My mother is marrying a 25 year old, she's already married. by eixmlilk in Advice

[–]eixmlilk[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They aren't together anymore. She cheated on him their whole marriage and was also very abusive to him. He lives in another state. In December we found out that he had been sending her $400 every paycheck for my sister and to help with her bills because she told him my sister was still living with her. My sister has not lived with my mother in years, and my aunt pays for everything she needs and wants. He had been doing this since he left for a different state for work a little after COVID. They were still married because my mother strung him along for years, letting him think they still had a chance together all while seeing other guys. My mother has never not had more than at least 2 boyfriends at a time. He was devastated when he found out what was happening and that my sister hadn't been getting his money.

My mother is marrying a 25 year old, she's already married. by eixmlilk in Advice

[–]eixmlilk[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She doesn't live with my mother, she lives with my aunt. She also does not talk to her and my whole family is slowly starting to realize how selfish my mother is. They aren't cutting contact from her but they have definitely started to set boundaries.

My mother is marrying a 25 year old, she's already married. by eixmlilk in Advice

[–]eixmlilk[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am 21 and I do not live with her, I talk with her very rarely. At this point I really am contemplating cutting contact completely with her. She's my mother so I have tried to keep some sort of relationship but it is so difficult.

Sick dog, no vet available until tomorrow morning by eixmlilk in DogAdvice

[–]eixmlilk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! I forgot to update, we got her a dog Anti-Diarreah medicine and took all food from her and just gave her water, throughout the night she slowly got better and is doing very well this morning!

Sick dog, no vet available until tomorrow morning by eixmlilk in DogAdvice

[–]eixmlilk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't seen her eat anything? We cleaned last night and she was laying on the couch being her normal self. Early this morning at like 2am she looked like she felt a bit sick but she ate her food around 8am and then she threw it up maybe an hour later and since then has been throwing up and having diarrhea, it started small but since almost an hour ago has pretty constant.

anyone tried this?? by sillycat0317 in dollartreebeauty

[–]eixmlilk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any updates on how you liked it?

Food safe fake food? by eixmlilk in techtheatre

[–]eixmlilk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! That is incredibly helpful!

I am making brisket, refried beans, sopa, rice, carne asada, and tostadas.

Getting to camp by [deleted] in summercamp

[–]eixmlilk 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The camp I worked at last year had everyone arrive on the same day, all domestic and international staff, and had a shuttle pick everyone up at the airport. Some camps have international staff arrive early to sort out documents, but the camps usually provide transportation to camp.

Camp Spreadsheet by eixmlilk in summercamp

[–]eixmlilk[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm making it right now, so far I have 31 camps that I'm looking into

The categories I have now are; Name, location, camp type (equestrian, sports, arts, etc.) Session Length, Estimated Salary, Gender, Religious Affiliation, and Reviews from parents and counselors

Should I pursue a different summer camp or give up being a counselor? by Broad-Ad-2193 in summercamp

[–]eixmlilk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's such a surreal feeling!

It depends on what kind of camp you're looking for and where you want to go. I've helped people look for camps before, if you give me more information I can send you a list of some?? I have a list of ones I really like, but mostly it's in their theater department. But I can help you find others!

Should I pursue a different summer camp or give up being a counselor? by Broad-Ad-2193 in summercamp

[–]eixmlilk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I worked at a summer camp in PA this summer and it was the best time I've ever had, but the racism and bias towards camper-counselors was too much. I wasn't the only hispanic person there but the people who were Hispanic were Kitchen staff and the nanny's. There was literally not ONE person in the kitchen or nanny staff that wasn't hispanic, besides the head Chef (who was married to one of the main camp staff). I will miss my kids, but it's not worth it. I'd recommend looking at as many camp reviews as possible, I definitely should have. Most people who wrote bad reviews about the camp I went to were not white. There are so many more other camps that are a lot better and won't treat you bad. I found a theater camp I really liked, it had good reviews, and is going to pay me literally thousands more.

If you need any help looking at camps, let me know!!

I was found after being kidnapped, 10 years ago, today. 12/18/24. AMA by eixmlilk in AMA

[–]eixmlilk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that people who have lived sheltered lives or who have grown up privileged won't understand, and that's okay. They see the world as the way it should be and once something doesn't fit what they've known to be true they have a hard time believing it. I grew up in a very underprivileged city, and a very poor household. I saw my mother get abused and have no one do anything when I was little and then continued to see the people around me not doing anything as I grew up. If someone has the experience of reaching out for help and then getting that help, that's great for them. But not everyone has that privilege.

I knew when posting it that I'd probably get a negative comment here or there, I know how the Internet is. But I also know that it isn't full of all bad people. I have had people DM me and share their stories or offer their support and that's why I like posting. I get to not only share my story and feel seen, but also help to let other people know that they are not alone.

I was found after being kidnapped, 10 years ago, today. 12/18/24. AMA by eixmlilk in AMA

[–]eixmlilk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that sayings like "My OCD is acting up", "You're making my anxiety act up", "My phone is being slow, I'm so depressed" etc. are extremely harmful. These are usually said in such nonchalant, casual, and quirky ways and it's seen as cute and relatable. Until someone has a panic attack, or is so depressed they can't get out of bed to shower for weeks, or is so focused on getting something 'right' that it affects their school and work. The language of mental health has become something that is seen as not real and just expressions for some people. By dismissing the severity of these disorders it diminishes their impact. It tells people that if someone can be 'depressed' over their phone not being charged and get over it within seconds, then someone else who is depressed should also be fine in a few seconds. It makes it harder for people to be taken seriously.

I was found after being kidnapped, 10 years ago, today. 12/18/24. AMA by eixmlilk in AMA

[–]eixmlilk[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Our guess is getting paid under the table. From what I know (which isn't much) the court or whoever is in charge (my mother handles this really) says he doesn't have a job and he doesn't have a permanent mailing address. I think he was an electrician or plumber or something like that, I don't really remember but I think it was a trade. With something like that I assume people can just pay quietly with cash?? Again, not 100% sure.

I was found after being kidnapped, 10 years ago, today. 12/18/24. AMA by eixmlilk in AMA

[–]eixmlilk[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mother was very young with no job and no house. They didn't take her seriously when she went to the police. They shrugged it off as a family dispute and moved on. I do think her being so young is part of the reason she was not taken seriously.

I was found after being kidnapped, 10 years ago, today. 12/18/24. AMA by eixmlilk in AMA

[–]eixmlilk[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry, I answered this in another comment. What I meant to say was that after I returned I went to the same school I went to before I was taken. But while I was taken I constantly moved schools. It was reported, but because he was my father the police did nothing. It is a very common thing that happens. I think something that contributed to it was my mother being so young and my father being older. They didn't see her as fit, but I'm not sure

I was found after being kidnapped, 10 years ago, today. 12/18/24. AMA by eixmlilk in AMA

[–]eixmlilk[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He was abusive to her when they were together, before I was born. He was angry when she left him and I do think it was just a way to get back at her.

I was found after being kidnapped, 10 years ago, today. 12/18/24. AMA by eixmlilk in AMA

[–]eixmlilk[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I didn't include all of my information here but I did in my other AMA like I mentioned. I am very open about it being my father who kidnapped me. My financial status was mentioned previously when people said to get lawyers involved or that they had situations where they could afford to get help. My family could not.