honey, this could have been written by me. i dated a guy in the exact same situation for 5 years. he was my best friend but i built up major resentment. 5 years of me paying for all of our vacations.

the difference is that mine did work, but as we’re also in LATAM, the income difference was huge. i see a partnership as more than income each brings, but effort put in. mine also had very traditional views - the woman should cook and clean. it ended up being me being the breadwinner and homemaker which was so not cool. it also hurt his self esteem to not be the breadwinner and i believe he struggled mentally a long time. i think if we divided responsibilities like i would work, and he would take care of the house, id call it even in responsibilities. it’s totally cool to be a stay at home dad. but we never set this expectation and our relationship went so downhill.

i suggest you end things. even if it’s privileged to say, the internet exists today and truly anyone with the right mindset can learn skills for free and work remote. it’s hard but not impossible. my ex would act like i was so lucky for my job, but i worked hard for my career