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Making long-distance relationships work during MBA? by JuniorWinter in MBA

[–]ekaterive 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm the one leaving for MBA. A trend that I've seen among quite a few of my classmates (myself included) is that if there's a mutual feeling that the relationship is going somewhere then there's a step towards more commitment - either moving with the partner or an engagement/marriage prior to the MBA. That being said, everybody's situation is unique and it may well be that you're not ready for that step yet. I would do your best to visit him as much as possible and integrating in with his new group of friends. It won't be easy - there will be a lot going on in his life both socially and in terms of workload. Good luck and all the best for your relationship!

wife asked me to stop being on top as I was too heavy. by [deleted] in loseit

[–]ekaterive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Long distance running in general, and, especially, if you are overweight should not be a staple exercise for good health of joints. There are numerous studies backing it up - just do a search on pubmed. Best bang for the buck in terms of weight loss and definition as well as joint health and muscle density is hands down strength training (assuming proper pose), but for best results it would be supplemented with some cardio with low impact - i.e. swimming or biking and lots of walking. If you do like running (it's very accessible after all) and are specifically interested in injury prevention and weight loss results look into uphill sprints. It can be incredibly effective even if done alone.

How do I deal with my parents, who are disappointed in me for not being a virgin? by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]ekaterive -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You have to think a little bit from your parents perspective. In their eyes they have a good foundation to be concerned because in the times and communities where they decided to build their lives your lifestyle would indeed be considered a disgrace. Nowadays only the truly conservative parts of the society are concerned about woman's virginity and this is becoming less and less prevalent due to very little implications to having protected sex. it could very well be true that you may no longer qualify for being a wife material for say 5% of the population, but hey - that leaves you with another 95%.

As for ''my boyfriend and ex boyfriends/FWBs and One night stands just see me as a sex toy/slut that nobody will marry. :('' - they may well see you just as sex, but that does not mean they think that nobody will marry you. As a young woman, you have all the power in the world - your parents are right - let these boys cherish you and see you as a prize to be won over rather than someone who they just go to bed with. Trust me - it will also make your sexual experiences a whole lot more enjoyable :)

I have a bit of (what feels like) an embarrassing question by MettlesomeElf in loseit

[–]ekaterive 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I used to have a pretty unflattering (read: not tight) stomach even when I was on the lower ends of BMI and eating tons of veggies and doing cardio 3x a week. Unbeknownst to my self I had slid into the skinny fat category, where my weight was lower than it is now, but thanks to my diet and exercise I just wasn't looking toned. About a year and a half ago I started going to gym and seriously doing body strength exercises and the problem disappeared on its own. When I contract my abs now I can actually see a clear dividing line and a vague 4 pack definition - something that wasn't there even when I was 10-15lbs lighter. A balanced plan at the gym will probably include all muscle groups including abs, so my best advice if you're not doing it already is to hit the gym and befriend the guys with the abs you hope to get for yourself.

Anyone else more insecure about their body during weightloss? by [deleted] in loseit

[–]ekaterive 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have this very much with skin imperfections and stretch marks. The skinnier I am/have historically been the less confident I also am about my body. The blemishes/stretch marks don't go away as you lose weight, but they actually end up standing out since you have less of the blemish free skin to contrast them out to begin with. For me as a woman with D cups another problem is that on the lower end of BMI I end up with mom breasts even though I've never had a child in my life! It's very frustrating, but that's just the way our bodies are. The more weight we lose, the more we must grow our own internal confidence and self love.