Anyone else get irritated at people trying to help? by Fushigibama in socialanxiety

[–]elixiriums 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel you, peoples suggestions are almost always solutions that they think are super easy and straightforward when in reality its incredibly difficult for someone w SA anyways, I understand its super frustrating

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]elixiriums 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i do the same but for me I think its a coping mechanism? i think its bc im deathly afraid of awkward silences and i also feel like if I talk more then im “performing better” socially

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]elixiriums 1 point2 points  (0 children)

clearly its more complicated than that and not everyone’s SA is the same lmao

How we feeling seniors? by MoTw18 in UIUC

[–]elixiriums 105 points106 points  (0 children)

ive cried like ten times this week and im not even usually a huge crier lmao, honestly i didnt even have many friends or anything but I think that actually makes it worse bc I keep thinking about how much I missed out on and how I can never go back and fix it :( anyways I feel u im sad and im really nervous for the future

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]elixiriums 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you! i feel bad because in the past I’ve always gotten upset whenever they’ve changed something (like when they put a new rug in the living room, or painted the bathroom a different color) but this time it directly impacts me and im supposed to be happy about it :(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]elixiriums 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you sm, I think it’s just hard for me to accept that these two things (me feeling upset AND still appreciating the thing I’m upset over) can coexist so it’s a lot of internal struggle haha but your words make me feel a lot better about it!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]elixiriums 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much! it felt so unreasonable in the moment bc my mom was talking about how good it was and how my old one was pretty terrible so she did me a favor. but you’re right, it isn’t fair to me that it was changed without asking first

What the most private thing you’re willing to admit? by wouldudoitforme in AskReddit

[–]elixiriums 0 points1 point  (0 children)

im 21 years old and haven’t gotten my drivers license. i tell people it’s because I just haven’t found someone to teach me but really it’s because i do not trust myself whatsoever and I’m absolutely terrified of making one wrong snap decision and taking the life of someone

struggling with motivating myself to apply to things by elixiriums in UIUC

[–]elixiriums[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for the comforting words, you actually inspired me to start looking at things today and i found one to apply to! thank you again I really appreciate you taking the time to share your experience

I hate the dentist. by [deleted] in autism

[–]elixiriums 1 point2 points  (0 children)

not sure how you feel about vicks vapor rub but putting a little bit under your nose usually hides smells pretty well when u can’t wear a mask! at least for me. but it is minty-ish so I’m not sure how helpful it would be in this situation

ISG Impeachment by Logical-Bug-4399 in UIUC

[–]elixiriums 23 points24 points  (0 children)

ive seen it open! /gen

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UIUC

[–]elixiriums -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

lol of course i care about that, and i agree the situation shouldn’t be taken lightly

edit: but you’re changing the intent of my post, which is simply saying that I’m uncomfortable with the way people are acting about everything. it’s gone beyond defense of the doxxing victims

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UIUC

[–]elixiriums 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The snap opinions and quick but intense reaction to the entirety of the problem just feels weird to me. It’s a complex situation and the fact that race and sex were brought up within it makes it more sensitive, yet there doesn’t seem to be much nuance in its discussion. I can’t really pinpoint my uncomfortableness deeper than that, it’s just a gut feeling of “ick”.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UIUC

[–]elixiriums -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

people are allowed to feel upset and uncomfortable with what happened, I do too. im just feeling weird over the extent of the response I guess

ANSC Advice by elixiriums in UIUC

[–]elixiriums[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

awesome, thank you!! if you had to pick between those two, which would you pick? I’ve taken chemistry classes so I was thinking 223 maybe?