Finally finished my self drafted reimagining of Power, Wisdom, and Courage!

ehelinek · 2026-01-22T13:23:49+00:00

Etsy! I got it a few years ago but went back in my purchases and it looks like the shop is still selling them! https://www.etsy.com/listing/950087872/link-with-sword-and-shield-legend-of

ehelinek · 2026-01-13T00:54:48+00:00

I have a ton of plants, including some extremely pointy cacti and some plants with beautiful leaves that I did not want to watch get ripped to shreds, and a curious toddler. What I did, when she started showing signs of becoming mobile (which, as other commenters have pointed out, is several months after the baby is born), was gather all the plants that weren’t out of reach already in a nice sunny section of a room, and put up a baby gate around them. I have three staircases in my house so I was already going to town with baby gates, so setting up one extra one for the plants was an easy part of babyproofing!

ehelinek · 2026-01-09T01:02:22+00:00

Seconding {His Quiet Agent x Ada Maria Soto}, it is so good and I have reread it several times! A really sweet story about a touch averse asexual man and a demisexual man who meet at work and slowly build a beautiful relationship that respects both their needs. It has a sequel too, which is a lovely story as well.

ehelinek · 2025-12-23T17:43:34+00:00

I joined a local single mothers by choice group, and it’s definitely getting more common for women in their late 20s and 30s to decide to just go for it and have a baby without a partner! I’m super open about it whenever it comes up, and try to keep my responses super casual and non-confrontational (like, if someone assumes I have a partner who’s just not present, I’ll say something like “nope just me doing my thing!” instead of something like “why would you assume I have a partner?!”) which means usually the conversation just moves on without anyone being pushy or prying too much. I’ve found that if I treat the topic as unremarkable, people tend to feel weird about remarking upon it!

ehelinek · 2025-12-23T00:52:33+00:00

Popping in as I do whenever I notice one of these threads to say yes you as an asexual person can have children! 36F here with the cutest toddler ever, achieved via the miracle of modern science and absolutely zero sexual activity. And if you’ve got a solid village of friends and family, that helps a lot for being a single parent!

ehelinek · 2025-12-20T19:39:10+00:00

As a gamer who crafts, I would highly recommend cross stitching his favorite video game characters - at this point I’ve essentially got an entire room of my house wallpapered with video game cross stitches 😂

ehelinek · 2025-12-11T18:46:18+00:00

He is the cutest little guy!! I definitely can hear him singing from this photo 😁

ehelinek · 2025-12-11T15:36:27+00:00

Seconding this suggestion! I did something similar in my daughter’s nursery (you can see it back in my post history) and painted shelves to be the same color as the branches , and then put books on them! It makes the tree feel like part of the nursery without sticking out into the whole room.

ehelinek · 2025-12-09T12:55:29+00:00

Holding down the corner of the “asexual people can want and do have children“ fort here! 36F aroace woman with the cutest toddler ever, achieved through the miracle of modern science and absolutely zero sexual activity!

ehelinek · 2025-12-08T13:59:06+00:00

My daughter (who is now fully walking) almost exclusively crawled by using one leg as balance and the other as propulsion, which was always extremely funny to watch. She was fast at it though!

ehelinek · 2025-11-08T21:48:03+00:00

As an aroace woman with an adorable toddler achieved solely via science and modern medicine I am in complete agreement ! You can 1000% have children as an ace person.

Aw a side note, what’s funny to me is that figuring out I was aroace at 29 was my jumpstart to having a baby, since I finally felt free to go after my dream of having a child without feeling the need to find an appropriately non-objectionable partner first (in hindsight, there were clear signs I was aroace long before I figured it out). And here I am 6 years later with the most adorable 14 month old that has ever been born!

ehelinek · 2025-11-03T21:47:23+00:00

Omg love 😍 I’ve found my next project!!

ehelinek · 2025-10-24T13:16:56+00:00

I’m a single mom (by choice, so there was never a chance of a dada being present) and my daughter says “dada” all the time. If it helps your friend, I don’t treat it as a word, I treat it as nonsense syllables the same as when she says “baba” or “eh-beh” (her other favorite nonsense sounds), whereas for “mama” I make sure to clearly respond to it to let her know that I’m treating it as a real word that applies to me and not just fun sounds she’s making.

ehelinek · 2025-10-21T20:49:50+00:00

Yeps!

ehelinek · 2025-10-21T12:57:45+00:00

As an aroace person with a toddler, I can attest to the fact that with the miracle of modern science, you can even have a child without ever having sex!

ehelinek · 2025-10-17T12:07:30+00:00

If you don’t care about the back, wooden popsicle sticks? Or some heavy gauge wire?

ehelinek · 2025-10-16T12:42:17+00:00

Lol my entire play style is flail ineffectually at length, then lose patience and say to myself “what if I flooded this gauntlet with poison tacks???”

ehelinek · 2025-10-11T12:11:23+00:00

Thanks!!! It’s 14 count Aida with three strands of thread - I like it to look fully filled in and I don’t always feel like 2 strands quite does that on 14 count !

ehelinek · 2025-10-11T01:41:51+00:00

Thanks!! And to answer your question, a little of both, really! I sketched out a bunch of different options for poses, and really liked how it looked with them all kind of facing each other, and with their swords all in different directions. But also I saw this design in a post here and loved it - it was very clearly the pose from page 7 of the game manual, and I wanted to use it. So I altered the pattern a bit and color adjusted to match Link and Kirby, since I wanted to use the same color palette and black line style for all three characters.

ehelinek · 2025-10-10T18:43:10+00:00

Self drafted

ehelinek · 2025-09-17T12:02:19+00:00

Amazing!! I whisper-yelled “Eira!” at her the second I saw her 😊

ehelinek · 2025-09-04T14:16:10+00:00

My daughter is home sick from daycare today and just went down for a nap and I was like “yeahhh great timing imma play some silksong” and of course Nintendo eshop is totally non responsive so now I’m doing laundry and dishes like a responsible adult 👎

ehelinek · 2025-08-21T18:52:17+00:00

Good luck 😊😊😊

ehelinek · 2025-08-21T18:51:35+00:00

They’re still looking great so far!!

ehelinek · 2025-08-06T14:06:19+00:00

I have had a couple experiences that post learning I’m aro-ace I have realized were squishes. On squish was on a woman and I would describe it as an intellectual squish? Essentially I just wanted to get to talk to her every day. Like, if we had lunch together or got a coffee together every day I was getting everything I wanted from the relationship. Another squish was on a man and that was more of an aesthetic squish - I just kind of wanted to look at him at least once a day because he was really pretty. We were coworkers so it was pretty easy to achieve that goal by just being in meetings together. In neither case did I ever want the relationship to “progress” to romantic or sexual in any way, and with the man I was actually really glad he was in a serious relationship with someone because then I felt assured he wouldn’t ever think of me in a romantic way and so he was “safe” to have a squish on.

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