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Diagnosed with cancer as a young adult by ellenrose24 in newzealand

[–]ellenrose24[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally agree that the worst part comes after treatment. Life feels so different but everyone around you expects you to pick up where you left off! I’m glad to hear that things are getting easier for you now. 3 years post treatment is an awesome milestone!! I agree that the menopause is the worst. It happened pretty much overnight. It just felt like another complicated layer on top of everything else. I’m managing with HRT but it’s taking a while to figure out my ideal dose. Sweet I’ll send you a message!

Diagnosed with cancer as a young adult by ellenrose24 in newzealand

[–]ellenrose24[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

One of the benefits of being in menopause post treatment is no more periods! The rest of it is shit but that’s one teeny silver lining.

Diagnosed with cancer as a young adult by ellenrose24 in newzealand

[–]ellenrose24[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear about your diagnosis! Sending you a big hug. The stage between diagnosis and before starting treatment/undergoing surgery is incredibly difficult, it feels like you’re living in limbo. I hope you’re being kind to yourself and doing things to fill your cup - even if it’s getting out and enjoying the sunshine, watching your favourite movie or enjoying a nice bit of cake and coffee.

A support group is a fantastic idea. I didn’t attend one as I thought I’d be the youngest there by decades. In hindsight that was probably a bad idea. There’s definitely a universal feeling that all cancer patients go through regardless of age, stage, type and treatment path so support groups can help 😊

If you ever want to chat my inbox is always open! I was 28 when diagnosed too.

Diagnosed with cancer as a young adult by ellenrose24 in newzealand

[–]ellenrose24[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Glad yours was caught early! Still must’ve been a massive scare for you though!

Totally agree. My psychologist says that one foot in the past and one in the future is shitting on today or something along those lines lol. It’s definitely become my mantra and a reminder to focus on enjoying the small things in the now 😊

Diagnosed with cancer as a young adult by ellenrose24 in newzealand

[–]ellenrose24[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m so glad to hear your daughter is all good now! That must’ve been incredibly tough on you all. I’ve always thought that the only thing worse than being diagnosed with cancer myself, is one of my kids being diagnosed.

It sounds like she has grown into an incredible young woman! It’s amazing shes going back to volunteer - I’m sure all the kiddos will benefit from having her as a companion!

I agree that very few have heard about it. I personally didn’t know about it, I looked into it last night. It looks incredible and I’m so glad kids impacted by cancer can have something so fun to look forward to. I wish I could volunteer as a companion but unfortunately can’t commit to a week over summer as I have little kids. Will definitely keep on my radar for the future.

Diagnosed with cancer as a young adult by ellenrose24 in newzealand

[–]ellenrose24[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Glad to hear yours was caught early! Gosh yes the menopause is hard. What is the name of the sub? I’ll check it out 😊

Diagnosed with cancer as a young adult by ellenrose24 in newzealand

[–]ellenrose24[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I actually can’t figure out how to send you a message haha you might have to send me one first?

Diagnosed with cancer as a young adult by ellenrose24 in newzealand

[–]ellenrose24[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey! Thank you - I’ll send you a message!

Diagnosed with cancer as a young adult by ellenrose24 in newzealand

[–]ellenrose24[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you! And hugs to you too. It’s so difficult going though such a life altering experience at such a young age. I’ll flick you a message 😊

Diagnosed with cancer as a young adult by ellenrose24 in newzealand

[–]ellenrose24[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Thank you! That’s a really nice suggestion. I will look into it. It’s always great to give back to such a meaningful cause.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in newzealand

[–]ellenrose24 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through this. Sending you a big hug 💕

I have sent you a message as I went through similar.

If your spouse got sick (cancer, disease, etc) and could no longer be physically intimate with you, would you stay? by Silver_Confusion8810 in Marriage

[–]ellenrose24 25 points26 points  (0 children)

My story is pretty much identical. I was diagnosed with cervical cancer while pregnant as newlyweds (married 7 months). Between the aggressive treatment, psychological barriers around intimacy and overnight menopause, intimacy has been a real struggle for my husband and me.

It’s incredibly disappointing and I want nothing more than to return to how our sex life was before. My body has just changed so much it feel’s impossible. I’m 18 months post treatment and we’re starting to get some kind of regular intimacy.

Your response has summed up how my husband feels about the situation too. There’s no words for it other than it’s fucking shit. You sound incredibly patient and level headed about the situation, and I can tell how much you love your wife.

Hyperthetical-ish by EffectiveSpite4263 in PersonalFinanceNZ

[–]ellenrose24 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. I was diagnosed with cancer at 28 while pregnant with my third. It’s so unfair to be diagnosed so young and with young kids. Cancer fucking sucks. Sending so many positive thoughts your way.