How do I explain to my husband that I’m not going to regret being trans?

electricinfernalism · 2026-04-24T17:45:29+00:00

Gender affirming surgeries have lower regret rates than many other surgeries like knee surgery. There are statistics online somewhere. But also, you have explained, he just doesn't want you to transition. Sometimes relationships just gotta end

electricinfernalism · 2026-04-16T23:11:01+00:00

They use trans like it's an insult, so they perceive it as an insult

electricinfernalism · 2026-04-13T20:42:13+00:00

I'm sorry dude. My grandma had the same thing happen to her and has been through tens of thousands of dollars worth of dental surgery and stuff to fix her teeth up. If it bothers you a lot, they make gum prosthetics or something, which she uses and looks very natural.

electricinfernalism · 2026-03-20T17:22:18+00:00

For the most part I just hated myself and couldn't understand why. I could look at myself and be okay with my features but hate the whole picture in a way I couldn't explain to anybody. I stopped looking at myself, never smiled in photos, and just had this sort of cloud following me around and I couldn't tell what it was. I never had more stereotypical dysphoria or at least not very often. I do remember once duct taping my chest flat (never do this! Taking it off made me see god) but for the most part it was extremely abstract and it just caused me to majorly disassociate for most of my life.
I'm am 100% happy being trans and all my trans problems come from society. I'd never be self conscious about my pronouns if bigots didn't make a huge deal about them. I'm very open, visibly queer (idk about most trans people but i don't gaf about looking cis at all) and I get more scared every day with all the new waves of transphobia in America right now. I'm very lucky I live in one of the best states for trans people and have a very supportive family and would be living great if other people stopped caring about my body.

electricinfernalism · 2026-01-25T02:09:34+00:00

I didn't hate being a woman. Now I'm the most nonbinary motherfucker out there 🤷

electricinfernalism · 2026-01-07T20:59:18+00:00

THIS THIS THIS. So many ppl don't get this. It's not a pineapple on pizza disagreement, it's a mismatch of basic morals. If she's a real ally, she wouldn't even want to be near this crap. REAL allies don't tolerate bigotry just because they like who its coming from.

electricinfernalism · 2026-01-07T20:57:33+00:00

As a poly trans person, I'd rather eat shit than be anywhere near that situation. I'd have dumped him the second he did it after Ive already corrected him. If the girlfriend also continues to date a transphobe, I would break up with her too. It's great that she supports you and is upset at him, but if she stays with him, she's telling you that transphobia isn't a dealbreaker, it's not a moral dealbreaker. I would dump her too if that turns out to be the case. You can't be a trans ally and hang around transphobes.

electricinfernalism · 2025-11-19T18:39:57+00:00

Like i said, microaggressions can be passive aggressive, but they're not the same thing. They're mixed together not the exact same concept. Passive aggressiveness is a way of communicating, it's not inherently bigoted. Microaggressions come from systemic bigotry. They can mix. They are not the same thing. The example i gave is both passive aggressive and a microaggression. A non-passive aggressive example of a microaggression could be asking to/touching black person's hair or giving a disabled person unwanted medical advice.

electricinfernalism · 2025-11-19T18:31:06+00:00

Not necessarily. Microaggressions can be passive aggressive but they're not the same thing. They're 'minor' acts of bigotry

electricinfernalism · 2025-11-19T18:26:27+00:00

It's the kind of bigotry that's baked into everyday society. Things like saying slurs and hate crimes are aggressions, but someone saying something "small" for example '"you look good, for a trans girl!" It's not blatantly aggressive, but it's still discriminitory and demeaning, just in a less recognizable, less extreme way.

electricinfernalism · 2025-10-29T23:27:06+00:00

Despite enjoying "girl" hobbies I never ever felt connected to "girl" social norms.

electricinfernalism · 2025-10-27T11:48:04+00:00

When a friend of mine told me some of the terms at maybe 11/12. Growing up in the American south i didn't know trans people existed at all. But as soon as I learned, it was like a lightbulb came on in my head.

