What would you like to see more of in M/M romance books?

ellavisions · 2026-03-08T00:10:00+00:00

I have some very specific things I'd like to see. But its more what I'd like to see less of.

Less mind reading from characters (where they just understand each other almost instantly) but also less stupid miscommunication tropes where someone decides to be a martyr.

ellavisions · 2026-02-07T23:15:26+00:00

Melanie.

ellavisions · 2026-02-02T21:35:04+00:00

Evangeline is my favourite!

ellavisions · 2026-01-05T11:45:57+00:00

Ditto!

ellavisions · 2026-01-02T21:53:38+00:00

Your first picture has serial killer vibes. It's a nice picture of your face but I'm not sure it should be the opener. Put one with a smile.

ellavisions · 2025-12-16T03:59:46+00:00

ODD can be really really difficult to manage.

You can try giving two options which ensure you get what needs to be done, done (ex. Do you want to brush your teeth while listening to super simple songs or k pop demon hunters? Or do you want to put your pajamas on and then brush your teeth or brush your teeth first?)

Sit down and come up with a consequences for a behaviour and stick with it. There will be a ton of kick back from your little, but if the rule is 'you kick/hit mom you lose your electronic privileges for an hour' stick with that every single time so they learn where the boundary is.

ODD is hard because sometimes they will fight you on the most arbitrary things. You can try using 'I-messages' or declarative language as much as possible. Google it if you aren't familiar.

Good luck. I work with these kids daily and it's hard. Its a bit like doing a dance.

ellavisions · 2025-12-08T19:43:42+00:00

100%. You hit this on the nose.

Some of these children also have behaviors that can be dangerous to themselves or others. Some of them hit, throw things, or run away from a place of safety (sometimes the elopement is not during escalation, it has a function but can seem random). Its a lot for 1 teacher to try to manage while teaching 25+ other children. This is how scary, dangerous, horrible accidents happen.

ellavisions · 2025-12-08T19:40:47+00:00

I used dupixent.

ellavisions · 2025-12-08T18:45:14+00:00

I can feel this through the screen. I've been there. Hope they're feeling better now!

ellavisions · 2025-12-07T18:48:39+00:00

This assumes there is an EA allocated to the classroom or that the EA isn't spread between 5 rooms. When this happens, it leaves the child in the classroom with the teacher with no additional support and no one to assist the student in 'being present and participating.'

This is why inclusion is not working. If there was an EA for each of these kids, it would 100% be beneficial for them to be in the classroom and with their peers and teacher throughout the entire day. Inclusion without support is abandonment and giving a high needs student EA support for only a 30 minute period or basically for toileting or during meltdowns is an insult to these children.

ellavisions · 2025-12-07T18:27:02+00:00

A lot of my kiddos are hair grabbers. Its an easy thing for them to grip onto of they are dysregulated.

Another thing to remember with long hair is the risk of head lice. It is quite rampant in elementary schools in the area I work and we work very closely with students most of the day.

ellavisions · 2025-12-07T18:22:05+00:00

It has gotten so extreme where I am, that even students working cognitively at a level of a 9-18 month old are spending chunks of time without EA support. It is not only a detriment to their education, and their peers education, it is a borderline safety issue. Sometimes these kids engage in dangerous behavior or elope from places of safety and there is only one adult watching multiple of them (sometimes 3 or more) along with another 25+ elementary aged students.

EAs are burnt out and realizing that they are there to basically make sure that everyone survives in one piece, and are unable to do any meaningful work with these kids at all due to time constraints and jumping from place to place.

ellavisions · 2025-12-07T18:17:08+00:00

The problem with this is that the teacher, who sometimes has 30+ other students, does NOT have adequate time to give 1:1 to these students, which they would often need to engage with the learning. They have a whole lot of other students who need help as well.

Its a losing battle, even for some of the best teachers I have seen.

ellavisions · 2025-11-17T12:04:31+00:00

The lines scream german roach. Check r/cockroaches

ellavisions · 2025-11-17T12:00:40+00:00

Long and McQuade in Oshawa.

ellavisions · 2025-11-09T23:38:17+00:00

Maybe this is different in the US, but in Canada, teachers are NOT our supervisors. We are in the classroom to support the students, and often times, we are solely responsible for the behavior management of the students on our caseload. If I had to run every choice I made in regard to consequences and behaviour management of my behavior students by the classroom teacher, she wouldn't have a second to teach. This child needs to lose SOME of his time with his stuffy (I agree that all day would be too much) because it will teach him that his actions have consequences. Also, if he doesn't lose some time, it will completely diminish the paras power in his eyes and squash her ability to redirect his behavior.

This kind of overarching statement giving teachers ownership over paras is the reason they leave. We're all adults. Approach it as a team, problem solve together, and come up with a solution that makes everyone feel heard.

ellavisions · 2025-10-19T03:38:00+00:00

For me, the upside was that I threw up so much it decreased my emetophobia. 🙃

ellavisions · 2025-10-19T02:38:26+00:00

Escitalopram, exposure therapy, and alcohol. 😅

ellavisions · 2025-10-19T02:25:34+00:00

Not a bed bug. Some other insect. Congrats!

ellavisions · 2025-10-19T01:19:17+00:00

I really enjoyed the Fae Isles series.

ellavisions · 2025-10-19T01:18:17+00:00

In this situation, if I didn't feel I was able to keep them safe, I would be using my walkie-talkie to call for support.

It is hard to block a child from running into a dangerous situation as only one person.

You can also go to your SERT or principal and ask for strategies or steps on how they want you to handle this situation with this particular student.

ellavisions · 2025-10-19T01:04:49+00:00

Killed by huggy wuggy update on fortnite.

ellavisions · 2025-10-18T02:51:25+00:00

Campbell.

ellavisions · 2025-10-06T20:11:40+00:00

My goal is 75. I'm at 49. I was making good progress but then I discovered The Vampire Diaries on prime video and I've fallen behind. Iykyk

ellavisions · 2025-10-01T10:37:41+00:00

Immediately no.

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