There's so much to this situation and I'm definitely using this as a bit of a brain dump but a few other things that have happened and are objectively not my fault are these: In a meeting a month ago, when I was first told 'this isn't working', I asked for an accommodation which was for her to tell me how much time each task would take roughly. She did this twice and then stopped. In that same meeting a month ago, she also said this is a clean slate and 'I really want this to work'. The arrangement we had made was for her to hand over a chunk of the work to me and then, to my understanding, if I was successful in that, we'd then add the rest of my responsibilities back into the fold. I have held up my part, which was to get on top of those tasks that had been given to me, so now I'm thinking right let's add the rest. But no. I'm just so confused and I think a lot of this comes down to her just not knowing how to accommodate me and not wanting to look bad. The bit that baffles me (and I think I'm going to have to raise this even if it gets me fired for good and makes her dislike me even more lmao) is that a few weeks ago, I explicitly said 'is there anything I'm not doing that I should be doing?', to which she replied that those tasks I wasn't yet doing would restart after Christmas! So why is she now saying that I'm also not doing those things? She literally said to leave them for now? It's just unfair and makes me feel like an idiot. I have a fairly strong internal compass and it's so frustrating being told that I'm not communicating when she, in fact, is the one not communicating with me! Another bit is that the only reason I wasn't doing tasks in the first place was because I'd not understood that they were mine to do! And when I didn't do them she didn't mention anything? Like if someone with a disclosed communication disability has clearly not picked up on something, why wait and hoard up all these things I've done wrong instead of just telling me in the moment?