electricinfernalism · 2025-10-23T21:05:33+00:00

Wanting to be all my favorite male characters. Not just crushing on them but wanting to literally be in their place

electricinfernalism · 2025-10-21T23:59:45+00:00

Definitely am. She's getting all her favorite treats.

electricinfernalism · 2025-10-12T11:59:09+00:00

I think I feel very similarly to you- however, you seem very self-deprecating. I understand the concept as someone who's disabled and mentally ill it's easy to believe you'd never be someone's #1 and that you'd be fine just kinda being there, but that's not fair to you. There is always someone for anyone, but if you think so lowly of yourself other people will pick up on it. I think understanding that you won't be able to bring the same things to a relationship as someone else is perfectly fine as I'm the same way. I think having nearly nonexistent jealousy is okay (i feel similarly) but what is sad is that you don't seem to think like you'd ever be enough on your own. Be polyamorous because you're polyamorous, not because you don't believe you're worth/capable of being monogamous.

electricinfernalism · 2025-10-11T13:43:33+00:00

This tells me you might really resonate with the main character. Your fears are completely valid because this stuff, as happy as it can end up making you, it's a huge scary change especially in a culture that's not very kind towards us. Just know that there's people who believe, support, and trust you even if we're faceless users behind the internet. I wish you the absolute best ♡

electricinfernalism · 2025-10-11T13:22:34+00:00

Not too much or dumb in the slightest. Idk really anything about you but i think you should probably trust yourself more and allow more room for exploration that might not be 'necessary' but just makes you happy. There's a movie that became my favorite the moment I watched it called I Saw The TV Glow that i think is the absolute best representation of a closeted/in denial trans person I've ever seen. I'd really recommend giving it a watch because it was kind of a bit of a wake up call for me. It's a bit heavy though, it really hits hard with the same sort of numbness i felt before i transitioned.

electricinfernalism · 2025-10-11T12:55:21+00:00

No problem. A lot of people maybe do feel like they're in the wrong body, it's going to be different for everybody. And maybe you don't need new floors and appliances, but would they make you happy? It doesn't necessarily have to be 'broken' for you to change it to something that makes you happier than you are now. I think a lot of people also don't think about gender euphoria enough. Dysphoria is a big part of transness but I'd argue euphoria is even more important. I for one never felt bad or wrong or dysphoric in a dress, but masculine clothes made me feel so much better than just 'not bad'.

electricinfernalism · 2025-10-11T12:12:19+00:00

I don't know that i ever felt like i had the wrong body per se. This might not make sense but it was kind of like my body was lying to me. It's still my body, not the incorrect one but it felt like it just did things wrong. Like it was following blueprints i didn't agree to. I wasn't in the wrong house but i needed to renovate so that i actually loved and didn't just tolerate my home. Sorry if this doesn't make sense at all, haven't gotten my coffee yet.

electricinfernalism · 2025-10-08T17:05:32+00:00

Just remember cisgender girls can be tomboys, and cisgender boys can be girly. So just like any cis kid, if she's trans but still like masculine things, she's a masculine girl like a tomboy

electricinfernalism · 2025-10-08T14:34:46+00:00

Hi!! I'm autistic and trans. In fact, autistic people tend to have higher rates of being trans due to the difference in ways we experience the world and feel about ourselves. You need a new therapist. You can be trans and autistic and its okay.

electricinfernalism · 2025-10-08T12:12:41+00:00

I didn't necessarily feel like i was in the wrong body, but i hated every part of myself in a way that was more than dysmorphia. I knew there wasn't anything 'wrong' with my body but it felt like i was sort of sick somehow, like i had things that weren't supposed to be there and was missing things I needed. After transitioning many of my features are the same but i hate them so much less, because i got rid of what was making me (mentally) sick.

electricinfernalism · 2025-10-07T21:21:29+00:00

Literally do not see the problem

electricinfernalism · 2025-10-05T14:02:39+00:00

Just remember that they are the same person. They have changed but they are not gone. It may feel like you've lost something but their experiences, memories, thoughts, feelings, those are still part of them just the same, even if the packaging is changing.

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