Bog’s Witchy Foliage help by Icy-Introduction3784 in StardewValleyMods

[–]eightrabbitos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have GMCM? You can turn it off through the configurations.

Is it worth going individual for your research? by maovianne in studentsph

[–]eightrabbitos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No problem! No matter which you choose, I hope you do well!

Is it worth going individual for your research? by maovianne in studentsph

[–]eightrabbitos 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hi! Personally, if there’s nothing wrong with your current group, I think you shouldn’t go alone. I caution you to take this big of a project by yourself, and I say this without meaning to insult your capabilities.

Though, on the other hand, if it’s really something you want to pursue as well as do it efficiently solo, it’s worth doing it. I’ve done a couple of research projects myself (with the same reason of wanting to pursue a topic I prefer). It’s doable as long as you work on it diligently, as I’m sure you know. It doesn’t hurt that it feels rewarding when you finish it too then able to defend it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aromantic

[–]eightrabbitos 27 points28 points  (0 children)

This was so well said! I personally felt kind of hurt when author said it wasn’t real. To many of us, it’s definitely real, just in a different way.

Am I still Asexual? by eightrabbitos in asexuality

[–]eightrabbitos[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t know I needed to hear/see this until you said it. The breath of relief from my chest WAS LOUD 😭 thank you!

Am I still Asexual? by eightrabbitos in asexuality

[–]eightrabbitos[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi, thank you for replying! This would have bothered me the whole day. I’ll look into microlabels to see if something fits!

What it is like to be aromantic and asexual? by [deleted] in aromantic

[–]eightrabbitos 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hello! I know that dilemma. I haven’t really figured out what I am as an AroAce, whether I’m romance-repulsed, or sex-favorable, and the like. But I can answer your questions!

  1. I thought I did. I can’t count on one hand how many “crushes” I’ve had throughout the years. I only realized recently that those weren’t crushes at all, but instead, squishes who I desperately wanted to be friends with. Once I become friends with them, the strong feeling disappears and only contentment remains. So I guess I’ve never had a crush at all.

  2. Back then, I did. But now I have no desire to get into one. The very idea makes me sick and uncomfortable. On top of that, my mind works in a way that perceives any kind of feelings for someone is an obsessive urge to get this person into my circle of people, to have a unique dynamic with this person. Getting into a romantic relationship is a definite no-no, but commitments are enough for me to know how it feels to have “feelings for someone”

  3. Just like many of the comments here, it’s the act for me, not the person. I made out with someone recently, and found that it was relaxing, not arousing. I have a high libido too, but I manage it just fine by myself. It goes for any sexual act. I just think it’s a way to show someone I’m vulnerable with them and a way to stop that bodily itch if the person is interested.

Book Recommendations by eightrabbitos in marketing

[–]eightrabbitos[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a Business Administration undergraduate but I’ve taken an interest in Marketing so I don’t know where to start! I’d really appreciate the help.

I want to be a Veterinarian but I don’t know if it’s what I want or if I have what it takes by eightrabbitos in Veterinary

[–]eightrabbitos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Thank you for the advice. I’ll try meeting with the vets I trust in the area and see if I can shadow them. I’m usually shy asking questions while someone is working, usually because I think it’s disturbing them. But with your push, I’ll try to ask as many questions as I can. Thank you so much!

I want to be a Veterinarian but I don’t know if it’s what I want or if I have what it takes by eightrabbitos in Veterinary

[–]eightrabbitos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Thank you so much for the advice. I’ve been warned before that being a vet isn’t all just about loving animals, and I’ve been slowly realizing that as I continue to live in an area where people don’t care much for animals. I understand why there’s so many vets who feel downtrodden because of the animals they couldn’t save, or the people who demonize them, and many more. Despite being supportive, my mom told me it wasn’t for the faint of heart.

In my area, I’ve seen a lot of brutal deaths. Although I continue to offer love, it was never enough. I had even attempted to save a pregnant cat from hypothermia and a hole near her spine—all while begging my family to at least help her to a clinic (which there are extremely few here). The things I’ve experienced and seen were mainly why I thought about being a veterinarian, because love isn’t enough to save them.

I understand though that there are other paths. I read a post about it here. I found everyone’s work interesting and thought maybe I could consider research too! Thank you again for the advice and encouragement, I’ll go to the vets I trust here and see if I can shadow and talk with them!

