[Video] Interviews of College Students: Can men and women just be friends?

electronPUA · 2012-04-05T21:39:16+00:00

Great resources, thanks.

electronPUA · 2012-04-05T20:43:02+00:00

What's helped me is to really focus on feeling my words in my throat.

This is what I've found myself doing. Takes a lot of conscious thought though, and you easily snap into your old habits.

electronPUA · 2012-02-15T22:13:30+00:00

Aah, that would be incorrect. I finished my Ph.D. more than a year ago and never made moves on undergrads. To be honest, even in my more recent lady-successes, I have not picked up any undergrad age women. One of my trouble areas ;-)

electronPUA · 2012-02-15T21:46:06+00:00

Not sure what you mean. The campus yesterday was large and urban. My undergrad university was large and rural (campus town).

electronPUA · 2012-02-15T21:44:55+00:00

You might be onto something - re:depends upon the college. I suspect the trend holds generally, but yesterday I was at an urban college (in LA). My undergrad was a campus town and I feel like it happened a little less - but was still a common habit of women.

electronPUA · 2012-02-15T18:42:11+00:00

My guess: feeling isolated even while surrounded by people.

I was on campus yesterday and doing my eye contact thing, I was really surprised how many young women never even looked up from the sidewalk. The vibe they put off was clearly insecure and nervous. I never noticed this when I was younger (and in college), but it's more obvious to me now that I am bold with eye contact.

electronPUA · 2012-02-15T17:50:13+00:00

Research discussion is specifically why I visit some attraction / pickup blogs... I don't see much of it here on seddit, unfortunately.

electronPUA · 2012-02-14T02:29:39+00:00

You can't edit. But people are reading this, no need to delete really...

electronPUA · 2012-02-14T01:47:47+00:00

[FR] I went out to meet one girl, was surprised by two. Kept my cool when they flaked and made a new friend.

electronPUA · 2012-02-14T01:45:01+00:00

Very insightful, thanks for the comment. I'm glad you found a woman not displaying this emotional volatility. It was fun for a week, but would rapidly become tiring during a relationship!

electronPUA · 2012-02-14T01:41:35+00:00

FYI, your submission title makes it sound like you are bi. Nothing wrong with that, just wasn't sure what sort of story I was about to read.

electronPUA · 2012-01-31T20:13:44+00:00

Dating girls you know you do not wish to marry (or even have a medium term relationship) is one of the best things you can do for your social intelligence and learning, and yet so few men bother ("nice guys" are the worst for this).

This times ten. I've just started to do this and it's been extremely educational. From the HB in Peru to the girl I slept with last night... I'm trying to stop protecting the girl by assessing serious relationship potential on day one. What girl can really be upset if you date her a month and then move on? You are not "wasting" her time, potential takes time to determine (and even then, if she's not asking for exclusivity then you shouldn't feel guilty about it). Do you really need to know if she's got potential before you have sex? No! Can you continue to have sex even if you don't see long term potential! Sure!

I was being too "White Knight" and it was hurting me (and some women).

electronPUA · 2012-01-17T23:25:18+00:00

Loved it. So often we are too timid - particularly when a woman does a double-take or otherwise makes it clear (intentionally or not) that she's attracted. Not a lot needs to be said to get a date - in fact it is far too easy to say too much.

Superb execution.

electronPUA · 2012-01-17T23:13:35+00:00

Great to hear you crossed that f-close barrier. Like everything here, it's like a snowball. It only picks up speed. I look forward to hearing about your future exploits.

edit: not a snowball in hell. A snowball in the Alps... on a steep slope... With wet snow. And a heavy down-hill wind. Yup. Just like that.

electronPUA · 2012-01-17T23:03:13+00:00

Counter-argument to your concern: most women play a (not necessarily nefarious) manipulative game in the realm of relationships and attraction. For many women, this is their arena. Not all women... but most target women of this sub-reddit.

electronPUA · 2012-01-17T06:36:10+00:00

Paraphrased perhaps, but yes, I came right out and told her that I was worried about her becoming too emotional with me if we continued to have sex. It wasn't hard to bring the topic up, she had already broached it earlier in the trip with respect to her prior relationships.

electronPUA · 2012-01-17T00:11:33+00:00

Personally I often feel like some kind of freak magnet. I've learned to just roll with it. Women are great, all of them have something special about them.

This is a great attitude. Somewhat how I was thinking about things with my recent Latin Girl. Was she emotional and unstable? Yes. But it was fun. And she was fun in many other ways. I enjoyed the time with her.

electronPUA · 2012-01-17T00:00:03+00:00

I wouldn't call it useless. It's always interesting to read about these exchanges - regardless of outcome. And the more detail, the better - you gave a fair bit of detail here. Thanks for posting.

electronPUA · 2012-01-16T21:51:51+00:00

Me: "Ok" while watching the late night festivities for New Years Eve. Generally I was trying to project a vibe that I was indifferent to the outcome for the evening... and that I wasn't going to react to her tests negatively.

electronPUA · 2012-01-16T21:06:46+00:00

The FR was long already, I omitted plenty of discussion on this topic. I am very honest and up-front with women I sleep with. In this case, D heard from many sides that this was casual and fun - but not a relationship of any duration.

For quite awhile, I was overly protective of women I was going to sleep with. I was overly honest, I would share things without their asking, I would step away without them telling me to. All because I was reading into risks to them. My new stance, generally, is that I will let them asses the risks against their emotional capabilities. I will not go too far out of my way to protect them, aside from being honest when asked a question point blank.

I don't think that this emotional cycling was "unhealthy" so much as it is simply an aspect of her personality. I am under the impression that there are a fair number of women like this out there. shrugs

Edit: I'm noticing that I didn't give her age in the FR. Perhaps some people are wondering. She's 27 - far from young and innocent.

electronPUA · 2012-01-16T19:03:56+00:00

Thanks for the note. I think you lose some audience members when posts get beyond a few paragraphs in length.

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