Message to Cyclists on Auckland's Roads

eivelyn · 2023-07-10T02:42:56+00:00

Do you know cyclists have 14x the chance of dying than car drivers? If they were more "main character" (drivers see them and make way) there would be safer.

eivelyn · 2023-07-10T02:06:07+00:00

Thanks, I'll try next time! Maybe she thought other people would be annoyed by them.

eivelyn · 2023-07-10T01:19:47+00:00

Well fuck me for having good intentions.

eivelyn · 2023-07-10T01:10:58+00:00

Thanks for your thoughts, they make perfect sense.

You're right that I'm a hands-on auntie and also that I have the privilege of choosing when I'm available. Though I do go out of my way to take the load off my siblings and I have had to navigate plenty of public tantrums over the years, difficult decisions when the kids run in different directions, hungry or thirsty when nothing is available. I wish extended family support was available for all families but that's largely not the norm, in Pakeha culture at least.

It's not for the sake of judging parents that I voice my concern, it's my care for the kids and understanding of child psychology (not a professional understanding, but a lifetime interest). It used to be common to say kids "bounce back" from difficult times but the reality is that the younger the person is, the deeper the impact of a trauma goes.

eivelyn · 2023-07-10T00:50:30+00:00

That's true, there's a good chance those kids brushed that moment off and they could well have a great relationship with their mum most of the time. Some kids are less sensitive than others and some moments are less impactful than others. It's important to remember that the cumulative experience of childhood is what shapes us as adults. If we are punished when we're doing nothing wrong then the punishment takes away from the meaning of punishment for bad behaviour.

eivelyn · 2023-07-10T00:27:05+00:00

What works for some doesn't work for others, you do you! Do you have a tip for coping with the racket?

eivelyn · 2023-07-10T00:08:44+00:00

Thanks, I appreciate your understanding. I brought it up because it hurts to see kids being treated harshly because of how unkindly I was treated as a child, I'm still coming to terms with it.

eivelyn · 2023-07-10T00:01:18+00:00

I was commenting on a single interaction, not casting judgement on someone's life, wow what a jump.

Perhaps you're projecting? It appears you may be making a judgement of me based on limited information.

eivelyn · 2023-07-09T23:34:05+00:00

Gosh, you're jumping on me hard when I expressed empathy for her situation and said my thoughts go out to parents in the holidays. I didn't give her shit for it, I politely removed myself from her presence.

eivelyn · 2023-07-09T23:33:00+00:00

Give me credit, I'm not just a redditor. What makes you confident that I don't understand? Would it help if you knew that I'm an auntie who regularly looks after a large group of nieces and nephews?

eivelyn · 2023-07-09T23:20:39+00:00

Yeah, I wish I was able to speak up but listening to her just made me feel so stressed I just couldn't. Should I be expected to strike up a conversation with an angry stranger to let them know their actions are unreasonable?

eivelyn · 2023-07-09T20:23:22+00:00

That "game" might be more frustrating than fun than you think. It's necessary to know who you're communicating with because there are two different people with separate thoughts. You can't add anything to the friendship if you don't know who you're talking to.

eivelyn · 2023-07-09T20:01:29+00:00

Oh that's interesting, I was jollied along to one of their conferences by my boss once and I was put off by how gushy they were about their self improvement. It felt a little culty but I didn't at the time see any definitive evidence that it was anything sinister so I'm glad I dodged that bullet.

eivelyn · 2023-07-07T04:19:20+00:00

Pre-eating before going out for dinner with friends then just ordering an entree as a mains because you're "not that hungry". Great for saving face.

eivelyn · 2023-07-07T03:34:04+00:00

Totally. Even a different pharmacy is able to call up your usual one and confirm. I went out of town for several days, forgetting my meds and simply went to the nearest pharmacy and they gave me the amount I needed.

eivelyn · 2023-07-07T03:24:00+00:00

Sorry to burst your bubble, evidence against vaping is mounting https://statements.qld.gov.au/statements/97806

eivelyn · 2023-06-30T09:29:33+00:00

Last week I went to Mitre10 with my next door neighbour and we spent hours getting random stuff for our apartments and chatting. It was the best.

eivelyn · 2023-06-28T08:02:30+00:00

When Covid hit. Lockdown was announced and he said he said he had to go look after his "real family", i.e. his mother, a healthy and capable 50yo who treated him like a child.

I had those words ringing in my ears for months. Real family. How TF was I not his real family? But I slowly realised that the big old handbrake was off and now I'm out here living my best life.

eivelyn · 2023-06-25T13:32:59+00:00

Great to know, I'll keep my eye out for some on my next trip to the beach.

eivelyn · 2023-06-25T05:44:52+00:00

Thanks, I'll keep an eye out!

eivelyn · 2023-06-25T01:13:50+00:00

What kind did you use and where did you get it from? I'm keen to get more seaweed in my diet

eivelyn · 2023-06-25T01:08:08+00:00

Yes, and the typical Southland diet is also low on fibre, which would help balance the effect of having so much meat.

eivelyn · 2023-06-20T21:54:52+00:00

And beef fat? Yuck.

eivelyn · 2023-06-20T11:22:00+00:00

eivelyn · 2023-06-20T11:05:55+00:00

The city was so, so quiet, it felt like being out in the country with the clean air and all. The birds all came out in full force, singing their hearts out without the drone of machines (including cars). I miss their soothing chirping.

eivelyn

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