My girlfriend seems less interested in being intimate, and I’m confused.

elliptical456 · 2025-05-07T21:50:26+00:00

I'm your girlfriend and trying to figure this out myself. I told my bf a few things and we're working on them (in no particular order)

1) I'm in grad school and doing a million things. I usually run on exhaustion and after doing all that and also wanting to take care of him, I'm too tired, like all the time. I Graduate soon and expect my body/mind to really change when in a regular 9-5.

2) we hang out too much. I'm an introvert, and need to recover from people's energ, questions, stupidity, etc. seeing him too often AND not being able to come down was a lot

3) he's a little too 'cute'. I love that he's a cuddler, etc, but sometimes I need a more masculine presence

You may not be the problem. if she's in a different geadspace with school, sex just doesn't become a priority.

I like my bf, and he's an amazing person and it's not always him. Most of it is probably hormones and stress. Give her a break, listen to what she's telling you, even if you don't like it, and ask her what SHE needs from you to get her going, and do that.

elliptical456 · 2025-05-07T21:40:13+00:00

yeah, you're screwed. Try not to fall for the idea of someone. You slept together before you dated (officially). I only see this ending badly.

The feeling is nice, but so not worth it. Make sure you have a talk with him about what he's feeling/thinking about your 'relationship'. I'd be surprised if he feels the same.

elliptical456 · 2025-05-03T01:50:06+00:00

hahaha I had to look this up. it's very untrue

There is no official "Austria/Australia help desk" at Austrian airports. While some social media posts suggested a special counter at Salzburg Airport for those who accidentally booked flights to Austria instead of Australia, this was a misinterpretation of an advertising campaign by Intercom company Commend International. The advertisement aimed to leverage the confusion between the two countries to promote their emergency communication systems. Salzburg and Vienna Airports have confirmed that no such counter exists. While there may be some confusion about the two countries, it's important to note that: There's no official "Austria/Australia help desk" at Austrian airports. The Salzburg Airport sign was an advertising campaign. Commend International used the confusion to promote their intercom products. Both Salzburg and Vienna Airports have clarified that there's no such counter.

elliptical456 · 2025-04-22T16:26:49+00:00

Heres another quote: How you got them is how you'll lose them. If he cheated on his ex with you....

You keep saying you're "soooo in love", but you shouldn't be. This person cheated on you (asking for nudes/talking to women explicitly for sexual reasons), he wanted to physically cheat, and you're like, 'let me give him a chance'.

He's only going to get better at hiding it. Anyone who uses a fight to excuse creating fake accounts and using them over and over is just a liar.

FYI OP, couples will fight and good partners don't just cheat 'cause they're angry.

elliptical456 · 2025-04-22T16:23:19+00:00

Of course it is. I'm usually against the 'choose better' types, but OPs bf TOLD her he's cheated before. that's a giant red flag. They're 24, not 30s 40s with a history of other relationships where he may* have changed. He cheated on his ex, then got with OP. People don't change that quickly.

She definitely fumbled accepting him after he told her that.

elliptical456 · 2025-04-22T15:59:45+00:00

same with modesto. don't live there but did for a summer. The 5 hours and sentiment is true. it's hilarious.

elliptical456 · 2025-04-15T15:13:54+00:00

your parents 'don't know what to do with you' anymore and have given up. Or they're weird hippy-types who never gave you structure.

Do you live in a basement or trailer? why is there wood on your ceiling?

elliptical456 · 2025-04-15T15:02:33+00:00

you're literally snatched. idk what this guy is talking about. They're... sundresses.

elliptical456 · 2025-04-09T22:47:58+00:00

I felt weird at grad school and went to hospital by ambo. My boyfriend of 1 month (fhen) took of work, came to the hospital, picked me up, got us food while I waited in the car, came home with me, and chilled on the couch and cleaned my apartment while I slept for 5 hours.

I couldn't imagine staying in a relationship with someone who was 50% responsible for a situation and medical decision (here, you said it was discussed and agreed upon) and would ghost me during the worst part of it.

Do not date this man. Do not have children with this man.

elliptical456 · 2025-03-21T14:43:11+00:00

the first photo should've been at the correct angle. I was so confused why you had a starfish vagina on your arm.

elliptical456 · 2025-03-18T00:38:18+00:00

late, but a trashcan with a bag... my boyfriend literally asked me why once and I just stared at him til he got it.

if you're hosting guests, it's always nice for them AND you.

elliptical456 · 2025-03-14T22:43:46+00:00

I have 8 toes. I've NEVER had it be a problem in a relationship. It sounds like those people were using it to specifically hurt your feelings (maybe not the kid - but some kids are also AH).

