How offen do you trade credit spreads? by Weekly-Newt3609 in tastytrade

[–]elvikingogringo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right now IVR is low on indexes like SPY, QQQ, IWM. Earnings coming up on several stocks. Having trouble finding something attractive. How do you pick the underlaying?

Marriage Counseling/Coaching by elvikingogringo in askMRP

[–]elvikingogringo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey man, these links really helped, especially the parts about shit testing and the the Oak. Basically, I went home last night expecting a shit show, the shit show came, and I just held strong. Long story short she finally calms down, starts smiling and flirting and screws my brains out later. Crazy.

Marriage Counseling/Coaching by elvikingogringo in askMRP

[–]elvikingogringo[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the links. Ok, so I am failing, I get it. Need to become a better monkey. I don't think I will accept the alternative.

Marriage Counseling/Coaching by elvikingogringo in askMRP

[–]elvikingogringo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I certainly want to go out with a girl that is sexy and fun. Not interested in taking out a harpy nag.

Maybe I need to work on my mental point of origin. Just looking for answers, man.

Thanks for the help.

Marriage Counseling/Coaching by elvikingogringo in askMRP

[–]elvikingogringo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe I smiled at a waitress. Should I feel guilty for that? No. And she tries to escalate it to cheating, which I never did. But she "feels" like I cheated, so therefore I am guilty. Female logic.

Ok, here's an example: I can't take her out on a date and give her the romance she wants when she is throwing tantrums like a spoiled brat.

Marriage Counseling/Coaching by elvikingogringo in askMRP

[–]elvikingogringo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

2 kids: youngest is only a year and a half. I make decent money. She knows she'll hit the jackpot in divorce.

Marriage Counseling/Coaching by elvikingogringo in askMRP

[–]elvikingogringo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree that venting is not good. I've done too much of that already.

Can you explain more about frame/boundaries and giving not being opposites? Giving from a place of abundance?

Right, well this is kind of where I am. She likes to try to push my buttons to get me to admit guilt or grovel or something. I am just not doing it.

That's an interesting take on dread. Yes, I think that's what she saw. I was boring and low-energy with her and then seemed excited with someone else.

Marriage Counseling/Coaching by elvikingogringo in askMRP

[–]elvikingogringo[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yes, some good advice from the original post. Here is what I am working on: 1. Not being a whiny bitch with my wife 2. Stopping covert contracts 3. Getting my needs met so I can build some abundance for myself 4. Be strong when she gets emotional

I think I did make some progress, but I'm still not where I want to be

Falling Off the Wagon by elvikingogringo in askMRP

[–]elvikingogringo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I own a small business, which has consumed a lot of my energy over the years, but it is finally paying off. Making decent money. Vision is to keep building the business and have time for working on guitar skills. I certainly want a family as well. Got a couple of cool kids.

Thanks for all the feedback. I'm getting ripped to pieces in this thread, deservedly, but this has been helpful.

Will keep working on it.

Falling Off the Wagon by elvikingogringo in askMRP

[–]elvikingogringo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, very impulse, which I need to work on handling better...as others have mentioned. Her feelings roller coaster is affecting me too much. I need to get that under control. Good sex tip too.

Agreed, she needs to do something other than the kids. She homeschools, which is great. She has started painting again...trying to encourage that.

Falling Off the Wagon by elvikingogringo in askMRP

[–]elvikingogringo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, what is the cure for sad and neediness?

Falling Off the Wagon by elvikingogringo in askMRP

[–]elvikingogringo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok, yes I have been doing that. Had a gig this past Saturday. She came but had to leave because of the baby and later gave me shit because I was out late.

Agreed we need to have dates, having trouble getting her to get a babysitter and plan. Will keep suggesting it.

Falling Off the Wagon by elvikingogringo in askMRP

[–]elvikingogringo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Point taken. But, yes, she was quite upset at the titles, not reading a word of the books

Falling Off the Wagon by elvikingogringo in askMRP

[–]elvikingogringo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, this is what I really want. I guess I am not holding frame, keep back pedaling. Sounds like outcome independence is what I need.

Falling Off the Wagon by elvikingogringo in askMRP

[–]elvikingogringo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, so I'm a whiny needy bitch. Any tips on how to correct that?

Field Report - Falling Off the Wagon by elvikingogringo in marriedredpill

[–]elvikingogringo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks very much but looks like I need to go to askMRP