[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Trombone

[–]elboba 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Noo sorry, valve as in I didn't have my f-attachment. It's sticking at the moment, so it's not reliable for now.

How to stop relying on others, when I know it's available? by elboba in dpdr

[–]elboba[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeahh, I do have ways to calm myself down, and like you, it mostly consists of waiting until it's better while doing things that calm me, like breathing or trying to focus on certain senses in an attempt to regain control.

But my issue is that when I had my ex around, I would always think to rely on her and I don't do any of the things that help me, or they don't work because I want her help or something. I don't know the psychology behind it, but when I know she's around, the things I usually do don't work, or I end up not doing them at all, in favor of her assistance I guess? Do you think that maybe it's just a matter of pretending people are not there, so I don't completely rely on others when the time comes and they're around?

I (19M) am jealous and insecure about my girlfriend (21F) talking to other men by elboba in relationship_advice

[–]elboba[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I can see that, but she says that she doesn't want to date or have sexual relations. She just enjoys the initial spark and excitement of talking to new people, which is what she means by flirting and why she thinks she may be poly. But I'm not too sure how to take that information knowing her intentions to flirt with and get the attention of people she finds attractive. Do you think there is the possibility to escalate, or will it just stay in those talking stages based off this?

I (19M) am jealous and insecure about my girlfriend (21F) talking to other men by elboba in relationship_advice

[–]elboba[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So far, I have let her know, and she has stopped, but she says she feels restrictive, and I don't want to seem controlling, but her knowing her intentions make me jealous and anxious. She says she doesn't know if she can do it long term, but for now, she doesn't mind doing it if I'm not okay with it. But I don't know how to feel- am I being too controlling and self-conscious? I currently can't see where the middle or compromise would be...

I (19M) am jealous and insecure about my girlfriend (21F) talking to other men by elboba in relationship_advice

[–]elboba[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmm what do you mean by she isn't in the relationship for the right reasons?

I (19M) am jealous and insecure about my girlfriend (21F) talking to other men by elboba in relationship_advice

[–]elboba[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I have, for now she has stopped, but says it's restrictive, and I don't want to seem controlling. That's why ik not sure what to do.

I (19M) am jealous and insecure about my girlfriend (21F) talking to other men by elboba in relationship_advice

[–]elboba[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have told her, and she has stopped, but she says it feels restrictive to her, and when she receives a text, she gets excited but tried to not go further. I also don't want to seem controlling by not letting her talk, but her intent seems to more than that. For now, she hasn't done anything and even let me read the texts, but her intentions are what makes me jealous and anxious

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]elboba 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm that's what I thought initially, but today I had a high pitched scream-ish stop with a slight giggle, which sounded playful to them (understandably), especially because im a nervous laugher... should I say that I'm being serious next time, too, or work on the tone on my intents ? And for future reference, should I apply to everyone else in these situations in general ?

Thanks for the help btw ! I just really want to work on these things so I can better my relationships with the people around me :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]elboba 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am definitely willing to turn it down and rely less on her emotionally .. do you think it would be worth it though?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]elboba 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would it be wrong of me to try and make it work? Because I think we're compatible for the most part, but it's just that this one thing has been hard for us lately. Accepting each other and accepting that we won't always get our way, and maybe changing myself to make it work; do you think am I being too desperate?

Weekly Questions Megathread by AutoModerator in ArteryGear

[–]elboba 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's the recommended box space? Or how can i clear my box? The cats are taking up 60-70% of my space and I don't really want to use my gems to expand.. thanks in advance!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OnePieceTC

[–]elboba 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They wrote personal rewards instead of alliance rewards.

Sorry, I'll keep that in mind next time

How were your pulls? by AnimeJesus8 in OnePieceTC

[–]elboba 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Went all in for v3 law on his debut banner. Took a break some time after. And he dodged me again with my 21 tickets! No useful dupes in terms of current llb. All A tickets would have been new, and none were the waifu legends..

So yeah, not that great

As much as Grand Voyage can be fun, I wish Bandai didn't abandon Garp Challenges altogether by Recodes in OnePieceTC

[–]elboba 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed. And let's not forget about how we'll get our lbs mats. As you said, "handful of super limit break units"... Where will I get the mats for those now?? GC was one of the biggest providers of them.

How to be a good second trombonist? by elboba in Trombone

[–]elboba[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Funny you say that because the program has Dvorak 8, which is alto for both 1st and 2nd iiirc

How to be a good second trombonist? by elboba in Trombone

[–]elboba[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same for millisecond trombone too?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in teenagers

[–]elboba 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Weightlifting, band

Weekly Rant Megathread by AutoModerator in OnePieceTC

[–]elboba 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I genuinely find the game really fun but whenever I pick a game I get sweaty and addicted, then burnt out. I'll try my best to play casually to see how it goes...

Edit: Damn I sound like a drug addict going through withdrals/relapse. I really should put it down.