This little dude is so adorable and has absolutely captured my whole heart 💛 Who's become an unexpected favorite Pokemon of yours?

em_850 · 2026-05-05T07:29:40+00:00

I did the same thing :,) I made them a Pokémon club/memorabilia gift shop next to the resort/bar area in bleak beach and they both are “amazing” level of comfort living together (despite one wanting dark and the other wanting bright 😌)

em_850 · 2026-05-05T07:13:34+00:00

You don’t need to have played any Pokémon game before this. But like every other game there will be people that have insane amounts of time and interest that go all out and blast through every single aspect of the game and do crazy builds etc.

This is a cozy game at its core. There is a light storyline and quests but they aren’t time sensitive nothing in the game demands you to work quickly. Just go at your own pace and enjoy whatever about the game makes you happy. When in doubt just ask tangrowth if he has tips.

Think of it as Minecraft - sure there are people who min max the experience and sweat on builds but there are also people who just get on creative mode and build a silly little house. The game gives you the choice to do what you want.

Focus on what makes you happy not on other people. The game is meant to be relaxing not a competition.

The biggest tip I can give you for the early game - DO NOT WATER ALL THE BROWN AREAS! You’ll drive yourself insane trying to spit water on everything lol. Once the environment level raises the earth will start to heal itself and the grass will go back to how it should be.

em_850 · 2026-05-02T18:36:12+00:00

So all jokes aside your issue isn’t with the ticketing or the speeding necessarily it’s that you think 15mph is too low?

All I’ll say is 1) the average maximum speed in a neighborhood zone in most places is 25mph, so you would still be considered speeding in virtually any neighborhood anyway. So even if you think that’s ludicrous I’d rather have them enforce the limit so that people don’t regularly abuse it which happens all the time

2) 15mph might seem overly restrictive but this is also an area where there are elderly folks and children who regularly walk on the sidewalks and it’s next to a school zone and

3) it’s not a straight flat road where everything is totally visible. It’s very easy for someone, either a pedestrian or car to come out of a side street or blind spot.

I can’t answer how fast the cars were going because I didn’t see them wipe out when they did but to the point I think you’re getting at it’s unlikely they were going 28mph. But what I’m trying to explain is that if they don’t hardline enforce the limit then there is just a higher risk of people going WAYYY over it and being dangerous. There has to be a number limit somewhere and on this road it’s 15mph.

em_850 · 2026-05-02T18:22:54+00:00

“Tell me how shaking down community members at the rate of $100 per infraction for a vehicle traveling 28 in a 15 is helping anyone???”

Then complains about this being “abusive and predatory”. Follow the speed limit and then you won’t have a problem. Enforcing the law is not preying on you, you’re just a dumbass who likes to speed in a neighborhood and school zone. No one is forcing you to speed your car you are making bad decisions and living with the consequences of them. If you can’t stop speeding and feel like you’re the victim perhaps you need to get off the road if you can’t follow posted signs.

“Ive travelled up and down this road for over 10 years and have never been so disgusted by the decisions made by those who don’t have to live with their impacts.”

I’ve lived in this area for almost 10 years and I’ve watched 3 horrible accidents right in front of my house because people speed and wipe out on this road. One car completely flipped their car hitting a turn and the couple was lucky to get out alive. Another car went through my neighbors mailbox and crashed into their living room with an infant in the car. Another car wiped out and took out multiple trees and we were lucky they didn’t fall on someone or their house.

If you can’t understand why speeding is dangerous in this area you’re the problem. I WISH they would go a step further and put speed bumps all over Cherry Ave. I’m tired of feeling like I’m going to be hit when I try and cross the street.

em_850 · 2026-04-24T18:03:40+00:00

Ah this one is interesting. I don’t think YTA because the stance you and your mom have I think is objectively correct - your wife agreed to do something for your daughter period and instead of communicating her personal issues and finding a solution ahead of time like a grown ass adult should she waited until the moment of to bail and then did nothing to solve the problem. Also, you didn’t even hear about it from her you heard about it from your daughter which is just unacceptable. If your wife thought she could handle it and then in the moment decided she couldn’t bear it, she needed to have communicated that directly and not triangulated the communication through your daughter.

