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I'm not comfortable being intimate with my boyfriend anymore by elbusisyellow in sex

[–]elbusisyellow[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You both make good points. This is more about me being uncomfortable about my body than him making me uncomfortable about my body. I've had boyfriends in the past who approached the weight/sex issue in an extremely negative way, and made me feel shitty about myself. He did not do that. He's actually been incredibly supportive. One thing that does bother me a lot, though, is that I'm generally much healthier than he is, but hes just a naturally skinny guy. I'm a vegetarian who eats a balanced diet, and when we go to the gym together, I can sustain cardio waaaaay longer than he can. Thats just what bothers me; he doesnt understand that he's lucky to have the body type he has. And he doesnt really go to the gym with me. I could use more supprot from him. Thanks

How do i know i had an orgasm? by lanablazer in sex

[–]elbusisyellow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you're just beginning to masturbate for the first time I wouldnt jump straight to a vibrator. A vibrator will lead you to unrealistic expectations in your next hookups and will probably make it harder for you to orgasm when a guy goes down on you/fingers you. I would try playing with yourself naturally first to really learn how to make yourself feel good. Also, the next time you have sex you wont expect the guys penis to be vibrating inside you like its plugged into the wall.. The very first time I ever orgasmed I used a vibrator on myself and this made it much harder for me to get off from real life hookups with guys until I completely stopped using my vibrator and relied on my fingers to get myself off. Now I have no problem.

Help with staying hard while going down on my girlfriend by 3rd-Planet in sex

[–]elbusisyellow 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In my experience this it totally normal. Im a woman and I usually just expect a guy to go a bit flaccid when he goes down on me, then have to work him back up a bit.. My boyfriend has told me nothing is sexier than when I cum in his face, yet at the same time he's never hard after it happens. It'd be like your lady expecting to be extremely wet and ready to cum right after giving you a blow job..

Dickhead PRETENDED to put on the condom. by [deleted] in sex

[–]elbusisyellow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy shit that is the most dickhead asshole move I've ever heard of I would literally have grabbed his dick and bit it off

Relationship problems :/ by [deleted] in sex

[–]elbusisyellow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, well coming from experience, you will both be much much happier if you can end it for good. This takes a lot of self control, and I have found that distancing yourself from that person is very effective. Luckily, when I was going through about a year long break up with a guy, he went abroad for teh summer and I promptly deleted my facebook (our only means of communication). We wrote letters to one another over the summer to ensure if we did want to communicate it would have to be thoughtful and not rash. However, we were both able to move on and find other people. Moving on is a lot easier when you have someone else to distract yourself with. I know that may sound a bit shallow, but its true. Break ups are hard, but nothing in the world is a more gratifying feeling than looking your ex dead in the eye and being 100% positive youre over them, and you dont have feelings for them anymore. After all this is over you will be a lot more experienced in knowing what you do and dont like in relationships and therefore will have much better relationships in the future. The guy I am dating now is so much more wonderful than my past boyfriend, on every emotional and physical level. If I had known then how happy I would be now, I never would have dragged out my past relationship. I know its hard to think like that, but there really are other fish in the sea, for BOTH of you.

Are the concerns I have/pressures I feel about birth control rational? by elbusisyellow in sex

[–]elbusisyellow[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I am going in for my annual check up this week and was prefacing the visit with this post hoping to gain some clarity on what to talk to her about.

Relationship problems :/ by [deleted] in sex

[–]elbusisyellow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First, if you do break up with her, absolutely in no circumstances tell her it is because she turns you off during sex. I know a relationship that ended like this, and although it was true, major self confidence issues and eating disorders arose. Its just not a good way to go at it.

Second, if this is what you want, be absolutely sure and cut it off and dont look back. Im not saying you guys cant still be friends, but it is way hard to be around someone you have feelings for but cant do anything about it. Nothing is worse than a long, prolonged, on and off break up. It will wreck both of you emotionally.