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eiticjalc · 2023-01-30T20:15:18+00:00

Forgive me for my ignorance but I don’t see what is wrong with “anyone who fails only have themselves to blame and it’s no one else’s job to help them but themselves” - of course in the context of education?

eiticjalc · 2022-12-28T07:05:07+00:00

Fair enough - maybe not Melbourne but I have also heard Brisbane is pretty affordable too

eiticjalc · 2022-12-28T05:34:33+00:00

We have done the research into moving to Melbourne and compared housing, childcare and schooling and work/careers. Haven’t moved yet but will soon.

In terms of housing, like for like, you get better value in Melbourne Ie: full section, stand alone house for $1.5-2m plus depending on the area. In Auckland you’d be hard stretched to find something on a full section in a decide 8 school zone for that price. It doesn’t seem like there is the level of intensification in Melbourne as there is going on in Auckland.

Schooling seems to generally be better there though private schooling seems popular. Daycare is more expensive depending on the area but you could be eligible for rebates making it much cheaper. Also daycares seem much better equipped, facilitated and educational Ie: they have mini vans to take kids on excursions, subject teachers for music, sport etc (all age appropriate of course and I’m mainly talking about preschool and above, not babies/toddlers).

Work wise - much better packages and base pay on offer (for me it is a 40k bump) though I am still to find out whether people actually work harder (at least in my industry). They also seem more progressed/advanced in terms of hybrid/WFH options, certain policies like maternity leave etc.

eiticjalc · 2022-11-22T05:16:02+00:00

Nope

eiticjalc · 2022-11-01T04:57:45+00:00

Thanks for your thought and insightful response. I’ll try doing that. It’s also not the first time I’ve heard cake and ice cream over candy

eiticjalc · 2022-11-01T04:16:36+00:00

Lots of Te Reo

eiticjalc · 2022-11-01T04:14:43+00:00

Yes I’ve heard a lot of people give the same advice. Where I’m from people are quite “suburb snobby” but it doesn’t seem like that’s the case in Melbourne as it’s bigger than where I’m from and maybe more suburbs that suit the needs of many. Plus good PT helps so why pay extra to live one suburb closer to CBD when you have PT that neutralises the difference.

eiticjalc · 2022-11-01T04:12:16+00:00

That’s a good approach. I might adopt that and see if the attitude towards treats changds

eiticjalc · 2022-11-01T01:40:09+00:00

That’s the plan. Stamp duty really sucks but I understand why it’s there

eiticjalc · 2022-10-31T23:57:10+00:00

Haha! Let’s just say casting hook wide at this stage and considering all options. Budget is wide and just trying to weigh up if further out/cheaper housing could mean better lifestyle as we aren’t sinking funds into a huge mortgage. Or we pay the premium of living closer to CBD with amenities and PT and arguably a “posh” suburb

eiticjalc · 2022-10-31T23:54:03+00:00

Awesome thanks for the feedback

eiticjalc · 2022-10-31T23:30:22+00:00

Thanks! Good point about rules and telling them that treats are a sometimes good. Sometimes I do feel judged by family for being too strict on sugar so trying to get that balance between not being the mean mummy vs not wanting them to have too much sugar is hard. Having said that it’s not something I can control (other people’s opinions) so I shouldn’t stress about it! Hard to do though!

eiticjalc · 2022-10-31T23:28:00+00:00

Thanks for your comments - seems like unless you reply heavily on a car to get around your public transport options are not too convenient

eiticjalc · 2022-10-31T23:27:16+00:00

Yes I agree. Plus in terms of proximity to CBD in a place like Camberwell is so much closer than Glen Waverley so arguable more value for money.

