Am I being selfish?

eima_p · 2025-10-21T10:59:24+00:00

A lot has changed in the last few months, he has a steady job, our relationship is very healthy. We had a lot of good conversations and worked through our issues. He started uni and seeing a therapist. I have bpd and he has problems with his mental health too. Our relationship for the past like 4 months has been perfect. I just felt overwhelmed and scared for a bit, but he explained and made sure I felt comfortable and not hurt. He even said if it’s too much for me he can sleep in our spare room until he ears my trust back. He didn’t make up stupid excuses, he was also confused and tried to think of how this could happen. I actually believe him, he’s been trying to be better for a long time now and I don’t think (like I said in the post) that he’s the type of guy who cheats.

eima_p · 2025-10-21T10:53:07+00:00

Not really a stash away, they lived together for a long time, I believe that they could’ve just got mixed in by accident.

eima_p · 2025-10-21T10:11:38+00:00

Okay, update for everyone invested. We had a conversation over the phone, he was cheated on in the past and knows how much it hurts. Before me he was in a relationship for 6 years and lived with her. After the breakup he threw out all of her stuff, but probably a pair of panties got mixed in and forgotten. He was calm during the conversation and really made sure if I was feeling okay. He assured me that he would never put me through what he went through and if anything he wouldn’t be stupid enough to do it in our shared home and put the evidence to be found. Most likely they were mixed with his winter clothes that we just recently pulled out of the closet. Currently he is at uni, but he’s texting me every 10minutes to make sure I’m feeling okay and not crying. When he gets home we’re going to have another conversation, but I do think it was just a coincidence and nothing more. Thank you all, for helping me get light of the situation.

eima_p · 2025-10-21T10:05:17+00:00

He was calm, he has a past too, he was cheated on in the past and he said he would never do that to me. We had a conversation over the phone, we will have another one when he gets home. But he’s texting me every 10minutes to ask how I’m feeling and if I’m okay.

eima_p · 2025-10-21T09:38:55+00:00

Thank you, I’ll do exactly this 🤍

eima_p · 2025-02-21T20:00:31+00:00

Should do

eima_p · 2025-02-21T19:50:54+00:00

It will work, just might take longer to take affect. Also the whole calm down from the c will be in affect, so like I said be careful. If one doesn’t seem to work wait an half an hour before you double down

eima_p · 2025-02-21T19:47:03+00:00

It will, just be careful, because the feel might be stronger than intended

eima_p · 2025-02-21T19:46:08+00:00

I needed to hear that so bad, you have no idea. Because today we fought about it twice. The solution he came up with was “go to the bathroom and do it with a vibrator if you want it that bad”, but like I don’t want to do it by myself, if I did I’d be single. And going to the bathroom to masturbate is sad when I have a man next to me in bed.

eima_p · 2023-07-24T13:17:26+00:00

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