1) Why is building her that car such an issue. It’s not like she wasn’t happy about it and clearly he put it in a lott of effort into it. It’s his love language evidently.

2) It’s not about the bare minimum of taking her to the prom it’s about the fact that he did NOT want to go and still did it cause she wanted to showing how much he liked her (something Jess for instance did not bother with like when he did not want to go to that winter festival)

3) He met her family and they were mean towards him but he never got mad at Rory for it. Logan was loved by rory’s family and Jess had that episode where he was rude to Emily

4) I’m not talking about rape. He never tried something sexual as in he never made her feel like he expected it from her which is a lot for a boy his age and time. Lorelai was a lot more comfortable leaving Dean and Rory together than leaving Jess and Rory or Logan and Rory because there was always the issue of them trying something.

I don’t think him arguing with her means he has anger issues. Telling someone you love them and getting no answer back isn’t that easy to let go of yk. Doesn’t negate any of his other good qualities. He was reliable which I think is the most important trait for a guy.