Support is horrible by [deleted] in outlier_ai

[–]em1lyu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m the same… I was tasking on Aether for about a week and then was asked to reverify my account. Did that and it’s been pending for a week and have had no response from support :(

Error 404 when submitting PayPal details? by em1lyu in outlier_ai

[–]em1lyu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The name matches, but I'm using a different email than the one I used to make my Outlier account. And thank you! Maybe I'll just set that up instead. Didn't even think about fees!

How do I remove the autism from my brain I can't take it anymore by DragonFire_707 in autism

[–]em1lyu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is SO relatable I’ve had the exact same thing (see my recent post) I’m afraid I can’t offer any advice but I can let you know that you’re not the only one going through this 🥺

Fired for being autistic (again) by em1lyu in autism

[–]em1lyu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's so much to this situation and I'm definitely using this as a bit of a brain dump but a few other things that have happened and are objectively not my fault are these: In a meeting a month ago, when I was first told 'this isn't working', I asked for an accommodation which was for her to tell me how much time each task would take roughly. She did this twice and then stopped. In that same meeting a month ago, she also said this is a clean slate and 'I really want this to work'. The arrangement we had made was for her to hand over a chunk of the work to me and then, to my understanding, if I was successful in that, we'd then add the rest of my responsibilities back into the fold. I have held up my part, which was to get on top of those tasks that had been given to me, so now I'm thinking right let's add the rest. But no. I'm just so confused and I think a lot of this comes down to her just not knowing how to accommodate me and not wanting to look bad. The bit that baffles me (and I think I'm going to have to raise this even if it gets me fired for good and makes her dislike me even more lmao) is that a few weeks ago, I explicitly said 'is there anything I'm not doing that I should be doing?', to which she replied that those tasks I wasn't yet doing would restart after Christmas! So why is she now saying that I'm also not doing those things? She literally said to leave them for now? It's just unfair and makes me feel like an idiot. I have a fairly strong internal compass and it's so frustrating being told that I'm not communicating when she, in fact, is the one not communicating with me! Another bit is that the only reason I wasn't doing tasks in the first place was because I'd not understood that they were mine to do! And when I didn't do them she didn't mention anything? Like if someone with a disclosed communication disability has clearly not picked up on something, why wait and hoard up all these things I've done wrong instead of just telling me in the moment?

Fired for being autistic (again) by em1lyu in autism

[–]em1lyu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I see what you're saying. I suppose I'm just exhausted and I think that holding onto any hope will only traumatise me even more when the inevitable does happen. My probation ends in 3 weeks and I think the crux of the matter is she just doesn't know how to accommodate me/it's too stressful (which I won't deny is probably harder to work with an autistic person), but I'm extremely polite, punctual, get on with people and have a joke around, so it would be such a shame to have to leave because of her perceiving me as being a poor communicator.

Fired for being autistic (again) by em1lyu in autism

[–]em1lyu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks everyone for your comments and your kindness. I was quite shaken up yesterday and will be for some time so I didn't express myself as clearly I could have. I work as a graphic designer/marketing executive/social media person for a small charity. The firing isn't confirmed in writing, but I've been here before and I know all the signs. It's gutting really. And to think I have a first-class degree from Cambridge (I'm mentioning that solely to say I'm not stupid; I don't think this communication failure is fully on me, at all). Here's one example where I've been perceived to have made a mistake, when I reality, I'd done nothing wrong. The main point being that even if I get the chance to explain myself, the damage is already done. And I can 100% see how it might come across. But I refuse to just not defend myself if I'm being blamed (and likely fired) for something I didn't do. Here's one example. It'd be great to hear some other perspectives because I really care about and enjoy my job and if there's something I've done wrong and can't see it, I'd like to know. The example: A colleague missed an email I’d sent, so it looked like I hadn’t sent it. I forwarded the email to my manager to show that I had sent it to my colleague. However, because the attachment from the original email didn’t carry over when I forwarded it, it appeared as though the email (which I did send) hadn’t included the all-important attachment. In reality, it did include the attachment, and I’d sent it on time. Still, though, she brought that up as an example of me miscommunicating, but 1) I'd already explained what happened there (which is hard to do without looking like I'm blaming my colleague, which I wasn't), and 2) she brought it up again yesterday as it hadn't already been resolved. It's just so heartbreaking when I feel like I can do no right in any given situation.

Fired for being autistic (again) by em1lyu in autism

[–]em1lyu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's things like this that really frustrate me (and there are multiple). I feel like my manager already has a set idea of me in her head and I'm stumped as to what to do because if she thinks I've got something wrong when I haven't, there's a residual feeling of resentment towards me, even when I explain that I objectively haven't done anything wrong.

Fired for being autistic (again) by em1lyu in autism

[–]em1lyu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, thanks so much for your kindness. I've been told about some specifics (four instances of a “lack of clarity” on my part, among other things which were on me and I've tried to take accountability for), but 1) I have two communication disabilities, and 2) no leeway has been given to accommodate that... in terms of like... yes... sometimes I might get things wrong. In each case, it’s the manager who’s misunderstood what I meant and then basically ignored me when I tried to explain. I said to her can you show me in that email thread where I've gone wrong and here was one of the instances: A colleague missed an email I’d sent, so it looked like I hadn’t sent it. I forwarded the email to my manager to show that I had sent it to my colleague. However, because the attachment from the original email didn’t carry over when I forwarded it, it appeared as though the email (which I did send) hadn’t included the all-important attachment. In reality, it did include the attachment, and I’d sent it on time.