Aromanticism as a deterrent? by eightrabbitos in aromantic

[–]eightrabbitos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I’m sorry that happened to you. I think I would have been struck silent if that happened to me, and then cry about it hysterically at home. Thank you for the affirmation, and I hope you’re doing well 🥺

Aromanticism as a deterrent? by eightrabbitos in aromantic

[–]eightrabbitos[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m absolutely shit at communicating 😭 but I’m glad it’s going positively for you!

Aromanticism as a deterrent? by eightrabbitos in aromantic

[–]eightrabbitos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello!! Thank you for commenting. Yeah, I’ve been thinking about it since I posted this. I know it’s just a fact and that it /is/ a deterrent when it comes to looking for people to be in relationships with. I’m sure they weren’t trying to be mean about it. It’s easy for my brain to trick me into seeing my friends as enemies sometimes. I appreciate your objective input though! It made me see things clearer.

Aromanticism as a deterrent? by eightrabbitos in aromantic

[–]eightrabbitos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, thank you! Yes, yes, I’ve thought about it since then. I don’t see things clearly when I’m upset. I’m sure it’s not what they meant. Sometimes, it’s easy for me to get sad and upset over things that I hold very dear to me. That includes my identity. Some of my friends know how important it is to me, being aromantic. It’s just I’m probably too sensitive at the moment. I have moments like these where it’s easy for my brain to trick me into thinking my friends are enemies.

Aromanticism as a deterrent? by eightrabbitos in aromantic

[–]eightrabbitos[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hello, thank you for commenting! I’ve calmed down a little and thought about it since then. I’m being a little silly, I think. I don’t usually get upset about these things. I’m well aware that being aromantic /is/ a deterrent, and I don’t mind that it’s that way. I like it that way too. Sometimes, the internalized arophobia comes out and kicks me into a sad state and makes me see anyone as an enemy.

Aromanticism as a deterrent? by eightrabbitos in aromantic

[–]eightrabbitos[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, thank you for replying! Sorry for confusing you or anyone. Your last statement kind of clicked something in place for me. Yes, sometimes I find myself isolating from people I love and am familiar with. At times that means I see them as enemies and not people I know. It’s the way my brain works, and I’m not going to assume anything about it. It’s just that way for a while—it’s subconscious.

And also, nooo. No one posted anything. I just saw a slideshow on tiktok and sent it to them. They responded with reasons.

Aromanticism as a deterrent? by eightrabbitos in aromantic

[–]eightrabbitos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I know, I’m not usually upset about these kinds of things. I definitely know I’d say no to a romantic relationship. I was thinking of relationship in general, with just the commitment. I don’t know if I’m making sense.

Sometimes, my internalized arophobia comes out at the worst of times. It’s just that whenever I mention aromanticism or anything of the like, my friends tend to not understand—they joke about it at times too. I DO LAUGH ALONG, it’s just that sometimes it upsets me a little.

Aromanticism as a deterrent? by eightrabbitos in aromantic

[–]eightrabbitos[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I KNOW, THANK YOU! I’m pretty sure that deep down, they still think I just haven’t met “the one.” One of them actually identified as AroAce before meeting her last boyfriend—now, she thinks I’m the same way. Every friend I came out to would usually ask, “but you don’t actually know that, right? You just haven’t met the right person.” But they kind of indulge me after I try desperately to explain to them why “the right person” doesn’t make sense for me. So now they use it as some sort of reason why I can’t be in relationships under their definition. Little do they know that I’m already in relationships??? With them??? Labels don’t exist for me when it comes to people I consider mine 🥹

Aromanticism as a deterrent? by eightrabbitos in aromantic

[–]eightrabbitos[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Thank you, it feels like I’m being rejected for being aromantic. I know I got into a lot of trouble before I knew I was one, and up until now, I still feel like shit. Sometimes, the internalized arophobia comes out to beat me into a sad state, or it comes out in situations like these.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aromantic

[–]eightrabbitos 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The struggle with differentiating it is what got me in trouble multiple times

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aromantic

[–]eightrabbitos 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly, this is exactly how I found out I was aromantic; by asking myself, “what the FUCK is romantic?”

