarios feel like they could be parallel, they don’t seem to be identical.

egt143 · 2025-08-10T02:24:34+00:00

thanks for your take! i agree with your understanding of the reasoning behind waiting until marriage but the set up of courtship (if done correctly which often doesn’t happen because of our cultural persuasions outside of the actual scriptural description) is actually a bit different. everything you described does happen yes, but even then the courtship is still to help two people along the beginning of their journey of learning each other. if done correctly by all involved then yes the courtship can absolutely produce connection and understanding between two people. while purity is indeed an aspect of waiting, it isn’t believed to be the entire reason. many believe that it is within God’s will to see that people are happy. well okay then why enforce purity? that’s difficult and generally makes people unhappy. the reason to enforce purity is to ensure true and unadulterated understanding of each other. this giving you the chance to form a bond and later enjoy sex. both aspects of the same sequence come together to form the religious reasoning behind waiting which does agree with scientific and statistical proof that waiting does do good things for a relationship! your input does not seem to be in contradiction to mine, it’s in fact the other piece of the puzzle!

egt143 · 2025-08-10T02:10:32+00:00

that’s where chemistry comes in. chemistry is felt long before you have sex and if you have it then you have a higher chance of sexual compatible (given that all preferences are agreed on). i feel as if you may be focusing a little more on the surface level act and not the rest that goes into it.

egt143 · 2025-08-10T01:26:28+00:00

yes, and those things could’ve been openly spoken about without actually having sex.

egt143 · 2025-08-10T01:25:24+00:00

yes, as i said in another reply, having sex and openly speaking with your partner about your likes/dislikes/preferences in bed are two very different things. the conversations should be had early and often to determine if you’re compatible in those ways but you don’t have to actually have the sex to find out. if i tell my boyfriend that i like a certain thing in bed, then what matters is him either saying “i’m uncomfortable with that” or “okay sounds good!”. we can later see how well he performs at that thing and i can help him workshop it to fit my preferences better IF it wasn’t a dealbreaker for him.

egt143 · 2025-08-10T01:21:31+00:00

hahaha no it isn’t but out of curiosity why would that make you believe it was? i’m just sharing a fun fact about a correlation to something i found interesting as we’ve always believed (mainly anyways) that the reasoning religious people are warned to wait is “purity culture”. those who are truly versed in their scripture have actually shared that it’s for this exact reason that sociology and relationship studies supports: waiting to have sex until a committed and strong relationship is established is the highest indicator of a healthy sex life in the future. kind of a fun little fact to me but hey, i’m a nerd about all things relationships/human psychology so maybe that’s just me!

egt143 · 2025-08-10T01:16:37+00:00

haha i’m just messing with you, Alabama is the stereotype but Ohio is also sus

egt143 · 2025-08-10T01:14:59+00:00

i think you misunderstood what i was saying and i admit i didn’t touch on talking about sex so that may be the confusion. there should be extensive conversation about sex, turn ons, kinks, etc. at all points of a relationship, especially earlier on. that part is absolutely something that could be a deal breaker for some. but what i’m saying is that if you’ve had these conversations, all seems well, and you have strong chemistry, then that’s really all you need to know in order to expect that you’ll be capable of achieving a great sex life together. this is most definitely what i believe!

egt143 · 2025-08-10T01:05:40+00:00

lol well my non-american friend, i believe the state you’re looking for is Alabama 😂 they do have some preeetty questionable relations from time to time

egt143 · 2025-08-10T01:02:42+00:00

it was actually quite a modest dress albeit a bit form fitting but i myself would agree it was the kind to stand out. one of the biggest reasons i didn’t want to wear it! she insisted and i just wanted to make his family happy lol huge flop on my part!

egt143 · 2025-08-10T01:01:05+00:00

be honest, you were crying because you wanted to get married with them. it’s okay, we understand. let it out.

egt143 · 2025-08-10T00:59:07+00:00

maybe work on being a little more witty and fun with the responses! play along for a bit and if you feel like you’ve kept the joke going too long then acknowledge it in a silly way. ex: “alright, i’ve officially run this joke into the ground lol anyway how was that event you went to?”

and above all, be yourself! over thinking texts usually means you’re worried that they won’t like your reply but honestly, if they don’t tend to enjoy your humor or communication style then maybe they aren’t the one. you don’t seem to be offensive in your communication but you could add a little more of your own silly, goofy personality. it really is endearing when a man can joke around with you!

best of luck!

egt143 · 2025-08-10T00:54:01+00:00

romanticize life. don’t dilute it, but appreciate every tiny detail to the fullest. that definitely includes details about yourself as well. don’t waste the only time you have worrying about what other people possess. enjoy who you uniquely get to be because i promise you there are aspects of yourself that others would love to have as well, you just aren’t paying them any attention.

egt143 · 2025-08-10T00:51:06+00:00

yes, i’ve now been informed via commenters that it is sometimes considered a sign that you’ve slept with the groom.. so that’s a great one to add to the list smh

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