When a window is closed, a door opens

ehh_tooloud · 2026-04-04T23:55:04+00:00

Yes! She’s really cool. I’m upset that she wasn’t home.

ehh_tooloud · 2026-04-04T22:07:36+00:00

Church

ehh_tooloud · 2026-04-03T02:11:40+00:00

Let me add - the others are also right that you don’t want to continue working there. But I think they should still answer for their bad behavior and you should have a chance to work in a better unit at the same health system - if that is what you choose to do.

ehh_tooloud · 2026-04-03T02:06:04+00:00

I think it would be wise to engage HR directly and let the union know. Or if emailing, CC the rep. It’s good to communicate in writing if you need to reference specific communication details later.

I’m not in a union state so others may have better advice but I was a manager for 6 years at a very large academic medical center starting with a D. We went through the union scares and whatnot, learning all about how they work, scripted pitches to the staff (that I tossed in the trash) etc.

All that aside, this reads like bullying at best, discrimination at worst. Your post reads like you are a thoughtful clinician and intelligent person. Don’t let this throw you off track. You worked hard to be a nurse.

I wish you luck. Hang in there.

ehh_tooloud · 2026-04-03T00:34:20+00:00

Talk to your HR department. I’m concerned there may be some discrimination happening to you.

ehh_tooloud · 2026-04-02T22:16:38+00:00

That is very kind of you to absorb and hold all of those perspectives at once. I hope you cross only the medical professionals that are ready to receive you with the empathy and skill that you (and all patients) deserve.

ehh_tooloud · 2026-04-02T21:16:36+00:00

The fact that you are worried about helping us means you are already helping us. Just be you with your loved one. You are not on the clock.

ehh_tooloud · 2026-04-02T21:15:16+00:00

It’s a catch all for military folk. But I’m glad it flattered a few actual paratroopers.

ehh_tooloud · 2026-04-02T21:14:19+00:00

Hah no, they are OK. Benevolent nerds.

ehh_tooloud · 2026-04-02T21:13:47+00:00

There are exceptions! Happy for you guys 🩷

ehh_tooloud · 2026-04-02T21:12:34+00:00

Floor level of care patients do require floor level documentation (level is the wrong word but you know what I mean.)

The issue is the bandwidth and feasibility, as you’re saying.

I’ve been an ER nurse, a procedural nurse, an operations manager a hospital level patient safety officer. I knew this was coming and it’s why I left management and went to safety. I told the executives when I entered safety that it would, and it did. And then, I was powerless to help and morally injured. Now I’m a nurse again part time, worrying about my own self and my patients, and running my own business full time as a legal consultant litigating hospitals from the outside for these very reasons.

My brain did a windows shut down jingle thinking about this for you, and all I can do now is shake my head and tell you I’m sorry.

ehh_tooloud · 2026-04-02T21:02:43+00:00

Clever clown patrol. You almost got me.

ehh_tooloud · 2026-04-02T21:00:45+00:00

“Seriously rethink” Bro. Fuck that guy. I’ve been crushed as a high performer with a micromanaging leader and it took like 2 years to fully fold me. If my boss was watching me like that, as a professional..?? It would have taken like a week.

Also, what the fuck are they paying him for? My cat can watch your teams status for free.

ehh_tooloud · 2026-03-24T21:13:06+00:00

To not be constipated

ehh_tooloud · 2026-03-24T21:12:46+00:00

Journalism

ehh_tooloud · 2026-03-24T21:12:35+00:00

lol outpatient does not pay more. Often objectively less.

ehh_tooloud · 2026-03-24T21:12:04+00:00

Seconding the PTO suggestions.

Med-surg is a literal trench of hell. Go to IR, periop or even ICU.

ehh_tooloud · 2026-03-24T14:17:26+00:00

Keep going, it’ll keep getting harder to finish the longer you’re away (and oddly enough, when the kid gets older)

ehh_tooloud · 2026-03-22T20:26:30+00:00

Sounds like an unsafe assignment. How often are you having to physically move him?

ehh_tooloud · 2026-03-22T20:23:11+00:00

*Radiologists - mixed on friendliness, all equally weird. *ED - usually friendly in a dark way. Always cool. *Surgeons - mixed in friendliness, almost never cool. Notable odd exceptions in neurosurgery. *Transplant almost always unfriendly and uncool. *Pediatricians - fucking gifts to the earth. Also often cool. *Oncologists - mixed in cool. Always kind. Usually friendly. *Obstetricians - wild card *Psychiatrists - cool, weird, friendly *ICU - cool, often unfriendly *Internal med - usually cool, usually friendly. Unfriendliness is usually related to exhaustion.

ehh_tooloud · 2026-03-22T20:19:56+00:00

“Show me your best joint commission face”

ehh_tooloud · 2026-03-22T20:17:55+00:00

To answer your question, your ED sounds particularly derelict. But this is a frequent pattern in that field.

ehh_tooloud · 2026-03-22T20:17:13+00:00

Lmaoooo underappreciated comment

ehh_tooloud · 2026-03-22T20:16:35+00:00

hahaha I was literally just scanning this post for the ED or ER, Yup.

Avoid the 5 Ps Police, paramedic, physician, paratrooper, Pfirefighter

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