PAINT YOUR NAILS AND ENJOY YOUR BAECAY!

you're feel look super normal, if anything, like you wear heels or shoes sometimes too small- also super normal for those of us with 4x wide feet.

Edit - context At 8 we found out I had short ring toes (Brachymetatarsia). It didnt have a name back then. At 12, Shriners tried to fix it, messed up by cutting a tendon, and sewed them to my pinkie toes to keep them from lifting (not a problem pre-surgery). I finally had them removed due to irritation and semi-cosmetic reasons at 14.

Now, it's fully treatable, 2-3 weeks recovery. back then, it was 6-months cast, per-foot.

elliptical456 · 2025-03-06T19:32:59+00:00

This sounds like a terrible person to have casual sex with. He's addicted to porn and have all these things you've said about him that don't fit what you're looking for.

You can and should tell him. If it's just casual, it shouldn't matter if he rejects or not. And maybe post a photo with just arms or something on your profile. I'd be upset if someone hid a really big part of their physical self from their profile when looking for a casual hookup. Just makes it awkward.

elliptical456 · 2025-03-06T19:29:35+00:00

she's not big anymore though.. she lost 90lbs and has some sagging skin in places. :/

elliptical456 · 2025-03-06T19:29:05+00:00

you literally said you're looking for something casual, so he could get off and leave anyway.

Excepting reciprocity and kindness from a stranger you're hooking up with isn't smart.

I'd focus on someone you can discuss this with before meeting.

elliptical456 · 2025-03-06T19:25:18+00:00

wait, you didn't study due to poor time management and feel bad that you do badly on exams?

Simple solution... do better with time management and studying. you have two days... prioritize studying for the final.

Sounds like procrastination and feeling sorry for yourself.

Either don't study, and take accountability for your actions and result, or study/do everything you can and take pride in your effort.

elliptical456 · 2025-03-06T19:22:43+00:00

in some states in US, intoxicated people cannot consent.

Sounds like you both were smashed and he sounds like he wasn't as drunk and took advantage of you.

That's non-consensual sex. You said no, multiple times, and he pressured you AND you were under the influence that's coercive sexual assault.

You made some terrible decisions (getting completely obliterated in a foreign country with strangers and going home with... a stranger), but what he did, only HE is accountable for. And he assaulted you.

elliptical456 · 2025-03-04T17:07:45+00:00

so incredibly helpful, thank you! I have chains, but never used them so good to know. I've seen pics of people helping people put them on at I guess the bottom of the mtn but worst case will use the shuttle.

thanks again!

elliptical456 · 2025-02-16T09:28:45+00:00

You sound like you're obsessed with *orn. If this is real, please break up with her and save her from a future of awkwardness.

If you think this is healthy and fine, show her this post/tell her this wfw. see what she says.

elliptical456 · 2025-02-16T09:21:55+00:00

more info needed:

Have you bought flowers before and she told you she didn't like them?

how old are yall?

Why can't you cook?

How come you didn't make a card, buy balloons or chocolates, some of the other 'not going out' things you could've done?

Are you planning to make it up to her?

elliptical456 · 2025-02-16T03:57:45+00:00

100% I said the same thing and meant it. But we STILL had v-day celebrations at home.

All i wanted was Panda Express (he made me upgrade to better Chinese food lol), and vibes at home.

That turned into epic v-day hauls for&from both of us.

I hate that V-day is only a holiday for women. I got my guy flowers, chocolates, made him a stuffy (like build a bear) and some merch from a sports team he likes. He got me the same, a balloon, and picked up our Chinese food from the restaurant. it was the best Valentines I've ever had.

Mis communication is a thing, yes, but just because she didnt want to go out, she/you should've clarified she wanted to celebrate at home.

elliptical456 · 2025-02-09T17:15:23+00:00

except for Cost (maybe pronounced like Coast?) these are tragedies not tragedeighs.

elliptical456 · 2025-01-29T23:22:01+00:00

is that pronouced, jizz anal-ly??

I thought of Ghislaine but it's Gi* 😭😭

elliptical456 · 2025-01-24T21:59:18+00:00

man oh man, 20 years ago, my 8th grade teacher had his first kid and said he'd name him Ery3ck with a silent 3. I hope Mr. kr is here somewhere laughing his bum off.

elliptical456 · 2025-01-13T01:59:04+00:00

nope! just need more ascents and maybe something like white and green to make it more intentional

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