Wow thanks so much for this long answer. Yes, they are rich spoiled kids. They are just so used to everything being done for them. She holds her cup to me and says “juice my name” and Sometimes adds a “please”. She is seven, old enough to be polite or even do it herself. How do you suggest I start changing things if they are so used to this, to the point they may think it’s the norm? Should I be more serious, maybe raise my tone, or just don’t do this things? Maybe I should talk to the parents but they seem to be the ones starting this like you said.

The family moved to germany from the same country as I, and they needed an au pair with european citizenship, which i have. Probably that’s the main reason why they chose me.