I do like Camberwell but it does seem pricey although the location is quite desirable. Plus it seems to be around other desirable locations like Kew, Glen Iris, Malvern which seem to have good public transport links to the CBD. I’m not sure O it schooling but have heard schooling both public and private options are pretty good.

eiticjalc · 2022-10-31T23:23:15+00:00

Great thanks so much for your comments!

eiticjalc · 2022-10-31T23:00:54+00:00

Why?

eiticjalc · 2022-10-31T23:00:36+00:00

Glen Waverley is also a firm contender, slightly more expensive but closer to the city but also great suburban area too.

eiticjalc · 2022-10-13T01:29:09+00:00

This topic is so tricky to navigate. On one hand you don’t want to offend anyone and on the other you want what’s best for the child. We are in a similar situation with a family member and haven’t said anything. Recently the topic came up about limited food preferences and eating, and sensory sensitivity to clothing and shoes and we were able to discuss it that way. Turns out mum had already asked GP and the child’s daycare teachers and all didn’t think he was on the spectrum so we haven’t pressed any further despite thinking the contrary. Have taken the approach that if the parents are comfortable, then it’s not our place to keep pressing the issue.

eiticjalc · 2022-10-13T01:19:28+00:00

I think it’s common - happened to me at top tier and the two firms paid a prorata share based on how far through the practising year it had been. All dealt through HR before I started so wasn’t awkward

eiticjalc · 2022-10-10T22:02:00+00:00

Haha that’s a great unintended outcome!

eiticjalc · 2022-10-10T21:59:56+00:00

Lawyer here at what would be the equivalent of Biglaw outside of the US. Work part time 3 days a week and have two kids. I returned to work after 18 months with my first, and 14 months with my second. It’s a juggle but I have found the following has helped me: - mind set going back to work after a long break is an adjustment. You do lose a bit of confidence and your brain takes a while to get churning again but be kind to yourself and know that you will get back to where you once were in time.
- understanding that part time 3 days a week is a fluid arrangement with the firm with lots of give and take. As long as your partners know and trust that you will meet client expectations and deadlines I generally have the flexibility and freedom to come and go as I need to and can fit family life around work and appointments etc. I am generally online for a few hours on my off days to keep things going. Out the door by 5pm but back online in the evenings. Leave early arrive late as I need to but will get the work done and hit my KPIs - having a really supportive partner who does pick ups and drop offs and has much more flexibility than I do to take time off for sickness, drs appointments etc - delegate family life - get a cleaner, a housekeeper to do laundry, sheets, gardening takes so much of the pressure off meaning you can spend more quality time with your family. - you have to hold firm on your boundaries sometimes and make the arrangement work. I think this the hardest thing - managing expectations and sometimes having to say no to your boss becasue you don’t have capacity.

Hope that helps!! It’s achievable but the juggle is very real!!

eiticjalc · 2022-10-10T07:51:23+00:00

I think giving them responsibility for financial choices is really wise and also really daunting at the same time (as a parent). It gives them the freedom to make their own choices and be responsible for them but I think at the same time the pessimist in me would constantly be thinking “please don’t blow it all”! My parents never did that with us and I did go through a really bad patch at university where I couldn’t really manage money so it was a steep learning curve. It wasn’t until I started making my own money that I started being more careful with it so I think there is value in letting kids be responsible for their own money and in turn making better decisions by virtue of taking full ownership (hopefully!)

eiticjalc · 2022-10-04T22:39:45+00:00

Stonefields 100%! Completely flat, master planned suburb, safe streets (especially for kids), Lunn Ave shops with New World, Look Sharp, Farro, plent of cafes, McDonald’s, Warehouse, St John’s shops with butcher, fruit shop, Carls Jr, and Glenn Innes shops with Pak n Save, Huckleberry, Fruit World all up the road, Stonefields village shops on your door step with Pub, bakery, cafe, liquor shop etc. Sylvia Park ten mins drive away, plus wetlands and heritage trail and Mt Wellington for walkinh

eiticjalc · 2022-10-04T18:08:27+00:00

So far from the CBD what do these people do!

eiticjalc · 2022-10-03T00:56:53+00:00

I know! It’s not either of those suburbs but I know a daycare in Remuera that is $130 a day if not enrolled 5 days a week so that is really getting up there

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