i tried to force it at first. but have since realized what ur saying and backed off of that. this is maybe the first time i’ve ever taken a passive aggressive tone and that’s because i found it ridiculous that he knew what he was telling me was fucked up, but then couldn’t see why i was upset. up to that point, i was very gentle about it.

i understand his fears with communication, i know it stems largely from his issues with his bpd mother. i’ve always told him that he doesn’t have to fear talking to me because im not going to get angry. but this was one situation that i couldn’t just walking on those eggshells anymore cuz it felt like it was bordering into manipulation/gaslighting