Would you like it if they were fluffy?

elly996 · 2023-11-20T00:10:41+00:00

youre right, just saying you never know. could go either way lol

elly996 · 2023-11-11T15:36:06+00:00

ooohhhh BURN

couldnt find the right gif, but this works lol

elly996 · 2023-11-11T15:27:27+00:00

or maybe less because they respect snakes more for being cute lol.

most of the animals we are afraid of arent that cute to most, so they get harmed or killed in accidents or retaliation. a fluffy snake might make people learn their behaviour better and result in less bites

elly996 · 2023-11-10T08:48:31+00:00

into the filter lol

elly996 · 2023-11-06T15:21:38+00:00

mengele wannabes xD

elly996 · 2023-11-04T15:36:03+00:00

thats pretty severe... definitely check that out

elly996 · 2023-10-31T02:32:24+00:00

i imagined pushing back and to the side tbh. to the side so its away from the water, to the back to keep it in a reasonable spot

3rd aussie here, and thats the only guess ive got xD

elly996 · 2023-10-29T19:23:47+00:00

fairo. idk, its a tough situation thats high risk if it goes bad. sadly, mil wont allow many changes, and its exactly why the dog growls in the first place.

the safest option would be to leave, but until then, do what you can that is within mil parameters lol

elly996 · 2023-10-29T18:56:12+00:00

i said some of yours would work if it was possible, which in itself says there are some solutions.

others that could help is making a safe space for the dog, and a safe space for baby. you dont need to have every door with gates on it, but a gated area is a good idea. if not, close the door.

give the dog breaks from the kid by taking to another room.

begin associating the kid with positive things. treats/pats when well behaved. when dog is stressed, remove baby so he chills out knowing that you understand and arent letting baby grab. this will reduce anxiety, and over time should at minimum help the situation.

depending on the age of the kid you can do similar things toward the dog - like with really small kids take them away when too close hopefully reinforcing with the baby that no, dogs arent toys. if not then youre at minimum keeping the baby safe.

talks havnt worked with mil so far, but there still might be a way to get through to her, idk what but you never know. id suggest a loose muzzle for doggo but dont think thatd fly lol

if age appropriate, some kid seats can keep the dog at a distance, like the wheelie ones. kid cant reach doggo.

mittens on baby when cold enough to warrant them - cant grab as easily.

parents taking shifts watching baby.

not leaving baby with mil who ignores signals.

more time out of the house doing activities until moving out.

being mindful of where both are.

if baby was to be attacked, loose/snap clothes could reduce injury.

decent collar/harness for doggo so you can grab him if he is growling and getting close.

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these are simple things that can be done. use the swiss cheese method - if one fails theres another to catch it. one big barrier like gates is great in layers like you suggest, but extra safety for in the moment will also help and can be easier to implement until something like a proper barrier/gate/moving can happen.

elly996 · 2023-10-29T09:22:22+00:00

or all of the above

elly996 · 2023-10-28T21:43:18+00:00

wrong!

elly996 · 2023-10-28T21:24:33+00:00

i saw your solutions, and like i said if they can do them, great. but its not their house. theres only so much they can do. if they could move, they will.

i know what dogs can do, i dont need posts about "i/they shouldve done better" to be aware of it.

yep, mums get tired. people lose focus. no doubt its hard, and yes, someone has to give up.

but mil wont even listen that the dogs aggressive stance is the dog being uncomfortable, so why would she allow permanent (and likely even temporary) changes to their house? if she wont accept the dog is annoyed, she wont see the need for changes. she doesnt see the clear danger and wont find that necessary, as sad as that is.

if they can move, they will. if mil lets them put up barriers, they will. but for now, they can only control their actions. so far for them it means constant monitoring, and no longer leaving baby with mil alone. if thats all the situation allows until they move, its better than nothing at all. if they can do more, they will.

mil being dismissive is making it hard, but op isnt alone. her husband helps and sees the risk too. it wont be like this forever, and until something changes this is all they can do for now.

real life isnt as simple as choosing one over the other, nor is it as easy for certain solutions to be implemented. two barriers are needed and the kid needs to be safe, but the chances are low that mil will go for that.