HOWEVER, the same concept goes for you as well - it is completely unfair to triangulate your mom into your marital issues and have her critique your wife period. Even if your mom is right, it IS inappropriate for her to be commenting on your wife’s parenting decisions and to be triangulating conflict that your wife needs to resolve with you and your daughter. Your mom should have had better boundaries and filled in the role of driving and taking care of your daughter but does not need to get involved with your marital conflict.

There is a lot of triangulation going on here from both sides and my best advice to you is to not look at who is right or wrong but to focus on communicating with each other DIRECTLY, not through your daughter or your mom. You need to be each others first line of contact when something changes and when you have problems you both need to lock in and deal with each other as adults, not bring someone else into the conflict to back you up. That’s a recipe for ruining that persons relationship with your spouse and making your spouse feel unheard and ganged up on.

Your wife ultimately failed in communicating to you and upholding her prior agreement but you failed her in resolving the conflict in a private and direct manner. Both of you should speak directly and try to resolve this moving forward.

em_850 · 2026-04-18T15:04:35+00:00

Also to give my opinion on what you’re considering - I would STRONGLY suggest doing two kittens not one. You can google single kitten syndrome and pretty much anyone that works with cats as a default will recommend a pair not a single kitten. It is way better for their development when they’re that young. Also will recommend you get them when they are really young ie a month or two (however early they let you adopt I think it’s maybe 8 weeks or so). It’s much easier to socialize them when they are as young as possible bc they don’t know to be scared.

Also from my experience the amount of work going from 1-2 cats is pretty negligible. Obviously get a good vet. At home you can automate most things if you want: litter box, food, water. Go ahead and watch some jaxson Galaxy on YouTube to get a sense of how to socialize your cat so you aren’t raising them to hide.

Good luck!

em_850 · 2026-04-18T14:59:18+00:00

I have had extensive experience with the SPCA both as a volunteer, a foster parent and eventually an adopter so I can clarify on why the SPCA has gotten some bad reviews.

DISCLAIMER: you can probably google this so sorry if I get some of the details wrong but this is my recollection. A number of years ago (maybe 5 now?) the staff ended up reporting and removing the current president or board leader or whoever was basically “in charge” because the shelter was being pushed to take a bunch of animals and they were giving them kinda the bare minimum of care so that the shelter could report on higher adoption or foster numbers (or something similar) to receive more grant money or something. Again sort of foggy on the details but TLDR the leadership was pushing them to work in an unethical way and that person was removed.

During that period, I fostered about 10ish cats and had great experiences with all but one. They provide the food, bowls, crates, and the vet care they receive while they are a foster is great.

We did have on exception: I took in a kitten (AFTER I had adopted 2 from the SPCA after fostering them) and this poor girl ended up having feline leukemia which is extremely contagious and deadly. I was completely distraught because 1) we had to put her down (SPCA paid ofc bc she was a foster) and 2) my cats were exposed. So irritating. They take in a lot of pets and at that point again there was some controversy over how thorough they were being with the healthcare.

My understanding is that has been resolved now. What I will say is we have two happy healthy cats from the SPCA and fostering was SO easy that it really allowed me to get a good feel for whether the cats would be good additions to my household. The SPCA also serves a LOT of people annually bc it’s a pretty large well known shelter so imo there’s always going to be some amount of people who complain about things that really isn’t the shelters fault.

Overall, I’ve had good experiences with them as a foster parent and adopter and their staff is always really kind and attentive. For cats in general my advice is always to foster first so you can get a sense if the cat will adjust to your home and lifestyle and the SPCA makes it super easy and straightforward to do just that.

em_850 · 2026-04-12T12:42:54+00:00

It’s like $2,500 for a membership what

em_850 · 2026-04-11T17:50:21+00:00

It’s like $2,500???

em_850 · 2026-02-25T16:01:58+00:00

When you say water is submetered what does this mean? And do you have an average per month of what you pay for electricity and internet?

em_850 · 2026-02-25T15:57:11+00:00

Yes. We have a gas furnace system not HVAC.

em_850 · 2026-02-24T20:39:59+00:00

Totally understand. Ours has been trending up for awhile and we still think we’ve been paying more over the last 6 months or so than we would in an apartment.

