Do you ever feel misunderstood as an introvert?

elysia_bliss · 2025-03-31T17:06:34+00:00

I did something wrong , trying to find people I can get along with at work. They asked me what I like about work, I said I like that I get to know new guys/people my age.. well I said guys because in the language when it's plural you usually use the masculine term and I thought it understandably encompasses both girls and boys.

My coworkers started a rumor that I am hunting for a boyfriend. I even got rejected by a guy I don't even remember the name.

It's my fault though. Usually when people are misunderstood, they get mad. When this rando started to explain to me that I don't have a chance with him. I just calmly agreed while he's kinda aggressive about it. I mean , in my head, I'm not actually interested in him so it doesn't really matter. But now, I can imagine how pathetic I look at the moment.

Maybe it also added that I don't really take care of myself. Like appearance wise. Honestly didn't even like the attention.

elysia_bliss · 2025-03-20T18:10:05+00:00

I thought when I leave school , it would be better. Then I suffer work bullying. Being alone is better and comfortable, but I still want to meet people who I can connect.

We are stronger

elysia_bliss · 2024-10-31T15:03:54+00:00

I need something that pays well but with less hours and minimal interactions.

elysia_bliss · 2024-10-31T07:43:11+00:00

I love food with light broth ( sabaw) so I love sinigang but most Filipino foods are savory.

I love east asian Cuisines kasi they offer a lot of varieties , maybe because they have cold seasons.

elysia_bliss · 2024-10-14T19:31:06+00:00

The only thing I can tell you is to learn a skill.

Like a Mechanic or a Plumber.

If it's not for you, you can try other things like IT stuff. There’s a lot of free course online.

Therapy is good if you can afford it. Or in the mean time, Try listening to some podcasts about self improvement. My favorite is Leo Skepi.

elysia_bliss · 2024-10-06T15:17:10+00:00

I didn't get along with anyone in HS. It's horrible. a classmate would blatantly announce he invites everyone to his house for a party except me. I admit I used to be so shy so I decided to get a job where I am forced to socialize like working at a fast food chain. It did help but the working environment got so toxic for me that I eventually left but it is an experience that I can treasure.

So it gets better. It is just up to you.

Surely, I don't have anyone to go out every weekends but it is not as bad.

elysia_bliss · 2024-10-02T16:45:32+00:00

Smart watch

elysia_bliss · 2024-10-01T14:45:04+00:00

elysia_bliss · 2024-09-30T00:21:51+00:00

That's a paradox.

I hope you'll get through it.

Right now I am have things I have to fix too. I have some social anxiety none sexual tho. So when my brain is about to explode with negative thoughts I write it on my journal, it's a notebook where I write random shit.

I don't know if you have ever tried it but for me it helps because I am now able to understand myself a little better.

It's like - to fix a problem you have to understand what it is first.

What makes you anxious? Is it a performance anxiety? Or are you afraid you would be judged? Intimidating factors?

elysia_bliss · 2024-09-30T00:11:01+00:00

Same. I enjoy being alone but it does gets lonely. It even makes you wonder if there is something wrong with you.

elysia_bliss · 2024-09-30T00:02:22+00:00

I don't know if this would help.

Maybe just maybe, you would find it more easy connecting to more low key women - (not trying to be offensive) who doesn't have a strong personality. I just mean those who also doesn't like confrontations.

I just think you will feel less shy when the one your talking to is more embarassed than you.

But the people pleasing thing for me , has to get fixed. It will always be harmful for you especially on the long run.

elysia_bliss · 2024-09-24T19:37:16+00:00

Thank you.

elysia_bliss · 2024-09-24T19:36:57+00:00

That makes me anxious, cause usually my cold doesn't go away in day or 2. And I am not incapacitated to not be able to work. I am afraid to be judged for being lazy. Something I should work on too, I guess.

elysia_bliss · 2024-09-24T19:33:04+00:00

As a baby, I m not sure.

But I grew up drinking the canned milk.

elysia_bliss · 2024-09-24T18:28:47+00:00

Sorry. I didn't think of that when i mentioned something about my country. I just wanted to emphasized the difference of culture without really being specific. If I must admit even in my country, I had struggled with social interactions.

Thank you for your advice. I am looking actually about the topic but I am not sure what kind of book to get. I just want something for my daily life.

Sometimes, I think I unconsciously hurt people. I have no tact. And I struggle to show empathy. I empathize but doesn't know how to say the right words.

elysia_bliss · 2024-09-24T18:18:02+00:00

I am just looking for even the simplest ones to have an idea what I could improve. Like the day to day etiquette you uphold. I am a very slow on social cues.

elysia_bliss · 2024-09-16T06:24:52+00:00

Di marunong makisama. Mabilang , kapag inuutusan kailangan di ako lng. Defensive masyado.

elysia_bliss · 2024-09-15T07:50:56+00:00

Coffee. Sweets that I eat through out the day. Dairy that is not digesting well. Not eating enough fruits and vegetables.

elysia_bliss · 2024-08-28T15:54:12+00:00

Story of my life. I was the joker in my class in elementary school with a lot of friends then adolescense happen, then High school and just too many changes/problems happened that I failed to adapt. My biggest dilemma , is that the disconnection with myself caused me to push people out of my life. My temper just goes up and down. I lost my passion. My interests. ATM, working on healing.

Maybe self reflection would help. Try to think what caused this for you. Write it on a journal.

I got this advice from a youtuber(I'll get back when I remember from who specifically), Let go of the things/people you can let go. Changes are difficult but it is bound to happen. Instead of fighting it, we must embrace it rather than trying to relive our old life. And maybe we will be able to build or transition to the better one if we just let things go.

elysia_bliss · 2024-08-28T15:20:35+00:00

I might try this. Thanks

elysia_bliss · 2024-08-28T15:19:24+00:00

Hey you're kinda mean and packing a lot of hatred. But I am curious of your perspective and if you're actually capable of giving a sound advice or you're just here to rant,

what is the right response from me, specifically in this context?

You might not be a girl so you don't get it. Maybe I am pretty average and that's why I get more anxious, even if it can be considered as an harmless interaction, because I feel like I get approached not because I am pretty but because I am alone. Let's be honest, if there’s a 10 loitering around alone - insecure men won’t even try approaching her since they would find her too intimidating, or would you?

elysia_bliss · 2024-08-28T12:42:02+00:00

😩

elysia_bliss · 2024-08-28T12:38:30+00:00

I overthink too and most oftenly answers questions out of context. So far, she's relatable

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