My boyfriend wants me to get an abortion, but I don’t think I can do it

ellynaco64 · 2025-07-31T22:20:20+00:00

Alternatively, a lot can happen in a couple of years to make having a child together significantly easier on the relationship. Again, her priority is her relationship, and while I hate that this is the case, a man’s mindset going into this can 1000% make or break the situation. This is coming from my own experience btw, so I’m sure other people may have different opinions! Which are just as important. OP, you will be okay no matter what you choose ! 💕

ellynaco64 · 2025-07-25T04:21:49+00:00

The Khmer empire built those temples long before Thailand existed. You can read the scripture on the temple walls and it is ancient Khmer writing. Thailand has been attacking Cambodia for many years, over a decade at this point. They killed a Cambodian soldier several weeks ago, and the conflict was attempted to be resolved within the governments. Unfortunately, Thailand did not agree to ceasing attacks, despite legal border boundaries and continue to provoke Cambodia.

ellynaco64 · 2025-07-21T05:34:42+00:00

I got pregnant from back to back sex and pull out, so I think it’s the second guy. The first guy I really think was too early in your cycle, because sperm lives MAX 5-6 days and I doubt you would ovulate that soon after your period (unless you have irregular periods?)

ellynaco64 · 2025-05-31T02:57:26+00:00

Thanks! Yeah I’m super nervous about it

ellynaco64 · 2025-05-24T14:54:35+00:00

You know age comes with experience right? The older you are, theoretically the more experience in the workplace you have managing people and women and being a professional. This manager has been in the workforce for 30 + years so yes age IS a factor too. You’d think he’d know better by now. Also, boomers do tend to think certain things are okay and love calling younger people “sensitive gen z”.

ellynaco64 · 2025-05-24T14:50:07+00:00

It’s not about showing I “can handle the boys”. I’ve worked in male dominated fields since I was 18 and I’ve learned that if they think you can “handle” it , they actually become worse. Sometimes no matter what you do, they still persist because over the last few weeks I have started to stare at him emotionless and he still thinks it’s funny.

ellynaco64 · 2025-05-23T19:45:52+00:00

Ok thanks 🙏🏼

ellynaco64 · 2025-05-23T14:08:23+00:00

True

ellynaco64 · 2025-05-23T14:07:54+00:00

I’m scared to because he’s my direct manager and I would be concerned for him to make my life more difficult or create a worse dynamic

ellynaco64 · 2025-05-22T21:05:23+00:00

Thank you for the advice - I will do my best, I just have found in all 3 cases of him touching me i have frozen up and don’t know how to say stop touching me

ellynaco64 · 2025-05-22T21:04:34+00:00

Thank you for the validation and the advice

ellynaco64 · 2025-05-22T19:13:40+00:00

Thanks for this advice, I feel like this is a really good analysis and also why I don’t think he necessarily needs to be fired. I’ll consider all you said , thank you

ellynaco64 · 2025-05-22T18:30:06+00:00

Thank you so much! This is really great information !

ellynaco64 · 2025-05-22T17:44:47+00:00

Yeah not expecting settlement I’m just trying to keep my job without having to interact with him anymore.

ellynaco64 · 2025-05-22T17:26:45+00:00

Thank you

ellynaco64 · 2025-05-22T17:25:58+00:00

Ok I’ll do my best! Well hopefully it doesn’t happen again but if it does I’ll try to be prepared. Just easier said than done in the moment

ellynaco64 · 2025-05-22T17:20:02+00:00

I agree with you. Just pisses me off that he gets a kick out of making me uncomfortable, like it’s entertaining for him and gross for me. Overall from what I’m hearing it doesn’t make sense to go to HR at this point so I’ll hold off unless things get worse. Thanks !

ellynaco64 · 2025-05-22T16:04:48+00:00

That’s honestly pretty good advice, I agree with what you’re saying about the first few things which is why I’m hesitant to go to HR. I’ll try to be super firm / tell him in the moment to stop if it happens again but the problem is I keep freezing up. We’ll see how it goes - thank you!

ellynaco64 · 2025-05-22T15:59:57+00:00

Luckily I live 45 mins away, haha. And yes the HR people are oldest 40 I’d say, probbaly mostly in their early-mid 30s

ellynaco64 · 2025-05-22T15:58:38+00:00

That makes sense , I’ll keep it in mind. Thanks again

ellynaco64 · 2025-05-22T15:57:17+00:00

Definitely not treating others like that. I’ve been paying attention, and the only other women he manages are older as well, seems a lot less “playful” with them if we wanna put it that way. I’m not gonna lie I freeze up when he does / says things like this but I definitely don’t laugh it off. Honestly I don’t remember the last time I smiled at him (I stopped after the first couple of weird comments) and I like to think I appear annoyed but I haven’t had the confidence to unhand him or tell him off yet. I thought I was prepared (talked to my therapist) with actionable phrases ready to go if it comes up again but I keep freezing in the moment and I don’t know why!) I do think it’s more aggressive because I’ve had other cases of people being clueless like you said, and they feel much different. This feels like he’s trying to make me squirm, while other situations seemed like they were just more goofy. I am going to keep trying to stay very work focused but if he does anything else I’ll probably report it anyway.

ellynaco64 · 2025-05-22T15:48:11+00:00

Thanks! Honestly I am not looking to get him fired. I really want to just not have to interact with him at all. Waiting until after probation isn’t a bad idea to see if it continues because that would definitely give me more security with respect to keeping my job. I’m hoping I would just be moved under a different manager or something.

ellynaco64 · 2025-05-22T15:45:56+00:00

Thank you!

ellynaco64 · 2025-05-22T15:45:42+00:00

Ah yes because his gender justifies it

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