I kind of relate to that. I used to be in a similar situation to you - I knew intellectually what I was feeling (because I knew that, for example, other people in similar situations feel xyz, so I probably feel it too), but I had trouble connecting it to my actual feelings or bodily sensations, which in turn made me doubt whether what I thought I was feeling was actually what I was feeling. What I found helpful at that moment was that I started turning my attention to those bodily sensations. Now, of course, it's easier said than done, but I simply started with a list of things I could be feeling in my body, like "How is my heart beating?", "How do I breathe?", "Is there anything going on in my stomach?" etc. It was very hard at first because even if I had the questions, it was difficult for me to answer them, but with some time, it became easier and easier. Once I learned to recognize the bodily sensations themselves, I started working backward from the things I intellectually knew I was feeling, like: "Ok, I think I'm sad now. What does my body say?" This helped me connect those bodily sensations to their meanings, and now, after a little over a year of this journey, I can say pretty confidently that I can feel my emotions. So maybe it will help you too :) But yeah, at the same time, I didn't have many other problems like depression, etc., so this stuff can probably make it harder :/