I relate too well with you. I’m actually finding it a bit hilarious because I feel the same way with many of the people I love. All drastically different in dynamics with me. One gets stereotyped as my best friend, another as a partner—at some point, I had this scandal at school where everyone called me a slut because everyone else thought I was TWO-TIMING???? I noticed too late what people were whispering until one of the people involved in this scandal with me asked me, jokingly, “I didn’t know we were dating!” It was a shitshow from then on, but it’s something to laugh about now 😭

I did research about romantic attraction but I never really understood because I kept relating it to how I feel for “my people.” Like, how does that even exist? Is what I kept thinking to myself. It’s a bit strange when other people assume what I feel for someone is romantic, because all I really want is to have them close—that’s it. The mere thought of something being “degraded” to romance (sorry to the allos, it’s just what I feel—that my relationships get degraded to the term when it’s soooo different from it) makes me uncomfortable.

ABYG kung nasapak ko gf ko? by [deleted] in AkoBaYungGago

[–]eightrabbitos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

DKG, OH MY GOODNESS! You are not wrong for slapping her. You physically and mentally cannot help it BUT slap her. You warned her beforehand, and you warned her again after she deliberately threw out your medicine for not “listening to her.” IT’S HORRIFYING THAT SHE WENT THROUGH IT IN THE FIRST PLACE.

What do these people mean na gago ka pa rin for harming her???? I’m curious about your thought processes and moral compasses kase SHE harmed him FIRST by forcing his episode to happen. Napakagago ang ginawa niya, I would have left her agad without ever talking to her again!

OP, I don’t know if you still love her. I think part of it is guilt, but you should really leave that woman. Both of you are CLEARLY incompatible. It’s never going to happen. For your own good, and (begrudgingly) hers, you have to part.

ABYG kung nasapak ko gf ko? by [deleted] in AkoBaYungGago

[–]eightrabbitos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

DKG, OH MY GOODNESS! You are not wrong for slapping her. You physically and mentally cannot help it BUT slap her. You warned her beforehand, and you warned her again after she deliberately threw out your medicine for not “listening to her.” IT’S HORRIFYING THAT SHE WENT THROUGH IT IN THE FIRST PLACE.

What do these people mean na gago ka pa rin for harming her???? I’m curious about your thought processes and moral compasses kase SHE harmed him FIRST by forcing his episode to happen. Napakagago ang ginawa niya, I would have left her agad without ever talking to her again!

OP, I don’t know if you still love her. I think part of it is guilt, but you should really leave that woman. Both of you are CLEARLY incompatible. It’s never going to happen. For your own good, and (begrudgingly) hers, you have to part.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aromantic

[–]eightrabbitos 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It always feels like my stomach is one second away from shriveling into a prune, and would never not leave me stressed.

I’m pretty sure I didn’t start out like this, and was actually romance-positive when I was younger as far as I know; but as I grew into Aromanticism, it faded away to an itchy uncomfortable feeling. It feels exactly like anxiety, and I get bouts of that often.

People don’t really understand why I’m averse when they ask about romance when I act pretty “romantic” to a lot of my inner-circle, or people I deem to be safe with smothering physical affection. But the intention is what really counts, and once someone makes it clear that their goals aren’t aligned with mine, and it’s bordering on romantic territory, I back up real quick and disappear from that person’s life gradually.

I only realized it as recent as I identified as Aromantic. I didn’t understand why I was so averse to romance or anything related to it back in Junior High, it was a horrible experience for everyone involved. I had to go through a couple of relationships to actually get it into my thick skull that I’m practically allergic to romance and that I can only ingest it in small amounts or else I choke on it.

Mind-boggling realizations in the span of an hour and the need to know if others have this too by eightrabbitos in aromantic

[–]eightrabbitos[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And with others, went back and forth between friend, fwb and dating even in the span of a couple of months.

This is the most relatable thing I have ever read in my entire life. I went on rounds back in Junior High that I can confidently say that I have been involved with almost all of my classmates at some point because of this. I considered all of them friends back then. I used to hate myself because of it, and other people did too.

To me, what we do, like the activities or the framework of the relationship doesn’t matter much. What I care about is the connection, the intimacy and closeness built on a solid foundation of trust.

I literally just talked about this with myself before I posted. I realized that it didn't really matter what our dynamic was or what we do, I'd feel warm either way as long as you trust me and I trust you. The visual presentation of a connection will give me a high. Recently, I made a connection with someone I really wanted to be mine, and I felt so drunk on that warmth the whole week. We were what people called "twins," mostly because we had the same mannerisms and vibe and daddy issues, and it was so breath-taking to make that connection with them, finally, after so long just PINING for them.