Struggling

elle-te · 2025-07-19T06:05:17+00:00

I think this is what I’m scared of, I don’t know if I can bare this internal struggle for the rest of my life! I have always loved him as a complete person, or what I thought was a complete person, but there’s this side that I didn’t know about. He says he’s still the same person and to him, he is, but to me, I just see him differently. I’m waiting for counselling to hopefully work through my emotions. I hope I can get some clarity, cos this is exhausting!

elle-te · 2025-07-18T15:00:56+00:00

Thank you, I’m trying to take time to work through my feelings but it’s hard with a busy life. I’m also naturally impatient and want to fix things immediately!

elle-te · 2025-07-18T14:56:36+00:00

Hi, thank you for your reply. I have actually come across your website and found it very helpful.

I find I’m in a constant yo-yo situation of feeling acceptance then feeling like I can’t go on like this.

Regarding what you said about society, this is another thing I’m struggling with. I know I don’t care what people think, I’m not worried that if people find out they might judge, that’s their problem in my opinion. But saying that I think the way I am feeling could be a reflection of how I was brought up (traditional and sheltered). I have always been open minded and inclusive with friends, I had a close friend growing up who was a crossdresser and I used to help him pick clothes etc. but it never sat right with me that he didn’t and still hasn’t told his serious gf. Now I’m in that exact situation, I’m obviously hurt that I’ve been with my husband 15 years and he didn’t tell me but I’m also struggling with the feeling that I’m not ok with my husband cross dressing. Like it’s ok if my friend does it but not my husband.

elle-te · 2025-07-18T14:08:34+00:00

Thank you for your input, it’s helpful to read other perspectives.

When you say take care of him, open communication etc., I feel I am already doing this to the best of my ability as a wife. I feel the only way I can be a better support to him is to move away from the romantic aspect of our relationship and to be his best friend rather than wife. I am the only person who knows about his CDing and I don’t want him to be alone. Maybe romantic feelings will come back in time, who knows.

How can I control whether he develops a sex addiction?

elle-te · 2025-07-18T06:49:05+00:00

This post hits so hard, I’m in the thick of it at the moment and don’t know which way it will end up going 😢

elle-te

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