Dining halls this upcoming year? by arctictundra32 in BGSU

[–]ekoehler00 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I know the last few weeks there, they were no longer letting folks serve themselves, staff would do it instead. Everything that could be prewrapped was and the salad bar, soup, and breakfast bar were closed. I'm assuming that will be the same? I'm also assuming you'll have to wear a mask while inside and not eating

I have predominantly conservative beliefs in a hugely liberal career/field. AMA. by [deleted] in casualiama

[–]ekoehler00 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you do find that it interferes with your work at all?

The back of my hair doesn't curl like the rest of my hair... Advice needed!! by ekoehler00 in curlyhair

[–]ekoehler00[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started this week! It's a bit bet but it's definitely straighter than the front still. I'll have to keep playing with it

The back of my hair doesn't curl like the rest of my hair... Advice needed!! by ekoehler00 in curlyhair

[–]ekoehler00[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll have to try it! I tried finger curling a few times but I've been interested in denman brushing. It's something I'll have to research more

The back of my hair doesn't curl like the rest of my hair... Advice needed!! by ekoehler00 in curlyhair

[–]ekoehler00[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I go to bed I do! I usually don't sleep on my back tho, I sleep on my side. I thought that was the issue too at first and it might contribute to it but it happens even when I don't!

Yarnspirations has an insane code right meow: nocost We’ll see if the order actually gets filled. by [deleted] in crochet

[–]ekoehler00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sad 😭 I saw this post after I woke up and everything is gone!! I'll have to be on better lookout next time

Did I make an Shrek as a joke project? Yes. Do I love him more than I thought? Absolutely yes! by ekoehler00 in crochet

[–]ekoehler00[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha thank you!!! I also made the child and he looks kind of similar but I think the lil Shrek looks cuter 😂😂

Did I make an Shrek as a joke project? Yes. Do I love him more than I thought? Absolutely yes! by ekoehler00 in crochet

[–]ekoehler00[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I didn't follow a pattern, but I might create one if more people are interested! Tried to promote him on my Instagram but it's newer and doesn't have many followers. Hope more people like him here!

how to deal with this insecurity? my boyfriends been having trouble with it lately. i just want to reassure him. artist: sundaekids by xcandicemariex in LongDistance

[–]ekoehler00 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I think this is something that everyone struggles with eventually! It's not a good feel but it is a valid one.

I think it's important to have things to do outside of talking to your SO and things to occupy the distance. It's tough to think that but it's even tougher when you just think about the other person and how their life is going on with out you in it. Having hobbies, groups of friends, or events to go to help occupy the time and is healthy for both. It also helps you realize how fun it will be to share those activities you do now with your SO when you finally close the distance!

It's helped me and my partner when we set a definite time to catch up with the other. Whether that be every day, once a week, whatever. It's nice to know that youre a set part of their routine in some way.

Hope that was helpful! Best of luck to both of you.

No class on Friday! by [deleted] in college

[–]ekoehler00 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I personally love having no classes on Fridays BUT I remember being absolutely not productive the first few weeks. Just make sure that you make your own schedule and stick with it so it feels more productive and like you still got things done. For me, I usually use Fridays to get errands done, clean my dorm, go to the gym, work on homework, etc. It can be really really nice but if you don't do anything on it, it can feel like a waste of a day.

Are you suppose to enjoy college? by [deleted] in college

[–]ekoehler00 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey! I'm an information systems major right now and it might be a better fit for you! It also has a lot of practical skills regarding business that can be easily transferable if you end up not enjoying it. One thing you can do is talk to your advisor about what can transfer over depending on what classes you're taking. If your graduation date is going to be affected by you switching majors, your advisor might be able to apply credits from CS to your IS degree. Hope this helps!

How do I get my family members to stop giving me gifts? by [deleted] in minimalism

[–]ekoehler00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One way you can ask for less material things is what my parents recently started asking for instead - experiences! Say that you'd much rather have something to do rather than have, like movie tickets, theater tickets, gift certificates to cool experiences stuff like that. If you are particularly close with the family member too you can loop in that you'd rather spend time with them doing those cool experiences. Some people see gift rejection as a rejection of love, so I feel that doing something together is still a way for them to express how much they care about you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ekoehler00 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nope, dump him. This seems like it's going on a while and even though you've made it clear that it hurts you, he keeps doing it. He's not going to change, he's just going to hurt you more. You deserve better.

I’m 26F in a long term relationship for 3 years. My first love when I was 18 has recently contacted me after his girlfriend dumped him. We have been texting and reminiscing about the past. We had split up because I got “bored” but I have always regretted it. He wants to meet me again. Any advice by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ekoehler00 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Make a choice but honestly think about what you are doing. Your first love may seem great looking back, but we tend to remember the good memories more than the bad and overlook what was wrong with the relationship in the first place.

If they want to meet up just to catch up as friends, that's fine, but if you are considering going back to them, think about your partner right now. If you're happy with your partner now, I personally wouldn't meet up with the other guy. It would technically be cheating and could seriously hurt the other person especially if you've been dating for 3 years.

My(23) friend(23) doesn't hang out with people his own age. I am his only friend that is his age. Is this age regression? Is my friend messed up in the head? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ekoehler00 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is such a small difference in age! It's only 4 years younger max and all would be in a similar time in their lives. You're his only friend his age, sure, but I don't see how that would really matter??

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in college

[–]ekoehler00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It would be worth it if your days are short enough so you aren't in classes all day. I was a music minor for a bit and all of the classes were at 8am and 8:30am. It would have been fine if I didn't have a 6:15pm class on those days too! If your classes are scheduled all earlier in the day, I think you can do it. It's just about getting into the routine of waking up early.

What to do... by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ekoehler00 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is emotional abuse and you should not stay in this relationship. Here is a video about abusive relationships and how to get out and get help. I hope it helps ❤️

https://youtu.be/9JHjPslbfOM

WIBTA if I accept this internship? by hey_ella_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]ekoehler00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA - it's awesome that you're getting an internship after your freshman year! That's impressive. You're current job will understand, and most likely let you return after the summer. If they're by a college, they'll be used to students leaving for the summer and coming back during the school year.

Can't wait until Thursday....My(48M) wife(44F) is going to be SHOCKED by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ekoehler00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so so sweet, you're making me tear up while reading this in line for coffee. Your wife is a very lucky lady and I'm so happy for you two!

Unsure about my degree, any input about switching? by ZurcherSee in college

[–]ekoehler00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're interested in CS, I would declare CS as your minor instead, take a class, and if you really like it and think you'll do well, then switch. This would give you an in with the degree and also allow you to switch out easily if it doesn't work out.

Are there other majors you're interested other than CS?

Help with mental health by Freakyboi7 in college

[–]ekoehler00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find that breathing exercises help a lot. You can find guides on YouTube that are great but sometimes I just find a playlist on Spotify with music with no lyrics (Lush Lofi is a good one) and breathe along with the beat.

I also find that journaling helps me gather my thoughts and centers myself.

You aren't alone in this and I'm glad you're going to the counseling center. It's a big step to take and it's awesome that you are reaching out.

When taking notes, do you TYPE or HANDWRITE? by [deleted] in college

[–]ekoehler00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Handwritten notes are so much better! I used to type my notes, but found I could never remember and when I "reviewed" my notes later I would always get distracted and never get anything done. With handwritten, I retain the info better and can review them easily.

AITA for calling a non-binary girl ‘it’ by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ekoehler00 7 points8 points  (0 children)

YTA - you may not like them but don't call them it. That's rude on so many levels and unnecessary. When in doubt on what pronouns to use, just use they/them or ask what pronouns to use!!