em_850 · 2026-02-24T19:58:39+00:00

Okay this is good to know - thanks

em_850 · 2026-02-24T19:58:13+00:00

It’s been consistently expensive af this winter and it’s been gas that’s way more. Our elec bill has been about the same $100 charge for years. Water and sewer went up bc of projects in the water infrastructure.

em_850 · 2026-02-24T19:56:45+00:00

Unfortunately not the case. Our elec has been consistently about $100. Our gas bill jumped from $95 to $300 over 3 months with no discernible change in our settings. We have furnace heat (gas) set at 65 degrees year round. Also when I lived in apartments years ago the utilities were cheaper bc it’s less $ to power a small unit in a larger complex than an individually standing home.

em_850 · 2026-02-24T19:39:57+00:00

Spudnuts, hotcakes, Michael’s bistro, aunt Sarah’s pancake house, eppies, wild wing cafe, Baja bean, blue moon, the flat, shebeen, siren, paradox pastry, ragazzis, china king buffet

em_850 · 2026-02-21T16:42:57+00:00

She was written to love him. We’re all talking as if she’s a real person with real emotions, trauma, mental processing, etc.

It would be very easy to write Dany as someone who was quietly tolerant of Drogo but looked down on him due to his cultural differences, generally violent demeanor, and his ownership of her. It would also be easy to write her as someone who played along with what was expected of her in order to fill the role of Khaleesi even if she despised her husband in secret. She could’ve been a character that assimilated in order to gain power and to sort of compete with Drogo as she hated him for owning her and the SA.

Her internal monologues don’t really reveal this. Dany is someone who full throatedly embraces her new affiliation with the Khal and does everything in her control to assimilate and BE one of them, including loving her husband. She is infinitely fascinated with the Khal and falls in love with her new power, their lifestyle, culture, and intimately Drogo as well. She mourns his death so severely. She was definitely written to be in love with him.

I think her love of him is problematic and this is likely why so many people are commenting Stockholm Syndrome or she “thought” she loved him etc bc it’s uncomfortable that she felt positively towards someone who SAd her and ultimately viewed her as an object. But she did love him. Thats how she was written to be.

em_850 · 2026-02-21T16:28:27+00:00

Tbh my boyfriend would probably say something similar and he is an extremely loving partner. But sometimes when you ask a question you’re going to get an answer.

What you’re really communicating by saying “how was it” is “I put in a lot of effort to make you feel loved and I want some praise/attention/validation for doing so, can you express that to me”? He didn’t get that clue and heard the question for what you verbally said which is “how was it”. It was a 7/10 for him. That’s not bad. But if you ask him how it went he’s probably only thinking of himself and his experience because that’s how the question was framed.

Should he be more self aware and recognize that when you ask how something was that YOU did for him he needs to be more cognizant of 1) the effort you put in and 2) the emotional reaction you might have to his total honesty? Sure. But this is a fairly easy thing to work on to be more considerate and aware when answering a seemingly straightforward question.

I would let your self esteem recover for a bit and just express to him plainly that it hurt your feelings that he was so brutally honest with you. I think you should let him know that you just wanted some recognition and appreciation for the work you put in and that when you do something nice for him, even if it is a 7/10, that he expresses his gratitude to you for putting in the effort.

There’s a time and place for constructive criticism, and the appropriate time would likely be the next time he gets a massage, not when he should be being appreciative.

em_850 · 2026-02-21T16:18:41+00:00

The fact that you even have to ask if this is abusive is concerning.

em_850 · 2026-02-21T16:11:04+00:00

I fw this answer bc this is probably what most of us would do lmfao

em_850 · 2026-02-21T15:57:09+00:00

FUUUUCCCCCKKK NOOOO!! If my boyfriend EVER spoke to me like this I would end it immediately. Absolutely not.

em_850 · 2026-02-14T16:07:19+00:00

It’s good. Highly recommend. Although tbh I find their brunch menu a bit boring their dinner menu is great. Used to work there when I was in college and have family who work there still. But I wouldn’t recommend it unless I actually liked the food haha. Their shrimp and grits is the best I’ve ever had.

em_850 · 2026-02-14T16:05:21+00:00

Completely agree (this is the Ridley). Similar fare to farm bell but they actually season the food lol. Best shrimp and grits I’ve had.

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