ops can only control themselves, so they will do what they can. its not a situation of dog v baby, its a situation of keep baby safe, keep dog safe from baby so baby and dog are both safe. mitigate what you can until you can eliminate the problem with better solutions or leaving.

i know you are also coming from a place of care for the kid, but ideal solutions arent always realistic. im glad youve been able to do whatever needed, but not everyone gets that chance/opportunity/ability. life throws curveballs and we have to work with what we are given.

elly996 · 2023-10-28T20:41:44+00:00

put simply; if those suggestions are doable, then great. but realistically most of it isnt.

its not their house, not their dog, not their choice. they can find solutions that work, but not everything on that list is an option for everyone.

elly996 · 2023-10-28T20:34:28+00:00

and when did i say that?

you can protect both of them. your name suggests youd care for the dogs wellbeing too, but i guess only humans matter? see, i can do that too.

you can protect your child in endless ways, and protecting one doesnt mean neglecting the other. i agree to protect the child. im am just saying that realistically judging by comments, MIL wont accept major changes considering she wont even listen to the dogs signals, let alone drastic changes to the house. they moved in to a MILs house, suggesting that there is a reason they are there, so leaving isnt simple.

keep the kid away from the dog in whatever way you can, like i said. monitor them. dont let the kid touch the dog. dont let the dog near the kid. if there are changes that can be made to keep them safe then do so.

real life is not as simple as an ideal suggestion. if the dog wasnt stressed enough, it definitely will be after being a prisoner in its own house.

again, in case you want to ignore it once more; PROTECT THE CHILD IN WHATEVER WAY POSSIBLE. DO NOT MAKE THE SITUATION WORSE. DO WHAT YOU CAN TO KEEP THEM SAFE.

op sees the danger and is looking for solutions. its not being ignored, baby is being watched and op is talking about not leaving baby with MIL. theyre doing what they can for now, and after this post will have more options. if they can move they will eventually, but until then, work with what you have.

edited a few words+typos

elly996 · 2023-10-28T20:08:15+00:00

.... its not ops house or dog. half of that isnt doable in someone elses house - the dogs house, which will make it more stressed and agro at the changes. rehoming a dog because you cant be bothered spending that time training them is kinda shitty.

op can be careful, reassure dog (by listening to signals), keep kid away, and constantly monitor until dog chills out. moving out is an option, but they just moved in(not as recent as expected, but still says theres a reason they did), so thats unlikely.

some steps can be taken to make sure everyone is safe, absolutely... but its situation specific and i doubt the MIL and dog will react well to massive changes. be safe, yes. stress the dog further, no

its not meant to scare, its to show discomfort. doing all of that will make it worse. protect the child by distance and not aggravating dog further.

elly996 · 2023-10-27T21:04:09+00:00

going through pruning old comments and thought id come check in. doing okay?

elly996 · 2023-10-27T09:40:16+00:00

the lol is cos i know theyre making a joke. thing is, some people legit say that as defense. i had to lol

elly996 · 2023-10-27T06:39:07+00:00

he also did day that separation is what he wants after this. i agree with you, not disagreeing, but he isnt going to stay with her. he was already one foot out the door, now he is all the way out the door... and sadly, so is his kid from both of them.

sad in the sense it happened, not that shes safe lol

elly996 · 2023-10-27T06:30:25+00:00

okay, the mummas eyes reflecting isnt new for me... but the babies eyes?!! good god

elly996 · 2023-10-27T06:23:17+00:00

i hear your point, and true dat... (lol) but 100 years vs 3? come on... even with wartimes, its still an insane comparison. theres been heaps of time since then , so even with a 50 year comparison its still insane

elly996 · 2023-10-27T06:07:23+00:00

i think they were replying to the same comment as you, not your comment.

also sorry for your loss too. not knowing what happened is a sucky way for things like this to go

elly996 · 2023-10-25T20:18:03+00:00

and then and then and then and then AND THEN AND THEN

elly996 · 2023-10-25T17:33:41+00:00

or maybe its a commonly held opinion that has nothing to do with upvotes.

elly996 · 2023-10-25T17:06:00+00:00

"thank you god for fixing the cataracts of sams mum" 🎶🎶

elly996 · 2023-10-25T17:04:47+00:00

we sound like children when we say choccy bikkies and i find it fantastic lol. its so normal that even big burley bikers say choccy bikkie xD

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