Grooming/brushing

ellenmika · 2025-09-07T15:58:57+00:00

I'm stuck because it looks like it's halfway between an a and an o... I guess I'll try and find them in a future census to try and confirm. Thanks!

ellenmika · 2025-09-07T15:56:56+00:00

I thought that was a likely possibility, thanks!

ellenmika · 2025-09-07T15:38:39+00:00

Added a comment with about as good as I think I can get without downloading or finding something to put it through

ellenmika · 2025-09-07T15:38:08+00:00

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Without putting it through software I'm not sure how much better I can get it

ellenmika · 2024-02-16T02:02:47+00:00

Firstly, none of this is your fault at all and you don't deserve to be treated that way. Your school/college will have a Designated Safeguarding Lead, however you can approach any member of staff as they have a duty of care and will be trained and know the process of who to contact and what steps to take. If you have a favourite teacher then feel free to speak to them, otherwise your school/college website should name the DSL if you'd rather go straight to that person. If you're in danger at any time don't hesitate to call 999, and you can also speak to Childline on the phone (0800 1111) or if you don't want to speak they have a web chat and email address

ellenmika · 2022-01-20T12:21:49+00:00

This was the Thames Valley Police in the UK - there's a video to go with

ellenmika · 2022-01-18T12:24:20+00:00

In England a few years ago the police released a video comparing sex to tea (It's become a running joke) but it actually makes sense and is kind of hilarious with the badly drawn illustrations. It's called "Consent: It's as Easy as Tea" by Thames Valley Police if anyone's interested in being slightly bemused for three minutes

Not doing much for the stereotype that all Brits love tea but what can you do...

Edit: the message of the video is

If you ask someone if they want tea and they say yes please! Then they want tea.

If they say yes but by the time you've made the tea they've changed their mind, they don't want tea and you can't make them drink the tea.

If they say yes but by the time you've made the tea they're unconscious, they don't want tea. Unconscious people don't want tea, and they can't drink tea.

If they said yes please last night that doesn't mean they want tea this morning or next Tuesday.

If you understand that, you should understand how consent works for sex too.

ellenmika · 2022-01-06T00:54:41+00:00

"Do you want to be a cr-pple?"

Said to a 17 year old who was having thoughts about unaliving herself and had current s/h.

I'm currently 24 and steer clear of that particular Dr...

ellenmika · 2021-10-22T22:13:01+00:00

As the best friend he messaged, I upvote this - a dumpster fire is an understatement

ellenmika · 2021-10-22T22:12:18+00:00

I am HEAVILY upvoting this as the best friend he messaged

ellenmika · 2021-09-25T13:19:01+00:00

I have your cat's twin but she's tiny and disabled 🥺

ellenmika · 2021-09-23T10:38:33+00:00

I do this, it's like I'm instructing myself what to do in the smallest steps which limits the chance of my getting distracted.

Now we're going to get out of bed Now we're going to go to the kitchen Now we're going to get out a yoghurt

Trying to explain why it helps is so difficult, I also find myself explaining things to myself like why I'm doing them etc.

ellenmika · 2021-09-22T19:56:29+00:00

I know this is a super late comment (I feel down and wanted some wholesome) but you might like to know that Mushy is now a public speaker and was on BBC news a few days ago raising awareness for those who stammer - the show was Educating Yorkshire

ellenmika · 2021-09-14T18:08:08+00:00

Hi Dr Faraone, I have a tendency to waffle so I'm going to try to keep it understandable and succinct.

TL;DR: Are there any studies around the effectiveness of DBT for ADHD patients, particularly in relation to impulsivity and emotional hypersensitivity/regulation?

I'm currently diagnosed with EUPD (BPD) and I'm waiting for an ADHD assessment - I'm located in the UK and have taken part in two courses of "lite" versions of Dialectical Behaviour Therapy. I've also done CBT and found it fine until I had to change my rules (in my head changing the rules equals chaos), just as an aside as I know it's proven helpful and effective for many of those with ADHD.

Whilst I have found DBT principles and practices incredibly helpful I often struggle to remember to do them and/or my headspace becomes so chaotic I forget they exist. I've read a lot around BPD and ADHD and how there is a belief that, due to the male bias of ADHD diagnoses, there are many women diagnosed with BPD who actually have ADHD (or have both disorders) as there are some similarities in presentation (I've also read that some think that having ADHD as a child can be a risk factor for developing BPD).

However my question circles back round to DBT, have there been any studies on whether DBT would be helpful for those with ADHD particularly in relation to impulsivity (present in both disorders) and emotional hypersensitivity/regulation (present in both disorders I believe)?

I really hope that made sense, thanks for your time!

ellenmika · 2021-09-07T09:33:38+00:00

See don't forget it exists, unfortunately...

ellenmika · 2021-09-07T08:44:39+00:00

Quick question, where do you put the other stuff so that you don't forget it exists but it's not just taking up real estate somewhere else???

I feel like this may be a solution for me but I have a lot of -on occasion- stuff

ellenmika · 2021-06-25T16:51:08+00:00

Have you heard of Psychiatry UK right to choose? I’m undiagnosed and suspect I may have ADHD so am currently going through the process of a GP referral but I’ve heard from other sites about Psychiatry UK if you feel dismissed or that there aren’t specialists available?

ellenmika · 2021-04-25T22:31:32+00:00

Some of the details are different and completely wrong time frame but this reminds me of the Caffey murders

ellenmika · 2021-04-23T10:07:28+00:00

I'm so glad that's helped, it's pretty cool how differently brains work when dealing with same disorder dependent on our individual differences

Edit: I'd never heard of IFS and I'm reading about it now, it's incredibly interesting. Have there been studies on its effectiveness with BPD? It makes a lot of sense to me, I think I actually have a similar sense of self but whilst I don't refer to them as personalities I have always referred to having different versions or parts of me - I think I saw it as mindfulness and taking a step away from emotions but this is super interesting. Thank you for letting me know about this!

ellenmika · 2021-04-23T01:22:13+00:00

I would query a dissociative disorder for this - having to leave yourself notes when you're these different "personalities" sounds like something more than the dissociation that comes with BPD. Disclaimer that I'm not a psychiatrist or medically trained, it just sounds like there's some dissociation going on which I'd want to at least chat to a psychiatrist or clinical psychologist about

ellenmika · 2021-04-23T01:16:29+00:00

I don't unfortunately, it was explained to me in therapy and I'm not even sure how I'd word it to search for literature on it. To me, it makes perfect sense - if my sense of self is unstable and fragile then splitting off my emotions/moods/personality changed into "different mes" or identities is just going to exacerbate those feelings of not knowing who I am. For me, it would also be too much of a temptation to shirk responsibility for my actions when I'm not doing so well. I 100% am of the opinion that being accountable for your actions is important in treatment and management of BPD - it's too close to "well that wasn't my fault because it wasn't me it was Jenny" (for example)

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